1) Do you use any other terms to define or explain your gender?
Androgyne
2) How did you grow up with your gender?
Wanted to be a girl at age 4
3) What's your favorite ways of upsetting gender roles / genderbending / gender
>-bleeped-<ing?
The Patty Hearst look: the hair, beret, leather, boots.
4) Name some queer heroes, influences, or crushes
Van. After seeing some of the photos I hope Van has a great career in modeling ahead.
5) Dysphoria and how you manage it
Dysphoria left me when I had SRS
6) When did you realize you were Genderqueer?
Only a couple weeks ago it hit me that I am neither gender really. Or a different gender.
7) What are your favorite physical features of yourself?
My breasts and vagina
An unpopular or unsure opinion about the GSM community
none
9) What have you done or plan to do to socially transition? Pronouns, name, coming out, etc.
Did that a long time ago.
10) Are you taking any steps to physically transition?
I first transitioned in 1999, SRS in 2001, Reverted to male presentation in 2003. Now am growing my hair longer again and buying tops that accentuate my small breasts. Maintenance HRT dose via patch.
11) Your first experience with a GSM organization or event
TCNE is a wonderful organization which holds great events. I'd say it was 1996 when I first went to First Event. It was a blast.
12) Discuss your relationship with the term transgender
Umbrella term, it doesn't bother me.
13) How has your family taken it or how might they take it?
It was tough from 1999-2003 when I was full time MTF. After 2003 things are much better.
14) Are you part of the Gender and Sexuality Minority community?
Definitely
15) How do you deal with gendered things? Clothes shopping, bathrooms, forms, etc.
I love to shop. I try to find a unisex bathroom. My form entries read the same as the gender marker on my driver's license.
16) Name some media you connect with queerly
Lady Antebellum – imagine a sandwich with them!
17) How do you, or would you, deal with being misgendered?
I got a lot of it when I was out. It sucked.
18) How does your gender factor in to your future plans?
Living my life.
19) What terms in the cisgender, GSM, or trans* community are problematic?
>-bleeped-< is a pet peeve of mine.
20) Have you faced any problems or gone through any changes regarding religion?
When I was coming out I chose a welcoming and affirming Episcopal parish near where I had just moved.
21) How has your relationship with yourself been affected since you realized you were Genderqueer?
I love myself even more than ever!
22) What is your sexual and romantic orientations? Are they affected by your gender?
I am attracted to women, of all genders/no gender. Not having male sex organs was a huge problem in 2 of the last 4 relationships I've been in. But I am still happy with who I am and the way I am now. There will be someone who also loves me as I am.
23) Do you feel comfortable answering questions about your gender to friends? Acquaintances? Strangers?
One friend and nobody else.
24) How has your relationship with the cisgender people in your life changed?
None.
25) Your first queer crush or relationship
David Bowie / Ziggy Stardust
26) Discuss how your clothes do or don't reflect your gender
I wear tight t shirts, jeans, boots or Converse sneaks. And leather fall-spring. Just regular clothes
27) Write a poem about being Genderqueer. (if you struggle, try a haiku, acrostic poem with your name, or just a stream of conciousness paragraph)
I never thought that there would be,
Anybody in the world just like me.
Not a female, not a male,
No description you can nail.
So while you try to figure me out,
My appearance might give you doubt.
Come close, let me whisper in your ear:
"Feel free to call me just queer."
28) Who are some people in your life, on or offline, who make your life better? Your relationship doesn't have to be related to queerness.
Ex wife, children, best friend, Mom & brother.
29) Some positive Genderqueer experiences
Once in 1998 before I was completely out, I was definitely genderf*ing, out of the blue a 20-something kid came over to me in a convenience store and said "pick one!"
30) What does Genderqueer mean to you?
An umbrella term for those who don't conform to a gender binary, or take on characteristics of a person opposite their birth gender assignment, or do not completely transition to the opposite their birth gender assignment. Short answer: me!