Quote from: peky on June 10, 2012, 06:27:07 AM
DAY 1
1) Do you use any other terms to define or explain your gender?
No, I am just a female.
Then a genderqueer challenge probably isn't your thing.
Actually, it's not really my kind of thing either, I do not have much/any sense of a queer identity in any sense, apart from anything else, I hate all the acronyms.
There's a question later that says 'how do you interact with media queerly?', which made me want to say I watch tv whilst wearing a scuba suit. To be honest I don't see being androgyne as an identity in itself, just a foundation to build an identity on. That being said, I can relate to the questions, if a little wonkily.
1 - I use the term androgyne to describe my gender, it was the first word I found, so I adopted it and made it mine. In past times I would describe myself as a 'pregender' androgyne, in that I feel my gender identity is more like that of a small child, an unformed sense of male female, rather than an advanced rejection of them or anything. It's not that I want to overcome the binary, it's more that I am innocent of it.
2 - I grew up quite happily with my gender, although there were times I were nudged on maler paths, I was generally allowed to play with my teddies and puppets quite happily. It wasn't until a general identity crisis on completing university that I needed to explore gender and reconcile myself to whatever gender I was.
3 - As someone with this childlike perspective in gender, I can't really bend or queer it. I just grab the pretty things indiscriminately around me. This may sometimes seem like I am bending gender, but not to me. It's like if you saw a three year old boy with his mum's high heels and a dolly - you wouldn't say he was gender-bending, he's just a kid having fun, with little conception of the implications to other people. Same thing.
4 - I have loads of heroes, some were queer but none are my heroes because they were queer. Edward Lear is probably my most favourite queer hero, though Marlowe second.
5 - I manage my disphoria by reminding myself that large swathes of 'normal' people are unhappy with their bodies. I then try and remind myself the importance of authenticity and being what you is.