Where the rubber hits the road... an inquiry of interest, now WHAT?

[AbraCadabra]

This morning I find an inquiry of interest, very sweet, very professional, very everything, a single woman would want to hear, and look for... and yet?

Is it just too perfect? Is it finally bringing to the fore my own unacknowledged lack of self-esteem?

Why me? What's supposed to be so special about ME - get an enquiry so ... ~ perfect?

Also, how to go along with such a (first for me) FB inquiry?

I'm flattered, and I'm scared - and I have tears welling up, not necessarily tears of joy. Tears of what?

Can anyone help here to figure out what is going on?

One does not EVER 'reject' such a nice SOUNDING, appearing person, or?
Yet, to even answer makes me feel 'leaning out of my bus' too far - scared, and confused.
Is it the case of "we like to do only things we are used to"? Rattled ...

Eish,
Axélle

[V M]

Not sure what you're on about    Are you saying someone on Facebook has taken a fancy to you?

[UCBerkeleyPostop]

Can anyone help here to figure out what is going on?

I don't have a clue.

[Jamie D]

This morning I find an inquiry of interest, very sweet, very professional, very everything, a single woman would want to hear, and look for... and yet?

Is it just too perfect? Is it finally bringing to the fore my own unacknowledged lack of self-esteem?

Why me? What's supposed to be so special about ME - get an enquiry so ... ~ perfect?

Also, how to go along with such a (first for me) FB inquiry?

I'm flattered, and I'm scared - and I have tears welling up, not necessarily tears of joy. Tears of what?

Can anyone help here to figure out what is going on?

One does not EVER 'reject' such a nice SOUNDING, appearing person, or?
Yet, to even answer makes me feel 'leaning out of my bus' too far - scared, and confused.
Is it the case of "we like to do only things we are used to"? Rattled ...

Eish,
Axélle

Your tears are a reflection of your realization that you are desirable.

How does it feel being a "red hot mama"?

[AbraCadabra]

Not sure what you're on about    Are you saying someone on Facebook has taken a fancy to you?

Well, maybe a troll? Maybe I'm just not ready to accept this NOT being a troll?

If we are flattered and do not exactly feel like a "red hot mama" it stirs up question, and emotions... as I tried to explain.
What more can I say?

It'd be helpful to learn some about this really new experience - being WANTED, desired, or simply just considered a sucker for flattery...

Does that make sense?

Axélle

[V M]

Maybe you should ask them more about themselves - Find out if they are sincere or not

[Felix]

Axelle as long as you make sure that you and your family and possessions and all that are safe, rejection is the only risk. I know "only" makes it sound like no big deal when it can be a very huge deal, but if you can bite your tongue and decide to still love yourself afterward even if the other person doesn't, you could be going down a really fun path with this.

[AbraCadabra]

Maybe you should ask them more about themselves - Find out if they are sincere or not

Yes, sure ... the person is actually VERY forthcoming --- but honey-bunch --- ALSO displaying this ever so often found 'male neediness' in glorifying us women. Well and then finding out sooner or later we are just human too. N'est pas?

Widower, daughter at varsity, wife killed in car accident 5 years back, business man, completely over the moon - just looking at my picture. Hum?!?

This is NOT quite the way I have experienced things in life up to this stage ... and so I'm more than a little 'at sea' right now.

Some men JUST LOVE to project their fantasies into a woman - maybe we have all done some this too at some stage? It is scary enough, that I though I wanted to ask some input about it, see?

Thanks for now ...
Axélle
PS: even some creeping suspicion someone from, or about Susan's, trying to play a joke on me ... now that would be ever so mean.

[Maegan]

Hi Sis,

Dink jy regtig dat dit iemand van Susan's is? ( I know that this is really going to confuse a lot of people, but Axelle will understand!  )

Find out more about this person if you can, and if he is genuine, see where it leads to!

Huggs

Maegan

[AbraCadabra]

Hi Sis,

Dink jy regtig dat dit iemand van Susan's is? ( I know that this is really going to confuse a lot of people, but Axelle will understand!  )

Find out more about this person if you can, and if he is genuine, see where it leads to!

Huggs

Maegan

Nee sweetie, natuurlik is ek nie heeltemal seker nie. Nie 'n all! Net 'n soort van agterdog. Hierdie man is heeltemal mal oor net my foto!?!
Dit is moeilik vir my om te glo - maar dan, ek kan net nie sê nie. Glad nie.

Talking about photos..., I sure like what HRT is doing to you, your avatar! --- Blow we away, hey!
It would make a lot more sense if any man goes all nuts about that... yes?

