Ever feel like no matter how hard you try you just don't fit in

[Chrissy1]

Well thats me lately. i don't understand it I don't know why but I just feel like i don't fit in anywhere. I go in the chat room and it seems real clicky and I don't feel like i belong there. Even in my own home I don't feel like I fit in. I feel like a social misfit. Now don't misunderstand me I am not blaming anyone here! I just can't explain it


       Anyway thanks for reading I just needed to get it off my chest

[Beth Andrea]

I don't fit in anywhere, either.

Well, most anywhere. I do have one or two friends locally who accept me as I am.

I figure the rest of the world is the misfit, and I'm the only one who is sane rational "with it"....well, I'm the only one who is ME.

And believe you me, I march sashay to a different kazoo player.

Sometimes that's all we can do.

[Emily Mae]

I kinda feel the same way,

I don't know about on the chat though, I am usually too shy to actually talk on the chat a lot. The way my mind and thoughts have been though lately. It seems like no matter what people don't like me or don't want to talk to me, even if that isn't the case. I feel like the world, and everyone on it is against me no matter what I do. I don't know if this makes sense.

The big thing is just try to talk yourself out of feeling that way and try to make yourself realize most of it is just in your head.

[crazy old bat]

Yes and irl, I've pretty much given up on it.

[MadelineB]

Well thats me lately. i don't understand it I don't know why but I just feel like i don't fit in anywhere. I go in the chat room and it seems real clicky and I don't feel like i belong there. Even in my own home I don't feel like I fit in. I feel like a social misfit. Now don't misunderstand me I am not blaming anyone here! I just can't explain it

Hi Chrissy. Everybody feels that way sometimes, and some people feel that way all the time. I used to feel that way almost always!
My favorite story when I was little was the ugly duckling - she stuck out like a sore thumb and couldn't do anything right, until she grew into her full potential as a swan. Of course she didn't fit in as a duck!

Of course, sometimes the difference we feel is all on the inside. When we are at peace with ourselves, its easier to feel at home wherever we are.
I still get duckling flashbacks where I feel like that same awkward honker. It helps to have friends who can say "Silly goose, you fit in just fine with me!"

[LivingInGrey]

Chat can be that way from time to time, but the main goal of chat much like this forum is to provide support. Feel free to hang out in chat though, once people get to know you it gets better.

I don't feel like I fit in either... unless I'm alone, then I fit in just fine.

[Edge]

Oh definitely. I gave up trying.
I find for chat it helps to just jump into the conversation (unless, in my case, they're talking about comptuer stuff. I'm hopeless with that).

[kim58]

I believe that most of us feel the same way.  Don't fret about it and just be yourself girl.

[glicious]

You are not alone, it takes time and patience to build a network.  For some it just happens so quickly, for people like us, I feel like it would take a while before I can connect with someone.  Don't even get me started on chat-rooms as I never had luck in that department.  Just be yourself, smile, continue smiling and accept who you truly are.  When you do that, new friends will start blooming everywhere you go

[Chrissy1]

Thank you to everyone! Sometimes I think I just need to know I am not the only one. It is one of the many reasons I am glad I am here. This place has such wonderful people
thank you again

[Hikari]

Yeah, I feel like that a bit, I can pretend and fit in well enough with most anyone, but when I am fully myself I don't feel anywhere I am a perfect fit, I think that is more or less normal.

[Tigger]

Almost all of my life I have never really fit in any where, but I have come to accept that
if the world considers it's self normal I am really happy being abnormal

[Chrissy1]

Almost all of my life I have never really fit in any where, but I have come to accept that
if the world considers it's self normal I am really happy being abnormal

I guess I am still learning to do that not there yet

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

Chrissy,

The only sane ones are you and me.  And sometimes I wonder about you. 

I am also an outcast among most.  But I really don't care.  They don't pay my bills, buy my food or in any other way have control over my life.

[Amazon D]

Hey we all fit in as NON FIT IN'S 

[Jenny07]

Yes I agree I never felt comfortable to fit in with others.

Anyway I know I am the only sane one and have the certificate from my therapist to prove it.

[Cindy]

Everyone is welcome to talk to me. Ok I don't to the chat room but I'm pretty well out on the threads all the time. No reason to feel lonely. Public, private posts are welcome. If you want insulting laughs try Aunty Cindy's Agony Column, If you want general meet people try Cindy's Newbies.

If you just want a private talk, pm me.

If you want to raise a topic and are unsure how, let me know I'll guide you or do it for you.

This is a support site, we support, so don't be nervous, we know what it is like to grow up TG  and not be used to developing friendships.

That is part of what the site is about, getting over that hurdle.

So plunge on in, if you need help and advice on how to do stuff, ask staff. My door is always open to new and old friends.

Cindy

[V M]

You are def. not alone Chrissy

I spent most of my life not fitting in    How could I fit in anywhere if I didn't even feel comfortable with my own being? Eventually I stopped trying to fit in and decided to just be me

So then the journey began to find my true self and true friendships

Stick around, there are good friends and maybe even a best friend hiding in the woodwork 

Hugs

[justmeinoz]

I fit right in with the people who accept me for who I am.  They are the sort of people I want to fit in with.
Sometimes I feel lonely, but it passes.  Coming here helps a lot.

Karen.

[AbraCadabra]

Reading the OP's title I just think of: How about TTH ...? trying to hard?!

In the case of TTH nothing but NOTHING will be worse by trying even harder.
It's a bit like using make-up... less might work better than TTH; unless we are cat-walk-models and most of us really aren't 

Axélle