The next step or am I an idiot

[Cindy]

As many of you know I'm transitioning in real time. Just to summarise. I'm on HRT, monitored carefully. I'm very, very happy. I'm wearing female clothes to work. But basically what all the other women wear. Tops, trousers, jeans or leggings. I wear some minimal makeup at work, foundation and mascara, polished nails.

I'm now out to all of my local staff, with no hint of a problem.

In my avatar I wear a wig, and that is how I present as Cindy. I have never been to work wearing wigs, I'm not sure I want to.  I saw a stylist who suggested they could do something with my real hair as it grows out. And had no reservations in dealing with me.

My question may sound too stupid to even ask.

When do I go full time? How do people do this? How did you take the next step, and what do you actually do?

Sorry

Cindy

[LordKAT]

Seems to me like your already there. I assume that the presenting female is outside of work also.

[kelly_aus]

Cindy, I have a question..

Does your 'alter ego' ever go out and about?

Because, if not, you are already full time.. If so, perhaps look at the reasons why and see what you can do to change them..

But I get the feeling you are really already there, whether you realise it or not..

[justmeinoz]

Cindy it sounds like you have already taken that step.

Are you using the name Cindy at work? That is about all you need to do by the sound of things, to make it official. 

I was part time, and after I resigned from my last job went for a weeks holiday over here to check the place out more.  When I got back my new Birth Certificate was in the letter box.  I had planned to wait a few more weeks, but had no choice once I was officially Karen.  Basically I just stopped changing back into mens clothes, and stopped presenting as the remaining 20% or so. That was about it , bit of an anticlimax really.

It sounds like things are going fine darl.

Karen.

[Cindy]

Thanks people.

Kelly I'm not sure who my alter ego is!

[barbie]

Gradual changes would be better.

My experience says that people are far more flexible in their perception than I expected. For example, when I came to my university first time, faculty members and staffs here gossiped about my long hair, the mug photo I had submitted for application, and a rumor that I sometimes wear skirts. Nowadays, nobody here mentions my long hair or feminine clothes. Most of faculty members here wear a kind of formal dresses, but I usually wear casuals such as skinny jeans and colorful T-shirts like students here. At first, some of my colleagues here urged me to wear more formal dresses. But, now not any more. To them, my professional performance is priority, not my exterior appearance. That's it.

I sometimes enter bars while wearing skirt and chat with young ladies there. They can know that I am a man from my low voice. Surprisingly, all of the ladies I have met take it as a matter of course.

Barbie~~

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

The day you step out of the house, and no one ever seen the male 'other', you are full time.  Even if 'he' has an appointment you go instead.

Next step: Name change, paperwork change.  Then SRS maybe.

[Amazon D]

I thought you were full time and passed transitioning years ago 

[Constance]

I had the announcement of my transition/RLE/full time made to my coworkers while I was on vacation. Then, when I returned, I returned as Connie in all her splendor.

I stopped moussing/spraying my hair down and let it out. I basically just left work one day as David and returned a week and a half later as Connie. The only thing gradual about it was that my hair had been growing steadily for about a year without any cutting.

That's what worked for me.

[Cindy]

Well I took the next step.

Today I went out as me but with make up and no wig. Real life me. I wore my normal female clothing for the day. Tight, very tight, skinny green jeans, boots to my knee, colourful sweater, gorgeous. my handbag, my little coat. All female except my face.

I went to a big shopping center, ended up in a store with two women in it, ended up buying a Paris wrap, had them both demonstrate how to wear it on me. Its so cute. I told them I needed to replace my male wardrobe, Then we got into serious shopping . I had tunics, tops, belts you name we all had a ball, well I did. One on one shopping with women who can style stuff is the way to go. I learned heaps. They didn't blink about me, they were wonderful (www.flowers.com.au).

So I left and saw THE SCARF in a window. There were three girls working in the place. I was shown how to wear this gorgeous scarf. Different styles and hints. What to wear it with, ideas of tops to go with it, yes its a scarf that describes itself. Again no hint of any problem with any of the girls. I was another wealthy, but getting poor, woman. I wore the scarf out. So soft so MMMMMM. Saw a ring I liked, the woman commented on how soft my skin on my hands was. She told me about her buying some make up in her lunch hour and maybe i should check them out. I went. I sat in the chair and had my make up taken off and re done by the stylist. People watched, I felt fantastic. I looked fantastic. So I bought make up.

Feeling and looking great I decided to go to the city centre and walk around. Why? To show off.

Foul weather, awesome day.


Cindy is out and about full time.

Goddess help us all

Cindy

[Jamie D]

WOW!!

[LordKAT]

    Sounds like a perfect day.

[Amazon D]

Well I took the next step.

Today I went out as me but with make up and no wig. Real life me. I wore my normal female clothing for the day. Tight, very tight, skinny green jeans, boots to my knee, colourful sweater, gorgeous. my handbag, my little coat. All female except my face.

I went to a big shopping center, ended up in a store with two women in it, ended up buying a Paris wrap, had them both demonstrate how to wear it on me. Its so cute. I told them I needed to replace my male wardrobe, Then we got into serious shopping . I had tunics, tops, belts you name we all had a ball, well I did. One on one shopping with women who can style stuff is the way to go. I learned heaps. They didn't blink about me, they were wonderful (www.flowers.com.au).

So I left and saw THE SCARF in a window. There were three girls working in the place. I was shown how to wear this gorgeous scarf. Different styles and hints. What to wear it with, ideas of tops to go with it, yes its a scarf that describes itself. Again no hint of any problem with any of the girls. I was another wealthy, but getting poor, woman. I wore the scarf out. So soft so MMMMMM. Saw a ring I liked, the woman commented on how soft my skin on my hands was. She told me about her buying some make up in her lunch hour and maybe i should check them out. I went. I sat in the chair and had my make up taken off and re done by the stylist. People watched, I felt fantastic. I looked fantastic. So I bought make up.

Feeling and looking great I decided to go to the city centre and walk around. Why? To show off.

Foul weather, awesome day.


Cindy is out and about full time.

Goddess help us all

Cindy

wow i remember that day for me in San fran after my FFS back in late 90's and having spent almost 30 days there recovering due to the major surgery i had. I am glad for you Cindy and pray you find your self and happiness.

[justmeinoz]

That is a brilliant day, and great news Cindy.   I am over the moon for you.

Karen.  :'(happy 

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

Awesome possum, Cindy!

[Constance]

Cindy, that sounds like an absolutely wonderful day!

[barbie]

Foul weather, awesome day.

Congrats.

By the way, how about weather there?

Here it is 17-22 degree Celcius with sunny sky.

Barbie~~

[smittyFTM]

Cindy Congrats!