Axélle

[Rising_Angel]

Speaking as one who (for a long time) hid behind excuses, I can tell the only underlying truth of anything is this;

If you risk nothing, then nothing is all you'll win.

I think Mark Twain put it best; "Sing like no one's listening, love like you've never been hurt, dance like nobody's watching, and live like its heaven on earth."

Sweetie, with all the tough days we've faced, we've survived.  Emotions raw, hearts torn apart, but we endured, we grew, and we've survived.  Never let that success become a failure by fearing to face obstacles in the future.

[AbraCadabra]

Now hear this for some perspective on the subject matter?

Good Morning baby how was your night and how are you doing this morning? baby i really missed you yesterday but i am not happy for that honesty but just that it was stressful to me yesterday, After i came back from church then me with my best went to visit some widows and less privileged ones here in UK..

Person been claiming to be some VERY good Christian... etc.

We really do this until it is 6pm and when i came back i started feeling headache and i try to visit my PC both have no strength to do that....

Person did not answer at all for the whole weekend ... 'dead' divorced wife looking over his shoulder

So please i am so sorry okay but the thought of you always live in me baby, i started thinking about you wishing you are here to stay with me because your Soft touch, amazing scent, beauty from a goddess and you beautiful smiling face will heal me baby,

All this 'touch' and 'smell' and 'scent' stuff over the web??? How embarrassing...

'Healing' from some sort of obsession just looking at 'my' photo
Is this REAL

i know you are married but i stile want to be with you tile infinity baby, please baby do not misunderstand me when i say, you have my heart, soul and body without a doubt, because this is how i am feeling right in me....

My own profile says 'single' and Id mentioned single, NOT MARRIED ... then this from a 'good Christian'? Hard to place ...

baby now i know that the word love is so powerful because the more i try to hold myself the more you take away my breath, I wish you a very lovely day today baby and i hope to chat with you today my baby

Just, wow!!! 'With every mail it got more and more of the same emotional overdrive, no response in giving any sensible sort of answers - just sounding ever more love sick.
ME --- I think this cannot be real.
Anyone?

My final response, which bounced due to person no more available on FB --- days later being yet again asked to be 'friends':

Dear xxx,
I cannot think much other than you are busy with other females too. You must be getting confused between them all ... as it was clear from the beginning e.g. that I am NOT married. Not since 32 years in any case.
I feel there is something quite odd in your communications, your headache, your church visits of widows and the less privileged, your Christianity..., and so on.
There is a sense of the *unreal* pervading everything you say. You have only read some emails of mine, and looked at 3 FB pictures – nothing else. Yet you are coming on like *a ton of bricks*- ... something is not right here. I shall follow my instincts and wish you well.

Please do *NOT* contact me anymore. I am not upset, simply cautious. You have sought me out, and without having experienced you as a real person this is starting to feel more and more like a cruel joke. Yet it was you that also said *I don't like playing game* I think you are playing a game with me – and *I DO NOT LIKE IT* I'm not a fool and I gave you enough time, not to be unkind.
Note: *We dislike most in others what we much dislike in yourself*
Best regards,
Axélle
PS: and BTW, you NEVER explained any details about your dead wife, neither did you care to answer any more things from your side –at ALL-, you only keep rambling on about how crazy in love you are with me... this sounds all like a load of BS, simply what it feels like to me by now.

Oh, and the 'reawakened' FB profile of the person says 'divorced'--- from a dead wife

Life, maybe someone had some similar experience, it's why I bother to post it.

May I be forgiven NOT to carry on with this?

Axélle

[sfgeek]

You were right to follow your instincts on this.  He sounds needy, if not creepy.  He's certainly projecting his issues on to your images--which is flattering; he must obviously have found you smoking--but he didn't make a connection with you, not if he's that effusive with only a few pictures to go on.

Good job cutting things off before he turned real stalkery or something.

[AbraCadabra]

You were right to follow your instincts on this.  He sounds needy, if not creepy.  He's certainly projecting his issues on to your images--which is flattering; he must obviously have found you smoking--but he didn't make a connection with you, not if he's that effusive with only a few pictures to go on.

Good job cutting things off before he turned real stalkery or something.

Thanks dear, sounds like a case of "Fatal Attraction"
I didn't much like to watch that movie – and now this ... a male "bunny boiler"

Axélle

[Beth Andrea]

Makes me wonder why his "first" account was removed...was it because other people reported him? We'll never know, but you can put people on your "banned" list (I don't know what it's called, but it prevents contact between you and an account)