Favorite lines by people who "just don't get it"

[Liminal Stranger]

"Yeah but you would understand these things because you're really a girl"
Uhh...no. See, I'm transitioning because I'm not a girl. Don't expect me to understand why X responded to Y by saying Z. I can't help you there >.>
Only my anatomy is female, dammit!

[suzifrommd]

Excerpt of my cousin's response to my coming out to him:

I do not embrace the all aspects of the transgender/transsexual POV as Sacred Truth. Personally I believe this action is a very grievous form of violence. Violence against yourself, against your wife and children, against your parents and extended family, against your psyche and body and being.

***Peels self off floor after reading this****

[Edge]

I don't think those words mean what your cousin thinks they mean. Violence and being who you are don't go together. And if they do, that's a whole other kettle of fish unrelated to being trans.

[Elijah3291]

You will have no value as a (fill in natal gender) because you won't be able to have kids. The feminist in me screamed bloody murder when I was told this.

I mean obviously having babies is ALL women are good for.. UGH I hate stuff like this, what a lame excuse, not everyone wants kids.

[Beth Andrea]

geez, Suzi...sounds like your cousin doesn't embrace any aspect of being trans...just remember, harsh comments like that reveal more about them than you.

[cannedrabbit]

Wow. WOW. I can't even fathom saying this stuff to someone, even before my wife came out or I knew much about the trans* community.

geez, Suzi...sounds like your cousin doesn't embrace any aspect of being trans...just remember, harsh comments like that reveal more about them than you.

And I totally agree with you Beth Andrea!

[Chamillion]

"Yeah but you would understand these things because you're really a girl"
Uhh...no. See, I'm transitioning because I'm not a girl. Don't expect me to understand why X responded to Y by saying Z. I can't help you there >.>
Only my anatomy is female, dammit!

Yeah I hate this! I've had this happen with 2 female acquaintances who are aware of my past. They'll say something and be like, "But you know why us girls act like this" and I'm just like.. um no actually it makes no sense.

[Clockpunk]

This one's probably a classic;
"I'll call you ____ when you are one."

And my favourite;
"It's just a phase! You'll get over it eventually!"
followed by <-- and I stress
"So you're really doing it!?"

"Yeah but you would understand these things because you're really a girl"
Uhh...no. See, I'm transitioning because I'm not a girl. Don't expect me to understand why X responded to Y by saying Z. I can't help you there >.>
Only my anatomy is female, dammit!

Had this one SO MANY TIMES!!!
Especially after I (jokingly) say 'why are girls so -insert some feminine action here-?
"You're a girl too, you should know!"
NOIDONOT-SHUTYOURFACE! Even if I wasn't joking around, still!! -facekeyboard-

[bethanyjadefowell]

I remembered that my Auntie (the one I've talked about on here) said this to my mum "Why is he paying private, I thought he'd of just gone to his GP" Meaning, she thought I could just of gone to my GP and said something like "doctor, I want a sex change", and that my GP would just give me treatment that day!!

Another one she said was "Sorry but me and Anne (my other auntie) can't get our heads round what he is doing". How hard is it to understand this: "he is not just wearing ladies clothes, he is on treatment to change he's whole body into a female and in three years time will look nothing like Simon"?

[suzifrommd]

What Does The Bible say???

Don't forget Isaiah 56:4-5

4 For thus saith the Lord unto the eunuchs that keep my sabbaths, and choose the things that please me, and take hold of my covenant;

5 Even unto them will I give in mine house and within my walls a place and a name better than of sons and of daughters: I will give them an everlasting name, that shall not be cut off.

Even in biblical times we were taking new names with the bible's blessing!

[Beth Andrea]

I need to make a request for this thread...

Please do not cite the Bible to justify or explain being Trans.

It causes me actual emotional pain to read these things. The thread is to quote or illustrate things people say or do in their ignorance of what it is to be trans, and (perhaps) how it made you feel.

If you wish to cite chapter and verse in the context of people who use the various "Holy Books" against us, please--I beg you--start another thread.

