Favorite lines by people who "just don't get it"

[Padma]

I was compared to a drug addict who does unnatural substances to unnaturally alter my body. I feel disgusted and devastated after hearing and experiencing that considering who had the nerve to say this to me.

Awful. If people are going to think "drugs" they can think of us as being like diabetics instead - we do what we do in order to stay well.

[Clay]

Awful. If people are going to think "drugs" they can think of us as being like diabetics instead - we do what we do in order to stay well.

Sometimes I think the "think" part is the problem here.

[Lrouk]

"but if you like guys, why don't you stay a girl to get more guys? thats what I would do"

I get this a lot. I also get "but won't you feel weird being a guy with other guys?" '-_-

[Emily Aster]

"This happened because you pushed God out of your life and let Satan in. "

Actually it was someone that supposedly spoke for God (a pastor) that nearly drove me to suicide because of me being trans, that caused me to leave, not the other way around.

[Liminal Stranger]

"This happened because you pushed God out of your life and let Satan in. "

Actually it was someone that supposedly spoke for God (a pastor) that nearly drove me to suicide because of me being trans, that caused me to leave, not the other way around.

...Wow. People like that sicken me. Sorry you had to be exposed to that kind of ignorance.

"Can't you just keep that in your head?" Uhhh....nope. Tried that already.
"Why can't you just pretend you're a boy and have all your sick friends play along and call you Max?" If you mean living as who I am and letting my friends know that, then I'm already doing it. But if you think I'm going to keep the wrong body parts to live up to what you want, then you're only kidding yourself.

And then there's this gem:
"Dad, I don't care that you disagree with his decision; you don't call someone an it. That's demoralizing and horrible."
"Okay fine. It's just that she doesn't look like a man or a woman."
"She? Really? He's not a girl."
"Well, that's your opinion. My opinion, and that of the rest of the scientific community, is that Chaz Bono is a woman. She is genetically female."
*insert every profane word known to man and some known to dolphin here*

Are you kidding, Dad. Are you really kidding right now. You'll supposedly support me if some stranger with a Ph.D. says what your son has been saying, but according to your logic I'll always be female? No thanks, screw you. So done with this family, can't wait until college.

[Edge]

"Well, that's your opinion. My opinion, and that of the rest of the scientific community, is that Chaz Bono is a woman. She is genetically female."

Actually, the scientific community is aware that genetics aren't the be all and end all.

[Liminal Stranger]

Actually, the scientific community is aware that genetics aren't the be all and end all.

Exactly. He was saying it just to upset me, so I brought up cases that clearly went against it, and he goes off and say that I'm referencing things that have nothing to do with what I have. Because, you know, I obviously have everything in working order and nothing but normal "girl" chromosomes because he says so. Jerk 

[sophieoftn]

urrrrrrrr....... I really hate it when they say this. For god's  sake if I am gay I would be dating women, not men. I rather find this is one of the most offending comments.  Not because they say I am gay, but because implying I am not a woman.

Exactly!!!!

Also -- those who ASSume that a guy who isn't gay isn't a match for me perpetuate one of the very attitudes that prevents people from making the introductions that could help my loneliness --- as well as causing them to make introductions that serve only to offend me.

[Lesley_Roberta]

What confuses me to no small amount, is how sooooo much of our grief, comes in the form of religious people spouting religious beliefs that have nothing beneficial for any of us here at Susan's, and then I meet so many of our group still unable to stop wanting to be one of them, (religious people and supporting the same religious beliefs).

I don't get it. Their god doesn't seem to want us, and his people sure don't seem to want us. But so many seem to be so desperately in need of joining their club.

I just don't get it. I am not interested in joining any group that wants to treat me like that.
I confounds me that any of our crowd would be so desperate to join a group with no love for them.

I keep hearing all the usual comments about 'oh my god is a god of love', and it sounds as ridiculous as the comments aimed against us from the people we are laughing at here on the thread.
God isn't a nice guy, and I would know, I spent a lot of my life in his club.

One of two things is happening when I die. Either I am right and he doesn't exist, and I can die in peace, or he does exist, and I can spit in his face before telling him I have no interest in his haven for what I had hoped I was leaving behind when I died.

