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Is anyone else ambivalent about their given name?

Started by nocar, June 27, 2012, 03:38:24 PM

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aleon515

I made an appt. for the computer yesterday and went in (I made it using my given name). As I came in they said "Are you ______?" And I said, "yes, call me ______", which he did.  It felt so awesome.

--Jay Jay
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insideontheoutside

For those that transition and have no problem otherwise passing as male, why the hell not keep your name if you like it. There's cis dude's named Shannon, Ashley, etc. etc. Ever hear that Johnny Cash song, "A Boy Named Sue" - funny take on that sort of thing. So yeah it doesn't happen frequently in baby naming, but it does happen. I have a unisex middle name but I don't care for it much. My close friends all call me my chosen name (which is kind of symbolic for me and begins with the first letter of my middle name anyway). And I don't really have a problem with my given first name either.

Also, plenty of people go by nicknames instead of their first name once formalities are handled (like at a workplace, they know your legal name, but you can tell them your preferred name). I dated a chick once who's real name was Brittney and she absolutely hated it so she went by another name all the time and no one really gave it a second thought.
"Let's conspire to ignite all the souls that would die just to feel alive."
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LordKAT

There was absolutely nothing wrong with my given name. If I was a girl, I probably would have liked it just fine.
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nocar

Mine is male / unisex when shortened.

I know a transman  who travels extensively and has not changed anything--name nor gender marker--and does just fine. I think that if you're not adamant about being stealth & trust that folks are going to conduct themselves in a civil, sophisticated manner, you'll be alright. That's asking a lot of the human race I know lol
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~RoadToTrista~

MTF INVASION!!!!! ;D

It's an ugly male name, but I don't think I'll ever mind if it's what people choose to call me, well, unless the person in question is new in my life, or my husband. Yikes.......

It's been with me all my life, having people I've known and grown up with call me something else just doesn't feel right. (I still expect correct pronoun usage though.)
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JohnnieRamona

MTF poking my head in- my given name is Johnny, and when I transition I'm planning to simply change it to Johnnie. I'm gotten some crap from people over this, but it's what I want to do...
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smittyFTM

Quote from: The Tomboy Transgirl on June 28, 2012, 05:10:17 PM
MTF poking my head in- my given name is Johnny, and when I transition I'm planning to simply change it to Johnnie. I'm gotten some crap from people over this, but it's what I want to do...

I like it!
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JohnnieRamona

Aww thanks! I really like the name Johnnie for myself as a woman too. For one thing, it would have been my name had I been born female (my Mom was lazy, apparently), and secondly it's sort of indicative of my feeling that transition won't make me some completely new, different person- just a better, happier, female me. :)
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Ashley

Quote from: The Tomboy Transgirl on June 28, 2012, 09:00:27 PM
Aww thanks! I really like the name Johnnie for myself as a woman too. For one thing, it would have been my name had I been born female (my Mom was lazy, apparently), and secondly it's sort of indicative of my feeling that transition won't make me some completely new, different person- just a better, happier, female me. :)

At least you know no one else will have your name lol
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Darrin Scott

I hate my given name and want to change it. Hopefully soon.





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Henri

I hate my given name to the point where even before I knew I was trans I was always going by various nicknames throughout my life. I even started going by the name Henri before I knew, and that is the one that has stuck so I plan on getting it changed to that ASAP.




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Traivs

My goal is to get mine changed this summer legally not only for the obvious reasons but because I don't want to deal with telling my son's school my birth name than changing it later on. Due to my son going to a small private school next year it would be pretty obvious. I just think its better if they meet me as Travis as well as the other parents. Since your legally obligated to notify your children's school or daycare of a legal name change.   
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Frank

I tolerate it because people never seem to read it as anything other than male (which is like calling a dude 'Sarah') but I actually really hate my entire name. It doesn't fit at all, never has to the point of me wondering wtf my parents were thinking.
-Frank
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geek

I don't even look up if I hear my old name, I guess the only way I can describe it is "alien"




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smittyFTM

I know a guy who was named Plentymore. Yep that's his first name.
Also a friend of mine told me yesterday she knows a guy called Six Toes...
So LOL there are folks out there with some.....unique....names :)
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Edge

Like Ponyboy and Sodapop! Or 4Real, Brfxxccxxmnpcccclllmmnprxvclmnckssqlbb11116 (pronounced Albin), and many of the other names on banned lists.
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Frank

Quote from: Edge on June 29, 2012, 02:39:47 PM
Like Ponyboy and Sodapop! Or 4Real, Brfxxccxxmnpcccclllmmnprxvclmnckssqlbb11116 (pronounced Albin), and many of the other names on banned lists.

Never fails to make me wtf.
-Frank
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Morgan.

My display name on the forums here is my given name, and is pretty evenly unisex I guess. I like it, and the reason I was given that name, so I don't intend on changing it. My middle name, however, is a very different story. But I will be changing that very soon. :)

Half of life is f**king up, the other half is dealing with it. - Henry Rollins


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Kelly J. P.

 My given name is unisex, and I will be changing it to be my middle name. I'm pretty okay with it, overall, which explains why I've been so lazy about the change...
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