Thank you.

[Edge]

"What do you mean by "treat you like a guy?" I treat everyone the same." Not that I've seen.
"Do you think your perspective of being a guy isn't exactly accurate? Do you get what I mean?" No. "Like what my perception of something I'm not would be." No.

[cannedrabbit]

This tumblr, but more specifically, this quote: http://dearnoncispeople.tumblr.com/post/54174385077/dear-non-cis-people-perhaps-we-dont-put-a-huge

My wife has mostly been met with support, but the few who have been against her transition have pretty much used this argument word for word. "I don't feel like a man nor do I feel like a woman"... "our physical appearance and the way people see us doesn't mean anything to us."

I feel like the point has pretty much been missed here. Or like, totally flown over.




Edited for misquote

[Chloe]

I feel like the point has pretty much been missed here. Or like, totally flown over.

Great link Rabbit! THX! "Cis people", present company excluded of course & 'religious' in particular, ARE The Problem and sometimes I think we are our own worst enemy for sure!

LOL " Your BAD not mine !!"

[Tadpole]

"As women get older they are prone to developing osteoporosis"
"You are not a man/ why do you want to be a man?"
"Why are you trying to look like a man? I don't understand."
"You smell like a man."
"If you decide to become a man, I will refer to you as man" but what about now?
"What can I get you for dessert, mademoiselle?"
madam
madam
madam
ma'am
"I suppose you just want everything."
madam

[V M]

I think some people 'get it' but they just enjoy being obstinate, some of my neighbors are adamantly bent on use male pronouns, one even refers to me in the third person saying "He's going to the store" or 'he's doing this or that'

Sometimes I'll reply with something like "I don't know what he's doing but I am going to the store"

[FTMDiaries]

I've been refused surgery that could greatly improve my quality of life because, according to the doctor, "There is an operation that we do on men, but we don't do it on women".

It's on a part of the anatomy that has absolutely nothing to do with sex or gender.

Oh, and of course, he kept addressing me as 'Miss' throughout the consultation, despite my repeated corrections. 

[Liminal Stranger]

This gem came from my dad yesterday after I stated that the DOE has an anti-discrimination policy that includes trans students in its protection:

"You're not transgender."
"...Yes I am."
"No you're not."
"What are you talking about? Of course I am."
"Have you changed your gender?"
"What?"
"Transgender people change their gender. Have you changed your gender?"
"Actually, it's the biological sex that gets changed-"
"You know damned well what I mean, *birthname*."
"...Anyway, I don't want to change my gender, I want to change my sex to match it. Transgender means the two don't match, not even transsexual is a label that only applies to those who have changed their sex completely."
"No, you're wrong."

D'oh.

[bethanyjadefowell]

That sounds just like my dad. The thing is, what we are inside, people can't see. That's one of the reasons "people just don't get it"

And you dad needs to understand that, changing your birth name does NOT change your gender. You should tell you dad to change his name to a female name, and then in three years time, he should understand that he has not changed his gender at all.

And what your dad is forgetting. Changing your name does not change your sex. So if your a woman wanting to be a man and you call yourself David, you can be Miss David but you'll be male until you can change that with a new birth certificate.

[zombieinc]

This pertains more to sexuality than gender. Here goes:

Me: I am attracted to women and have zero interest in being with a man.
Good Christian Friend: That's ok. Everyone's bi these days.
Me: I am not bi.
GCF: Well, I didn't say you were bi.
Me: Uh...
GCF: You could always meet a Mr. Right, fall in love and end up married someday. It happens. God works in mysterious ways.
Me: Just so we're clear....I don't like men.
GCF: Ok, well, God could have a different plan.
Me: Well, if God's plan for me involves a man....whatever, screw it, I can't continue this conversation.
GCF: I promised God I wouldn't date until God showed me the One....and he did, when I was 19 and it was awesome. Don't you want your life to fall into place like that someday?
Me: So, how is your cat doing? Is he still sick?