College Dorming

[go..ogle]

I'm currently in a single room on a co-ed floor but will be getting a roommate.
He's going to be my first male roommate while living on-campus.

I have had male roommates pre-t before living on-campus. In those cases I had my own space. I won't really have my own space as the rooms are tiny here.

Those of you who have/had male roommates in a dorming situation, how do/did you find it? All these silly things are entering my head.

What if he asks about my weekly injections? or finds my packer?

I guess I'm just worried& looking to hear from the experience of others.

[Adio]

Unfortunately I never got to have a male roommate at college.  So I don't have much advice that way, but for your two questions (which I'm sure are just two of many), why would he have to know about your injections?  Take a kit to the bathroom with all your supplies and do it there.  Or do it in your room when he isn't around.

If you feel like he would go through your things, you already have a problem but...Put your packer somewhere safe (like a safe lol) or inside of something mundane that wouldn't likely be opened.  If for whatever reason your roommate discovers it, say you were keeping it as a gag gift for a friend's birthday.  Make up something ahead of time though just in case.

[go..ogle]

The bathrooms are community - one large bathroom for all the dudes& one large one for all of the ladies.

I'll just handle the shots when he's out of the room.

& that's good about the gag gift - I guess I just need to put my thinking cap on about the little things I'm concerned about.

[mm]

Keep us posted on how everything works for you.  I had a female roommate as a freshman before I really though about transitioning.  I dropped out of school and started again at a different U and live by the myself in an apartment.  I am still pre-t so how to handle my monthly mess would be a question I would have if I had a roommate or even an apartment mate.

[go..ogle]

Yeah I move in a little less than two weeks into the new dorm for summer.
Right now I'm making sure I don't own anything questionable& anything that is questionable I'm finding a place for.
It feels like I'm like...stealth-proofing my belongings, lol.

[wheat thins are delicious]

Keep us posted on how everything works for you.  I had a female roommate as a freshman before I really though about transitioning.  I dropped out of school and started again at a different U and live by the myself in an apartment.  I am still pre-t so how to handle my monthly mess would be a question I would have if I had a roommate or even an apartment mate.

For monthly problems while living as male and having a roommate, I would keep my sanitary products in my room in a private place.  I would pocket what I needed before going to the bathroom, do what was needed, make sure no mess is on the toilet/whatever, wrap the trash in toilet paper, and take it to my room to trash discreetly.

[Adio]

For monthly problems while living as male and having a roommate, I would keep my sanitary products in my room in a private place.  I would pocket what I needed before going to the bathroom, do what was needed, make sure no mess is on the toilet/whatever, wrap the trash in toilet paper, and take it to my room to trash discreetly.

This is good advice.  I would go one step farther though and not even have that trash in my room at all.  If it weren't immediately possible to throw it in another garbage can, I would keep it in a separate hidden plastic bag (think grocery store bag) and take it out as soon as possible.  Unfortunately that type of stuff has a particular smell and I wouldn't want that lingering around for very long.

[go..ogle]

I can't say how grateful I am that that has monthly bs ended!

I've been thinking a whole lot about it& I guess the only thing that is still bothering me is my chest situation.

I currently get mostly dressed while getting out of the shower - before I even remove the curtain. I think I'll just end up having to put my binder on right out of the shower..& it works out nice because I had back surgery right before high school..if he ever comes across my binder I'll tell him it's a vest that helps my back out or something.

[wheat thins are delicious]

This is good advice.  I would go one step farther though and not even have that trash in my room at all.  If it weren't immediately possible to throw it in another garbage can, I would keep it in a separate hidden plastic bag (think grocery store bag) and take it out as soon as possible.  Unfortunately that type of stuff has a particular smell and I wouldn't want that lingering around for very long.

True true, didn't even think about that. 

[anibioman]

i would just say keep all the incriminating evidence in a specific place like packers binders dildos and the rest in a hidden box and injection stuff in another box. you could always tell him ur injections are for something else insuline for diabetes, or tell the truth and say its testosterone for low testosterone.

[mm]

I am pre-t and use the men's restrooms on campus; I have workout a method of dealing with my monthly.  I get cramps about a day before I start to bleed so that when I put a regular and super tampon in a black bag in my backpack so I will be ready. I normally use a restroom on the second floor of a building where I don't have classes and am unlikely to see anyone I know. I try to go when there are few or no guys in there; I use a stall to change my tampon, rap the used one in lots of tissue and push it deep into the trash and wash my hand as I normally do. I have had a few time when I guy or two are in there and none have ever looked or said anything to me about having trash after leaving a stall.  Sometimes on a long day on campus, I can get there at 8 and not leave until after 10 pm, I will have to change 3 times.  On those days I put 4 tampons in my backpack as I want an extra as there is no way for me to get them on campus; I would never buy them at one of the shops on campus.  I am very careful that no one ever see anything that might indicate that I use or have tampons with me.  I am looking forward to day shortly when I can start t and end this problem.

