Pregnant men

[Kreuzfidel]

This question is not intended to be insulting, but arises from my curiosity after seeing another discussion elsewhere about pregnant men.  Would you be or would you choose to be pregnant and give birth as a man?  For those dads out there who went through the process, did this experience affect your dysphoria or not?  I understand that we are all different and that dysphoria affects us all differently, but I'm simply curious how many of us would willingly give birth.  For myself, I could not and would choose not to.

[smittyFTM]

I was very much against giving birth pre transition (when I was 7 I declared at christmas dinner I was never having kids lol) & my absolute fear & grossed-outedness revolving around childbirth stayed with me my whole life. So....no, I would never be a pregnant man (but have no problem with folks who do decide to be)!

[Nathan90]

I never felt the 'urge' to give birth, or to have children for that matter.

I'd like dogs when I have more time and money, some drool more than little children, some drool less. Both go through puberty, it's just that he pooch cán be controlled during it..

Hah no, just kidding. Though I do prefer a dog over a child in my home. Parenthood is just not for me, that's got nothing to do with being trans though.

[Jeatyn]

I would never in a billion years do it again, it was horrendous from start to finish, both physically and mentally. I didn't plan to get pregnant but when it happened I was like "meh, may as well, easier than adopting"

Don't get me wrong I love my daughter to bits but....never ever ever EVER again 

[King Malachite]

I would not choose to give birth but to be fair I would not want to give birth even if I was cis.  There's so much more I could do with that money like complete my transition and hit up tons of anime conventions to cosplay afterwards.  I just have no interest in raising children or giving birth to them. Plus I am actually doing the world a favor by not having children lol.

Interesting question by the way. 

[Shang]

I go through periods of biologically wanting to have a kid, but I have never wanted to have one psychologically.  The thought of being pregnant grosses me out, and the thought of having to share my space with another being that isn't an animal just irritates me.

However, I have no issue with men who get pregnant.  It's their life and they can do what they want.

[Adio]

I was very much against giving birth pre transition (when I was 7 I declared at christmas dinner I was never having kids lol)

Same here, minus the Christmas dinner.  I remember telling my mom how scared I was of pregnancy, showing her pictures of us in the hospital after I was born.  I told her and my best friend that I would never get pregnant.  Both of them basically laughed at me and said I would change my mind in the future.  But I knew that wasn't true and turns out I was right

If for whatever reason I did get pregnant, I would have an abortion.  To be honest, I don't understand guys who desire to get pregnant, but whatever.  It's not my life and I'm not about to control someone else's reproductive choices even if I don't understand it.

[Nygeel]

I wouldn't be able to do it. There's a documentary out there that follows 12 trans men who have given birth. I've never seen it but it's called trans parent (or as one word).

[Robert Scott]

I declared early on that I never wanted to have children -- my mother kept insisting I would have the mother urge one day ... .now I am 40 never had a kid - but helped raise my partners kids.  I love being a parent but never want to birth one myself

[dalebert]

[supremecatoverlord]

I hate to judge others, but personally, the whole idea of this situation grosses me out.
To each his own though, I guess.

[Make_It_Good]

Ill be honest, the thing I want to most is to have a family and raise children. So, along with eveything I have to accept this bit of heartbreak that I cant biologically have my own children atleast (I know theres adoption, or sperm donor for my girlfriend etc etc, but this is time consuming and costly. I will probably go down the donor route, but Im not thrilled about it).
  It was something I have had to unfortunately accept. The idea of mothering a child is ludacris. I cant even put the idea of doing something that is such a female (though its a gift) thing, together with myself. As much as Im sure people may want to argue it is not gender specific to parent a child, to me doing it that way, is. Like Im sure Ive said before, to think of people using their "wrong parts" in such ways, whether its birth, or sex, disgusts me. :/

I wish there were a way that I could have children though.

[Elijah3291]

I would never do it, as a male or as a female.  To me, it just creeps me out.  besides, I don't like children much at all.

my mom actually said a few days ago that I should keep my ovaries so I could have a kid one day, she said "well that one guy did it" ugh, she doesn't get me at all, and I cant believe she thinks I would do that.

The idea of a baby inside of me makes me feel suicidal.

No qualms with anyone here who has done it, its just not for me.

