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Started by Shana A, May 18, 2012, 10:07:16 AM

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America in Transition

By Stephanie Gutmann from the May 2012 issue

http://spectator.org/archives/2012/05/18/america-in-transition

You get to be the sex you think you are (and everybody else has to acknowledge it).

I am used to surprises from the New York Times—a newspaper so far from me culturally and politically it might as well be a daily bulletin about life in a parallel universe—but last August I read a personal essay in the "Modern Love" space of the "Styles" section that really brought me up short. "My Husband is Now My Wife" (quite a tabloidy title for this genteel newspaper) was about the deeply ambivalent day the author escorted her husband to a hospital for surgery in which he would "take his first surgical step into womanhood."

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WELCOME TO THE Brave New World of "gender identity" versus stick-in-the-mud old "gender." This subjective aspect—the demand that the world recognize you as what you think you are, simply because you've decided you are—is new. It turns out law and theory to support this new definition have been proliferating quietly for quite some time as well.
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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AbraCadabra

Well that woman IS living in a parallel universe - at least from ours...

Axélle
PS: so if born with a birth-defect one best leaves things just as they are.
Enough has been said about that by now...
Some say: "Free sex ruins everything..."
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suzifrommd

Quote from: Axélle on May 18, 2012, 10:24:24 AM
Well that woman IS living in a parallel universe - at least from ours...

Yeah, it seems she sure hasn't gotten the whole "walk a mile in his shoes" thing down. I wonder how many trans people she actually has met and whether she spent any time talking to them.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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AbraCadabra

Quote from: agfrommd on May 18, 2012, 10:44:28 AM
Yeah, it seems she sure hasn't gotten the whole "walk a mile in his shoes" thing down. I wonder how many trans people she actually has met and whether she spent any time talking to them.

Ahhhh, you see "THEY (TS) ARE ALL AMONGST US..."- sneaky, eh.
And ALL try ever so hard to pass :)

I do.
Today I must have bridged that parallel universe by some shop assistant telling me about her baby teething and how she was still breast feeding. And ouch, she doesn't think she'll get used to those 'love bites'. Ever so sweet.
Had I told her that my breast pump it also biting me of late due to HRT/sore nipples (no love bites here) I sure would have caused some consternation in her universe too. As much as all the lewd looks I got from older men wondering why their wives could not show some leg as I did (just for a change). Come to think of it, it seems our fault entirely, passing so well and so discouraging them from learning about TS issues. Ever.

Axélle
Some say: "Free sex ruins everything..."
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suzifrommd

If people will tolerate one more post on the subject, I want to express what really hit a nerve about this article. When she asks "Is there such a thing as 'the sex of one's brain'?" It calls to mind recent discussions I've had with people I care about when I've told them I'm non-binary.

They are sympathetic and caring, listen to what I have to say. But I can tell that they're not sure whether to believe that a person can be mix-gendered. They understand what I mean, they're just not sure it can happen.

There's no way I can prove that some parts of myself are female and some male.  But as genderqueer folk, the "burden of proof" seems placed on us if we want people to accept us as we are.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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Butterflyhugs

I disliked the article so much I couldn't even finish it. Then I looked at the comments section and got exponentially more annoyed/slightly angry.
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