[Hayzer12]

I live in an apartment but all my friends are always going through my stuff in my room. What I do is I put my packer in a sock and make it look like it's a pair of socks and put it in my sock drawer. As far as needles go, I keep mine out and say it's for insulin if they ask.. only two people have ever asked about why I have syringes. They don't seem weary, it's just a question they asked because the 100 ct box is sitting out. If that's a problem for you, I would just get a small draw string back and put all my medical supplies for a few months in it.. and keep the excess in a suit case or something. You will have your own closet, so it shouldn't be an issue to put stuff in there if you need to.

Guys are not the type to snoop, I've come to find... usually that's chicks. My friend Beth goes through all of my stuff pretty much every time she's here. Luckily she knows about everything so I'm not too concerned.

[go..ogle]

Thanks for all the great tips, guys.

I lost my wallet apparently& am afraid a guy on my current floor will find it& then there goes being known as male& "Cal."

The id card in my wallet says "f" and I have a debit card& old school id w/my birth name on it.

I guess if someone finds it& gossips I won't have to worry about keeping things quiet w/my future roommate.

It's such a tiny campus everyone is going to know if a student finds my wallet& gossips. I'm so frustrated right now that I couldn't keep my damn wallet in my pocket. 

[Squirrel698]

If they ever read your vials, don't panic.  First off plenty of cis-gendered men take testosterone for Thyroid problems.  If you don't want to go that route then there are plenty of other conditions requiring injections such as multiple sclerosis, migraine headache  and allergies.  I wouldn't go with the diabetes, insulin route as they might watch what you eat after that.  People with diabetes eat very low sugar and such. 

If they find your packer, well, you can infer to the other guys that it's for some sort of kinky sex thing.  If you don't want to talk about that make it clear.  Guys almost always respect another guys privacy if they are on good terms.

Concerning your wallet, I wouldn't get to upset about it.  First off whoever finds it may not even know it's yours.  Yes it may have your picture on your I.D. but who looks like their I.D. picture?  No one.  I wouldn't tell anyone you lost your wallet.  Just play it cool and tomorrow go check the lost and found.  Most people don't go through wallets anyways, except for cash.  Most likely it will either be thrown away or turned in without any trouble.

[go..ogle]

Wallet found, no damage done

I used to have it chained to my pants but I hate how that looks - I might go back to chaining it to prevent this from happening in the future though. I don't need anymore scares like this.

Definitely not going to set myself up w/the claim of having diabetes, lol.

I think if anything is found out if I just act completely calm about it, the roommate will have no reason to become suspicious.

[mm]

Good you found your wallet and no one found any information about you.  What do you wear to bed as to not show anything?  I never wear my binder to bed; want to be free of anything tight around my chest.

[go..ogle]

I can get away w/a tee& a sweatshirt that has patterns.

During the warmer months for bed I plan on wearing a flannel over a tee w/out anything really showing.

If I wanted I could really go around that way w/out much suspicion but I wear a binder during the day just to be 100% flat. The whole binder thing works because if the roommate asks I'll tell him it's for my back.

I just can't dress while he's in the room; fortunately, I barely have anything there.. but it's still more than guys my size have on their chests.

[Superrad]

The previous academic year was my freshman year and I was fantastically worried about dorming. I was in a cluster style dorm where I shared a bathroom with seven other guys. None of them knew my status, including my roommate. I was worried about telling him (because he looked to be the strong, jock, intimidating type) but I really never had any troubles. I just changed in the shower and wore my binder during the nighttime. It was unfortunate, but I don't regret a thing. I barely had to take any precautionary measures and the ones I did take were ones protecting my basic privacy.

As for injections, I was nervous about him freaking out but I just told him that my body was pretty inadequate at making testosterone. He didn't find any of my packers because we didn't play with each other's things.

My roommate ended up  being one of my best mates, too. I worried a lot about telling him I was trans but then I realised that because he wasn't a sexual partner it wasn't really required or relevant.

[go..ogle]

Yeah I have no plans on telling him because it is as Superrad said, irrelevant; also, my tiny school isn't great about these types of things. I don't want people knowing my damn business, it annoys the crap out of me.

I move at the end of this week from my single to the double, looking forward to it though still a tad nervous.

[Brayden]

I'm going to a private art college in the fall, I am in somewhat of the same situation.
They are a very, very, very open and diverse community, as in on the application, it has boxes with male, female, and transgender.
I've been talking with one of the directors and he told me that since it is a small school, around 1,300 total, that I would be placed in a male dorm.  But he strongly recommends that I stay in the upperclassmen dorms, so that I would have a private bedroom in a suite with a couple other people. I would totally opt for the private room, but I want to be placed in the freshman dorm. I would feel much alone in a private bedroom. I spent my entire high school career by myself, so I don't want to start off college that way.
I want to have roommates, but I'm afraid of binding and packing and what not. Especially when changing and sleeping. I would probably just have to explain to him that I am trans.  If he or the other roommates, whom I wouldn't have to worry about cause they would be in a different room, have a problem with it, I would just bring it up with the housing director.
I've also never really been around guys before, I know, sad right? I've always surrounded myself around girls, whom in which knew me before. The only guy I've ever been around is pretty feminine.
Though the bathroom is just like an ordinary house bathroom, and there are four people to a suite, two in each bedroom. I don't have much to worry about then.
Sorry, I'm just working through my situation, but now I realized that I shouldn't have any problems!