Whyyyy does this bother meeeeeee? :(

[rexyrex]

It souldnt borther u that much, im 5 foot 3 it use to bother me abit before but now i like being short as i have seen people who is around my hight or shoter......also think about them poor tall guys having to bend over for stuff or try not to bump their head on the bus and doors? And i agree about cloths are cheaper when ur short Being short it awesome for me!

Before i use to find guys who is short cute.

[Cody Jensen]

Leonard and Howard are the ->-bleeped-<-! lol I love those two.

Maybe you refuse to take peoples' advice because the surgery is for you. Though it is for few people I imagine. I guess this is just one of those things. Like meta is okay for some guys, phallo surgery is good for others. And no surgery is perfectly fine for some FTM's.

I think JasonRX has a point. Maybe stop asking for advice because if you do keep posting the same thing, it means something. That no matter what anyone tells you, you are going to feel like you need this surgery. And even though I don't entirely like it, who are we to judge? So, do it if it's what your heart desires because no one else's comments seem to be making much of a difference.

this and no Jason, it doesn't apply to every other short guy. I'm just always in an insecure rage when i post these threads. maybe surgery or HGH is the right path for me after all.

[Cody Jensen]

Hey Cody I'm sorry your feeling bad about your height. I'm 4'10. I'm probably the shortest guy here. Why does the height thing bother you so much?

I don't know why. Probably because when I go out as a girl with my sister and her friends, they are ALWAYS after the tall guys and talking about how hot and "tall" they are. Even one of her friends who is really sweet and understanding, and doesn't judge people (or so I thought) said she would never date a short guy. Since then it's just really been getting me down because I haven't met a girl who hasn't judged a guy on height yet.

[Sephirah]

Since then it's just really been getting me down because I haven't met a girl who hasn't judged a guy on height yet.

*raises hand*

<--- one here

It's attitude, not altitude, which counts. Four and a half feet of awesome is better than six and a half feet of douchebag any day of the week.

[Jam]

*raises hand*

<--- one here

It's attitude, not altitude, which counts. Four and a half feet of awesome is better than six and a half feet of douchebag any day of the week.

You are one cool individual.

[Cody Jensen]

I only wish I was 5'3 or 5'4...I stand at a mere 4'11. It does bug me, probably mainly because I was bullied extensively as a kid over my height (...I was also only 4'6 when I was 12). Women's views on men's height don't help me much, either. HOWEVER, I am hopeful that transitioning will open me up a bit more, and own who I AM. Sure, being a very short guy will probably nag at me a bit, but I agree with the confidence thing. When I am confident, I tend to forget about my height. I'm just me.

On the note of limb lengthening, I was talking about that with my mother and brother last night. And you know what? As cool as being a bit taller would be for those of us that our height bugs....we would be disproportionate afterwards. You lengthen the legs...now your arms are too short. In order to look proportionate then, you would have to lengthen arms, hands, feet, torso and spine. Doesn't sound so fun to be completely out of whack.

i was considering that too. I've had scoliosis surgery, so i know what bone surgery pain feels like. i am rethinking surgery. again. i don't know anymore. maybe not then, never mind 

[Cody Jensen]

*raises hand*

<--- one here

It's attitude, not altitude, which counts. Four and a half feet of awesome is better than six and a half feet of douchebag any day of the week.

  rock on girl

[Dominick_81]

I don't know why. Probably because when I go out as a girl with my sister and her friends, they are ALWAYS after the tall guys and talking about how hot and "tall" they are. Even one of her friends who is really sweet and understanding, and doesn't judge people (or so I thought) said she would never date a short guy. Since then it's just really been getting me down because I haven't met a girl who hasn't judged a guy on height yet.

My cousin actually dated a short guy. She thought he was so cute, she didn't care that he was short. But I do understand how you feel. I feel I'll never get a g/f  b/c I'm short and overweight and most girls want a tall fit guy.


Every girl is different though. Not all girls are shallow. You'll find a girl who won't care if your short and she'll like you for you.  Also, the priest that I talked to says he see's short guys with tall girls all the time.

[Stewie]

I don't know why. Probably because when I go out as a girl with my sister and her friends, they are ALWAYS after the tall guys and talking about how hot and "tall" they are. Even one of her friends who is really sweet and understanding, and doesn't judge people (or so I thought) said she would never date a short guy. Since then it's just really been getting me down because I haven't met a girl who hasn't judged a guy on height yet.

Food for thought. Maybe stop hanging around people who trigger you. If these girls keep saying these things. Maybe they know how you feel and are doing it just to be mean. Some people can be screwed up. And get off on hurting others. Either way. If it bothers you so much and triggers you so much, DON'T GO OUT WITH THEM!

[insideontheoutside]

If you refuse to accept it, then you won't, period. Trust me on that one because I'm speaking from experience. Not on the height front but on other things. On the height thing, I'm only 5'3" (and that's with shoes on ... more like 5'2" normally). It probably does contribute to the fact that a lot of people take me as female, but oh well. Luckily I don't have a major issue with it.

I think as someone else mentioned there's something more going on in your case than just wanting to be taller because that equates to more male in your mind (or that you feel you'll never get with someone cause no one likes short guys - which I'm sure you have to consciously realize is b.s.) You mentioned you were bullied for being small. Any kind of thing like that that happens early in life can set the stage for long term issues - ones that often get buried under superficial "fluff" that we create as excuses. Basically holding on to some of these notions about short guys IS that superficial fluff. If you get to the root of the problem and try to work on it from there, then maybe in time you can reverse that refusal of acceptance.

[Cody Jensen]

If you refuse to accept it, then you won't, period. Trust me on that one because I'm speaking from experience. Not on the height front but on other things. On the height thing, I'm only 5'3" (and that's with shoes on ... more like 5'2" normally). It probably does contribute to the fact that a lot of people take me as female, but oh well. Luckily I don't have a major issue with it.

I think as someone else mentioned there's something more going on in your case than just wanting to be taller because that equates to more male in your mind (or that you feel you'll never get with someone cause no one likes short guys - which I'm sure you have to consciously realize is b.s.) You mentioned you were bullied for being small. Any kind of thing like that that happens early in life can set the stage for long term issues - ones that often get buried under superficial "fluff" that we create as excuses. Basically holding on to some of these notions about short guys IS that superficial fluff. If you get to the root of the problem and try to work on it from there, then maybe in time you can reverse that refusal of acceptance.

Yea, it probably has a lot to do with the fact that I was bullied about it. Just to let you guys know I do have good days about my height. Sometimes I look myself straight in the eye in the mirror (without any shoes or slippers on so that I can be my full real height) and feel like I can pull off being short. But sometimes the minute I step out side and see 5'10 guys (like my cousin, who I can't avoid because, well, he's my cousin and I see him often) and all the women in my family make a big deal like "oh you've grown into a fine *tall* young gentleman. I just can't help but get *really* upset over it sometimes, and it hurts even more because sometimes my own dad gets along with my cousin better than he does with me. And he still has his spoiled prince attitude which REALLY irritates me.