Favorite lines by people who "just don't get it"

[Dahlia]

"Why have you lied to me about who you really were all these years? Admit you are a deceptive liar!"

Which, in fact is true...isn't it? Except for 'you are'....'you were'...

[MariaMx]

Which, in fact is true...isn't it? Except for 'you are'....'you were'...

Yes, you are right, that should be 'are'. While technically true it is a highly inappropriate thing to say and shows a massive lack of understanding of the situation. For me being trans was something I explained away to myself as intrusive thoughts or something. A bug in the system if you will. I was extremely ashamed of these feelings and treated them as they weren't relevant to my real life. In essence I thought of my GD as not being real, and therefore the person I presented as was the real me.

[Beth Andrea]

That's not a strange or rude question....not at all.
It's an acknowledgement that she exists too and has her own personality, choice over matters, her own opinion, her own sexuality, her own emotions her own sexual ID  etc. too...like she should have.

Except the intention (based on context) is to reinforce the idea "you shouldn't do this, because you're hurting her."

I've had other people ask it, and given the other (supportive) things they say, makes it a sincere question.

[Edge]

"Why have you lied to me about who you really were all these years? Admit you are a deceptive liar!"

A better way of wording that would be "Why didn't you tell me?" or "Why didn't you feel you could tell me?" in a supportive, but questioning tone. Then the reasons can be discussed in a polite an honest way rather than both people getting defensive and causing more hurt than it's worth.

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

After a classmate found out, she asked me "Did it hurt?"    I assumed she meant developing boobs.  But she really was asking about SRS.  Well DUH! it is major surgery.

And as always.  "God doesn't make mistakes."  Best reply is "No, she doesn't.  She made me this way for her glory."

[Violet Bloom]

Just tell them God spoke to you and told you this was part of The Plan all along.  See if they can respond to THAT!  (Hell, if God could tell George W. Bush to go to war in the Middle East then God can certainly tell you to 'go to war' on your body )

Everyone knows I'm so 'god-less' I couldn't pull off this statement personally though.  Your experiences may vary.

[suzifrommd]

* There's no such thing as gender. It's all a product of how you were raised.

* You're just a guy getting in touch with his female side.

[Edge]

* There's no such thing as gender. It's all a product of how you were raised.

* You're just a guy getting in touch with his female side.

Oh! I get that too except about male.
"Gender is a social construct." That I put on the same level as scientology and creationism, yet I still feel the way I do.

Me: I'm genderfluid.
Them: You like girls? (or some other comment about sexuality)
Me: *head desk* Well, yes, but that's not the same thing.

[Padma]

See, this is why I avoid the word "transsexual" . It annoys me a lot that people understand me better if I tell them I'm a hippy dyke than if I say I'm a trans woman who likes women.

[Jen-Jen]

"Your an Abomination, your going straight to hell!" Uh no, you are!

"God doesn't make mistakes." I never said he did! He loves me as the real me, I was made in his image!

"You should just be happy with yourself." I am!

" why would you want to be a THING?"  I am not a thing I am a person, a young woman!

"You will always just be a really pretty boy, thats it! you will never be a real girl"

[Dahlia]

Except the intention (based on context) is to reinforce the idea "you shouldn't do this, because you're hurting her."

I've had other people ask it, and given the other (supportive) things they say, makes it a sincere question.

Well, a wife or GF who gets, sometimes after years or even  decades,  involuntarily involved  with a hubby/BF who turns out to be a MTF needs a lot of support (too)

Otherwise the whole MTF thing will revolve around the MTF......while the wife/GF, her feelings, emotions, etc gets totally snowed under.
That's almost like totally denying her existence, her personality, character, choices, feeling, emotions, her sexual identity....

[Edge]

Yeah, but no one should be expected to be someone other than who they are for another person.

"Why can't you just be happy with what you have?"

[Padma]

"You're insulting the Women's Struggle... blah blah male privilege blah drone..."

Any variation on "Have you thought about this?" - seriously?

[Beth Andrea]

Well, a wife or GF who gets, sometimes after years or even  decades,  involuntarily involved  with a hubby/BF who turns out to be a MTF needs a lot of support (too)

Otherwise the whole MTF thing will revolve around the MTF......while the wife/GF, her feelings, emotions, etc gets totally snowed under.
That's almost like totally denying her existence, her personality, character, choices, feeling, emotions, her sexual identity....

Absolutely! And I do support and encourage her, whatever her choice is/will be.

This means we're getting a divorce. I'm open to reconciliation, but me being "Beth" is not negotiable, and her wanting a "man" as a husband is not negotiable. So, we're at an impasse, with me encouraging her without smothering her (I hope so...she doesn't give me any feedback on things).

"The opposite of love is not hate...It is indifference."

But, for other people to think that because I'm trans that somehow I'm "of course" neglecting my duties as a husband and father...that's a forehead slap.

[Ayden]

"But if you're married to a guy, you should just stay a girl."

"Why bother transitioning if you aren't a lesbian?" (I facepalmed through my own head on this one)

"You're just a Butch lesbian in denial."

"You can't be a guy because you have XX chromosomes." or "Nature doesn't make mistakes."

"You only think that because you have mother issues and were always really close with the men in the family."


But I've had a few acceptance comments that were pretty awesome. My favorite was my grandmother. "Hm. Yeah. You made a terrible girl. Like a bull in a china shop. How's the weather?"

[Edge]

"Nature doesn't make mistakes."

Actually, it's a scientific (and obvious) fact that no biological processes are perfect.

[EmmaMcAllister]

"Did porn make you feel this way?" My Dad during our first awkward conversation.

[Jen-Jen]

"Did porn make you feel this way?" My Dad during our first awkward conversation.

lol.. love it! I would have responded "yes dad, in fact  I am quiting school and becoming a pornstar!"
great avatar by the way! super cute!

[EmmaMcAllister]

lol.. love it! I would have responded "yes dad, in fact  I am quiting school and becoming a pornstar!"
great avatar by the way! super cute!

Hehe. And, thanks!

[Arch]

Pre-transition, I had an absurdly low "female" T level, below the bottom of the range. When my ex found out, he said, "Maybe if you take a really low dose of T, you'll get up to normal female levels and not want to transition."

I know, I know--he was grasping at straws. But it showed me he just didn't get it, despite knowing me as male-identified for some eighteen years before that date.