[Hayzer12]

I personally wouldn't want to. I want kids someday(not for a while) but thinking of having one myself ....completely makes my skin crawl. It doesn't seem natural to me because of the level of dysphoria that I have with my body. Other people arent like me though, and for them then it's perfectly fine. If you don't feel dysphoric about it, go for it. However, because it's such a lengthy time until I actually do want children (10-15 years probably... since I'm only 22 and not even finished with my BS degree yet) I believe that I can set aside finances after my transition is complete and work towards an adoption.

However, this is all contingent on if my partner wants children. Right now, my girlfriend does not know if she wants kids eventually(even though I believe that I will), and expresses fears of having children(she wouldn't want to have one biologically. The thought of pregnancy bothers her. Her fears are more so having to do with parenting solely, rather than how the child is brought into the picture).

I definitely love the idea of biologically seeing a part of yourself in an offspring, but that's out of the cards for me. It has never been in the cards for me. I view myself as a sterile male LOL

[Zerro]

No. I despise my body as it is. I've never been okay with the fact that it's designed for carrying and birthing kids. If lower surgery were easier to get, I would have had it by now.

I don't need kids, nor do I really want them. They're okay, but just that. I've never felt a strong desire to reproduce.

[Once-ler]

I love children,
but I never felt a desire to have one myself, biologically.
I realise that my children would probably be really adorable. <-according to everyone in my family.

But, I would never get pregnant. xD

If my partner (when I get one) down the line wants children we can adopt, surrogate, or sperm donor, what ever he/she wants. C:

And when I first heard of pregnant men, I thought how could anyone do that? because it was completely un-male, but I've changed my opinion and become more open minded, and just started accepting more things. xD

[Adio]

I'll settle for being a kick-ass uncle.

This is my thought as well

[supremecatoverlord]

And when I first heard of pregnant men, I thought how could anyone do that?

I hate to say it, but years ago I felt this way and mostly I still feel the same way now.
Honestly, there's been so much press coverage I think it hurts the general image of people like me, because stupid crap like whether or not a person who identifies as male wanting to have a baby is deemed media worthy and then makes the general public think it's "funny" or "weird" or see us all as "less than an actual man". Eh, oh well, I guess.

[wheat thins are delicious]

I would do it.  It'd have to be perfectly planned though, assuming the year and a half I've been on T coupled with only having one ovary haven't ruined my fertility.  There would be dysphoria I'm sure, but it would be something I'm willing to deal with in order to have a child.  The main factor I feel that is most important in this is having the funds to take time off, say from when I start to not be able to hide it to a while after the baby is born.  For me it's important to have a child at some point in my life.  My other option if I can't get pregnant is to get my brother or cousin to be the donor father (and give up parental rights) and have my SO (whoever that may be) be the carrier and birth mother.  But all this is something I see as far off in the future, I'm only 24.

[Natkat]

there should probably had been a pool for this but its okay.
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I am kind of surprized to see so many people sharing my thouhgts,
I dont have the biggest desire to ba a parrent, but when I thought about it I though about it how to be a father,
and the pregnant part has always been kinda grosee out.

having people talking about pregnacys kind of freaks me out, and giving birth is one of my biggest fears, whatever its myself or someone I see.

I has a couple of ftm I know who got pregnant, I totally accept and understand. I belive if your really wants a child then you will do what you can to get it, its nothing to do with being man or not, theres probably some cismen who would do so as well if they could, well at least one of my friends claim he would.
If I should be frank I think I could deal with pregnacys, cause I had death with so many other things before. sure it would be hard but I got advice from some of the ftm how to handle stuff like that, so it would be posible but,
the thing I couldnt handly was the giving birth thing. it would kill me I actually belive. I got phobia enough in the first part, and the second one is one of my greatest fear of all, so I would probably faint and never wake up.
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So its really not for everyone, and specially not every man, a guy who do so must deal with alot of dicrimination both outside and also at the trans comunity, together with his own problems and phobia..

the people who questionate those also has to consider not everyone is able just to, adopt or be parrents for others.
like gay adoption it can be hard or imposible to adopt as transgender, and depending on your situation the birth thing can be the only way So if you REALLY want kids, you must figure out if you can deal with that for a limited time or not.


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