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Started by Edge, May 26, 2012, 03:34:21 PM

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Edge

Is it wrong to want to be a boy even though I am physically female?
Why did I feel such euphoria when I realized I felt male? Why did it feel so euphoric whenever I felt male? (I still feel male I think, just not sure atm.)
Is it wrong that I still want to be female (sometimes)? It makes me afraid that I am a stupid fake and that it means I am not male.
Is it stupid that it takes me awhile to figure out what gender I am and, on some days, I don't actually figure it out? Does that mean I'm female?
I know that people don't choose to be transgender and I don't think I did choose, but is it wrong for me to feel happy about it? I mean, I'm confused and frustrated and I don't like that. I don't know why I feel happy about it.
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Keri Allison

Despite being trans myself, I really wonder if it's wrong. According to John Stuart Mill, there is good, neutral, and bad. Completely bad is something that harms others ( stealing, murder); Neutral is something that causes no harm, but no benefit (partying all the time, sleeping too much); Good is something that causes benefit (Giving to charity). I'd say being transgender is neutral.

Sometimes, I feel euphoria when I feel female, but as a person who's born male, I do sometimes feel euphoria when I doing something absolutely ballsy and manly. Then again, when I do do that, I feel fake, but nonetheless, I do feel on top of the world when I win a fight, or when I get a new "guy toy" (knives, etc) in the mail.

Of course, no one chooses to be transgender, and very few actually have pride in the fact that they're transgender. But, I do believe that transgender people do have pride in being able to recognize the fact that they're transgender and being able to surmount the obstacles that they face.

You won't believe the intense euphoria that I felt the morning after the first time I told someone that I'm transgender. I felt like I was king of the world (king sounds better than queen). It's the self realization that gets you really.
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peky

Quote from: Edge on May 26, 2012, 03:34:21 PM
Is it wrong to want to be a boy even though I am physically female?
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Not at all, it seems to me that we are what our brain says we are not what our external gentilia is !
QuoteWhy did I feel such euphoria when I realized I felt male?
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Because finally your brain is in accord with itself, the self validation generates the release of endocannabinoids
QuoteWhy did it feel so euphoric whenever I felt male? (I still feel male I think, just not sure atm.)
QuoteIt is normal to have some doubts, after all, you have been taught and force to carry on with a role for so long that it is not unusual to feel that maybe that is the right gender after all; but the fact that you question your assign gender implies you are not
QuoteIs it wrong that I still want to be female (sometimes)? It makes me afraid that I am a stupid fake and that it means I am not male.
QuoteNo you are not a fake, just beginning to assert yourself that is all
QuoteIs it stupid that it takes me awhile to figure out what gender I am and, on some days, I don't actually figure it out? Does that mean I'm female?
QuoteHoney, It has taken some of us a life time to find ourselves, you are ahead of many.
QuoteI know that people don't choose to be transgender and I don't think I did choose, but is it wrong for me to feel happy about it?
QuoteNo, you should love yourself, and be very proud and happy that you have found your true self, and that you have the courage to express it
QuoteI mean, I'm confused and frustrated and I don't like that. I don't know why I feel happy about it.
You are happy because you have accepted yourself as you are
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JoanneB

Way to go Peky! A great response that really captures what all of us that have "been there, done that" went through and eventually realized.
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