Just like IRL, there are many people who live in more than one place.
Even live different lives, depending one where they are.
There isn't anything wrong, even remotely with that.
Who hasn't tried out different life styles, one way or the other?
It's less and less so as we grow older, as we tend to settle into a groove that suites us.
When it comes to gender, many have secrets that they either ignore or act on. Maybe.
For those of us who have grown into their groove, making the decision to do something about it can be difficult.
Only in the sense that we are so used to where have ended up or become.
For those who are still trying to find their selves, are willing to pay attention to gender, it's a difficult decision.
We aren't sure, either way, in the beginning as to were we will end up.
That would be the 'oh for sure' natural effect of making such a decision in a binary world.
There are many who just pass by the forest, intent on their getting to the next place.
But there are those who stop by, maybe come back to stay, maybe to visit.
So long as they aren't doing something to like, burn the place down, they are always welcome.
Just as we aren't expected to do the same in the cities. It's all good when we respect were we are.
Whether you live in a city and visit the country, were the forest seems to be, it's all OK.
They have parks in most cities, were they go to be with the trees, so to speak.
Where you choose to be doesn't disqualify you from being being someone who belongs in the city or forest.
There are many people from the forest who have a duality in their lives.
I don't know for sure, but I imagine the same holds true for city dwellers.
Why not? Because it's unsettling or confusing? Don't let it bother you. You don't need to.
Everyone does this whether it shows, whether they are willing to admit it or not.
We do this to one degree or another, at one time or another. You'll live through it, we do that.
There are no rules as to just how much of one place or the other you belong to.
Belong in both? Many do just that.
Don't let the strangeness of discovery ruin a perfectly fine journey to find yourself.
It gets better, and if it doesn't, there isn't anything that says you have to do anything in the first place.
It's up to you, and you only. A therapist is nothing more than a guide in life.
There's no guarantee that they know any better than you will, where you are going.
But they are usually pretty good to whatever degree, at keeping you from stepping off a cliff.
Don't let that 'did I remember to turn the stove off' effect ruin your journey.
And never let anyone tell you you have to go to or live in any one place.
It's your life, live it that way.
It's always good to visit with friends,
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