Hello,
My name is Tiffany and I have been married to my wife for a year and 7 months now. We were married in San Antonio, Texas even though she was clearly identifying as a female at the time. That is a long story that I don't tell many people because I don't want them to know my wife as any other person but my wife. Basically, we met a few Stonewall Democrats who wanted to use some bad, homophobic laws for a good cause. We took advantage because things just seemed to align at the right moments to make it happen. I just so happened to be going to San Antonio for a Psychology conference. It just so happened to be the best place for a lesbian and her MTF fiance to get married.
I am telling everybody this because I don't get to tell anyone this normally. I have a few friends that know and a few family members but all the new people I meet, I have to lie and tell them I got married in New Hampshire. I can't tell them that my wife is unemployeed because she is can't use her ID to get a job and she'd probably panic if I tried to make her. I can't tell them about how we are saving up to get her surgery and how we got ripped off from a loan that I should have looked into more for medical financing. I can't tell them my wife runs the website
tssurgeryguide.com because she has SO much information that she just had to put it all in one place. If I accidently let slip that my wife was in the Army before I met her, I have to tread carefully.
My wife started her transition when she was 19 and we are 23 now, I feel like we are beyond everybody "knowing" and I know it makes her more comfortable if they just mind their own business. I am not religious and I have no regrets about my relationship with my wife. I just wish there was some way that I didn't have to cover everything up. I hate feeling like a liar! It makes me feel like I did something wrong when I know that I didn't. We've been through so much together and I suppose everyone has their secrets. I just feel like I have a ton, it makes me feel guilty. I just want to be a married lesbian with her lesbian wife.
(Rant) I also want people to stop thinking my wife is a loser because she doesn't have a college degree or a job. Honestly, she has a website, she is a good wife, I love her, stop telling me we need two incomes!! I wouldn't be able to work a full time job and go to school full time without her as my anchor.