I don't get all the people trying to force their way into a religion that doesn't want them.

[Beth Andrea]

So I was talking with a customer today...she knows I'm trans (everyone does in my world), she was asking the usual questions, how are things, family ok, when's the surgery, etc...she addressed me as Beth throughout...but when she left, she says, "Alright, thank you sir!"

ARGGGGHHHHH!!!1!!1%&;#

[StellaB]

"Nobody will want to sleep with you." (I get far more romantic interest now than I ever did as a male).

"It's all in your mind." (Yes of course it is. Where else does gender exist?)

(From another trans woman)
'You can't be a genuine transsexual if you don't have your own hair.'

"How do you manage to pee?"

"Anyone trans is lower than a rapist or paedophile." (My father's take).

[Keira]

"Son I know you're having issues with your sexual orientation"

No dad. Just...no. Being transgender is not the same as being gay...

"So you want to get a sex change so that you can have sex as a girl?"

(Facepalm) No dad...there are transgender lesbians too, and some want to keep their parts. Besides, not all transgender people get a "sex change".

Later that night...

"Since you think that transgender is the same as sexual orientation"

*Hands him a pflag booklet on being transgender*

Edit- Rephrased for clarity and to match the original conversation. (I didn't know how to phrase it when I was writing it)

[Beth Andrea]

"But I thought that you wanted to get a sex change, so that you can have sex as a girl"

OMG

*double face palm*

It is funny (odd) that so many straight people assume that SRS is ONLY so we can experience sex as a girl...and that the only "sex" is vaginal intercourse...no wonder foreplay is unheard of (among males).

[Keira]

OMG

*double face palm*

It is funny (odd) that so many straight people assume that SRS is ONLY so we can experience sex as a girl...and that the only "sex" is vaginal intercourse...no wonder foreplay is unheard of (among males).

What's even worse is that he assumed that I want srs...

To him transsexual = sex change...face palm.

What I wanted say to him is that "anal sex isn't just for people who are gay"...

[Liminal Stranger]

"You're not even a sexual person. What do you need a penis for?"
Uhh...how 'bout my own sanity?

[Beth Andrea]

"You're not even a sexual person. What do you need a penis for?"
Uhh...how 'bout my own sanity?

If I were FTM, I'd be wondering why that person wants to know why I "need" a penis....I mean, it's none of their business, right?

[Keira]

"You're not even a sexual person. What do you need a penis for?"
Uhh...how 'bout my own sanity?

(Assuming the person is male)

I would respond, "What do you need a penis for?". I guess you could reverse it if the person who asked the question is female.

[StellaB]

Conversation with a hostel worker

Him: Is that your own hair or a wig?
Me: It's a wig?
Him: Synthetic?
Me: No, human hair.
Him: Ewww! You mean you're going round wearing a wig with the hair of dead people?

Another conversation

Man: So you're planning surgery?
Me: Yes eventually.
Man: And I suppose you're donating your penis to be used in a transplant, right?
Me: Yeah, something like that.

[Beth Andrea]

Conversation with a hostel worker

Him: Is that your own hair or a wig?
Me: It's a wig?
Him: Synthetic?
Me: No, human hair.
Him: Ewww! You mean you're going round wearing a wig with the hair of dead people?

No, they were alive when I shaved their head...

Another conversation

Man: So you're planning surgery?
Me: Yes eventually.
Man: And I suppose you're donating your penis to be used in a transplant, right?
Me: Yeah, something like that.

Yeah, they can only transplant penises that are over 10" long...and only to people with penises less than 4"...why, do you need mine?

[Blaine]

These have probably been posted already, but oh well.

"But you could be so pretty if you'd just put some make-up on!"
Do you know me at all, lady? The last time I had make-up on I was going as a Dalmatian for Halloween in 1997.

"Stop using that deodorant. It makes you smell like a guy."
Well, if you insist... But I'll smell much worse tomorrow.

"I wish you'd let your hair grow out a little bit. It looks better when it's down to your shoulders."
Can't tell if she doesn't like me looking masculine or if she still hates my cartilage piercings.