17) How do you or would you deal with being misgendered?
I think it is a normal thing that people will do.
And that's the importance of it.
It's something that they are doing, not you.
Unless someone is threatening, why give a >-bleeped-< about their opinion about it?
If you don't know this person, they don't know you.
Why waste your time and energy on someones idea of how they perceive gender?
Granted, if it is someone you know and they know you, you might want to correct their mistake.
Or, you may not.
Misgendering is someone else's problem, not yours.
Are you always sure that you are gendering someone exactly as they might wish you did?
Unless you are gender>-bleeped-<ing society, they are for the most part, oblivious to a misgendering on their part.
Society in general could care less if they misgender someone.
It's just their immediate perception. So what?
How many people do you think there are that put thought and energy into correctly identifying anyones gender?
Most of society sees only male or female.
Blur that perception and they may struggle with it, but as soon as you are out of sight, you are out of mind.
If they start to question you in a non threatening manner, they are curious.
Now you have the option of it becoming your problem or not.
The situation should dictate your reaction to what has now possibly become a problem, but not necessarily.
If there is hostility involved, it's a problem. It's your problem, they made it yours.
You have options and choices to make as to how you deal with it, at that point.
Trying to reason with a hostile person in general just makes them more hostile.
Walk away and leave them to be pissed and confused about the world, or argue and do the same thing to yourself.
(they and their, can and is used in the singular, as an alternative to other pronouns.)
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