Getting Started

[Brooke777]

I have only recently, within the last 2 months, started coming out to people.  I am an MTF, married with one kid.  About 2 months ago I finally worked up the courage to tell my wife.  She was understandably shocked.  However, she has not taken the news to well.  She considers her husband to be dead.  We just started couples counseling, but I do not feel too confident as she keeps repeating the same thing "I am not a lesbian".  It hurts.  I thought that after 10 years of marriage our relationship was past the point of physical appearances.  On a brighter note, I told my parents last week and they are all supportive.  My father even said that no matter what, I will always be his...daughter.  That felt great.  I have spent my whole life trying to be the "man" they wanted to me to be.  I went into the military at 18 and did some extremely masculine jobs.  I worked primarily in the areas where women are not allowed.  That made them happy, but I was not.  I have not started HRT yet, but will at the end of July.  Right now, I am hoping to find some ladies who might be able to help me, help my wife.  Thank you for taking the time to read this.
-B

[Sephirah]

Welcome to the site, hon. *big hug*

Your experiences mirror those of a lot of people here, and we have folks from all walks of life who will, I'm sure, be only too happy to offer any help and advice they are able. Have a look around the forums, maybe run a few searches to find if there are things you want to know which have already been talked about. As you can see, we have a LOT of info to dig around in. If not, don't be scared to post specific questions you want advice and opinions on.

Most importantly though, relax and remember that you're among friends now. Make yourself at home. It's great to meet you.

[Brooke777]

Thanks Sephirah.  Just that little bit of support helps. At this point, I will take any support I can get.  It is quite lonely.

[Devlyn]

Hi Brooke, it's nice to meet you. You won't find nicer people than the crowd here. There is always someone here to talk to. Take a peek at our Rules and Terms Of  Service in the Announcements section, it's short and sweet. See you around the site, hugs, Devlyn

[Jamie D]

Brooke, welcome to Susan's Place.  We have a forum dedicated to "Significant Others."  Take a look at it.  Even better, let your wife know about it.

Best wishes

[kelly_aus]

Hi Brooke,

Thought I'd pop by and give you a warm, Aussie welcome to Susan's!

Hugs,
Kelly

[Cindy]

Hi Brooke,

Another welcome from the land down under. Do try to let your wife see the SO section, there are many remarkable SO who may help your wife follow what is going on

That said it is and will be a shock to her to realise you are really a woman when she was under the impression you were a man.

But I hope it all works out.

Hugs

Cindy

[justmeinoz]

Hi and another welcome from across the pond.
 
It is natural that the closer someone is, the more of a shock coming out is to them. 
There are a lot of SO's who may be able to  help your wife come to terms with this.   If she can realise that nothing is going to happen overnight she hopefully will be able to understand your situation and have time to absorb things.

My ex and I had seperated some years before I realised I was TS, so there was no pressure there, but my son who is FtM is still having a hard time coming to terms with a parent being trans.  Everyone is different, but if your love is truly unconditional and you both can keep your eye on that, then there is a chance of working things out.

Karen.