Hi Michelle,
We all come in different shapes and sizes and can't change the skeletal structure. Yes, every day make up, casual attire that most women wear, you blend in, people going about their business, your just a passing body in the sea of humanity. Once I got on to make up ten years ago at a cd club in my city after about 2 years going to places in the gay community with my sisters, we started expanding outside of the gay box. I have never looked back. If we look like a woman, we belong out in the public world just like cis women. Same with ftm. I go female to parks, hiking, beaches, clubs, restaurants. Fear not, expand your world and enjoy your outing with your friend.
Hugs
Jamie