no more family

[Tristan]

so this transition has ofically cost me the blood line. not that they were ever good to me in the first place unless it served them. im just wondering. how did you all deal with the temp. depression. aside from that im in a small class of 7 at school so needless to say i have no friends. its like a dbl hit and im away from any such friends until jan maybe feb.

[Amazon D]

WOW    TRISTAN

WALK ON THE BEACH AND YOU WILL HAVE HUNDREDS OF FAMILY AND FRIENDS   

hugs lil sis

We love you and will love you until you can find love and a family

I also lost my family at first.. take time move on and let them heal from their feelings of loss / change 

[delia_dunno]

I am making every effort to reach out, and though some days I feel as if I have no friends and my family doesn't get it, some days I feel a little better. More than anything, though, I just don't stop reaching out. Sooner or later, I usually find someone to listen to, and that, I have found, helps me more than having someone listen.

I believe that things will perk up -- for you and for me.

[Constance]

When my wife said she wanted a divorce, I was suicidally depressed. That was last summer.

How did I handle the depression? I sought help. My own therapist was out of town, so I opted for a one-on-one session with our marriage therapist. I also contacted my Zen teacher for help, too.

Additionally, I just kept going through my day-to-day stuff. I kept pursuing transition because I felt that I really didn't have anything else to do.

[Jillieann Rose]

My family and wife have rejected me. The marriage is over and the divorce will be final soon.
My suggestion is to make some friends.
I have friends that are helping and encouraging me.
Some of them don't even know that I am trans they just know me as a women.
I needed and now have both types of friends.
The best way to make friends is to be a friend.
Many people are lonely and would love to have a good friend.
So Tristan if I were you I would go out and find people you can befriend and believe me some will become your friends.
Hang in there girl.
Hugs,
Jillieann Rose

[Constance]

Building on what Jillieann posted, I also went full-time not long after the divorce decision. A direct and unexpected result of going full-time was that I ended up with more friends than I had before I began transition.

Our divorce became final this past February, and I won't say that I'm over it. But, over all, things are better now than this time last year.

As Jillieann said, "Hang in there." We're here for you.

[SourCandy]

*hugs tight* I know it's easy to start to feel alone when things like this happen, I just had an experience like that. But just try to remember you have plenty of friends here and that you will continue to gain friends in all walks of life. Just try to hang on.

[Bexi]

This week you may have been in a vulnerable or accepting frame of mind. I did the same as you (uni, small class, no one you know) are intending (and turned to sex) and its REALLY not a solution, especially when you wake up and feel worse than before. Please dont go there 

BTW What kind of football (everyone but you Americans calls it thus  ) team do you support? I used to play volleyball too, but ended up too small
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[Bexi]

I'm Cuban.

Oops sorry!

Cool! I'm English, currently living in Scotland, which can be awkward considering the Scots always support "Whoever's playing England!"
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[dj1990]

Aw just hang in there for now.


Once you're ready just go out and make some friends.  Trust me there is some wonderful people out there...and it helps to live


in a big city. Most of my family is in Serbia...and my friends I have met here have become like family.

[justmeinoz]

It's tough. I can give my mother the benefit of the doubt, she's 89 and her level of denial varies.  She lives on the mainland 400km away so I don't get see her that often.   

My children are 24 and 28 and I have just had to accept that they care more about being embarresed  in front of their friends that hurting me.  They are adults and will have to deal with their own consciences.  I have left the door open, but they will have to make the approach.

I have joined a couple of support and GLBTI social groups and have gained a whole new family who will not desert me, so overall I am happier. 
What is the situation regarding support where you are?

Karen.