Favorite lines by people who "just don't get it"

[Beth Andrea]

This pertains more to sexuality than gender. Here goes:

Me: I am attracted to women and have zero interest in being with a man.
Good Christian Friend: That's ok. Everyone's bi these days.
Me: I am not bi.
GCF: Well, I didn't say you were bi.
Me: Uh...
GCF: You could always meet a Mr. Right, fall in love and end up married someday. It happens. God works in mysterious ways.
Me: Just so we're clear....I don't like men.
GCF: Ok, well, God could have a different plan.
Me: Well, if God's plan for me involves a man....whatever, screw it, I can't continue this conversation.
GCF: I promised God I wouldn't date until God showed me the One....and he did, when I was 19 and it was awesome. Don't you want your life to fall into place like that someday?
Me: So, how is your cat doing? Is he still sick?

LOL!

*pats Zombieinc on shoulder* Oh yes, I know (knew) the "GCF" well...like talking to a machine, always returning the conversation to "what does God want for you in your life?" when want they REALLY mean is, "What do *I* want for you in your life?"

[King Malachite]

From my dad....not neccessarily about being transgender, but anything he doesn't agree with.

"It's your life.  If you f**K it up, then that's on you.  I did all I can do."

Translation: Because I don't agree with this, you will fail at it and when you do, you will be like "he told me so".

[Soren]

My dad and I finally talked. Here are some of my favorite gems:
"I'm actually licensed and could be a psychologist if I wanted to..."
"I think it's PTSD, I was an ->-bleeped-<- to you when you were growing up"
"I think there's also some repressed sexuality issues, since you used to be fat"
"You'll never get a job at the library, they won't hire anyone controversial"
"But you used to like feminine things and now you've done a complete 180 and are against anything even remotely feminine" (FYI, I had pink nail polish on when he said that)
"Merry Maids is always hiring young girls like you"
"I think you're confused"
"You should get therapy"
"Therapists are great"
and my favorite:
"Why can't you just put this off until you have a steady job- you could get one real easily. Look, all you'd have to do is stop squishing your boobs down, wear a skirt, do your hair and makeup and your could get a high paying job as a receptionist or a clerical worker."

[Lesley_Roberta]

'high paying job as a receptionist or a clerical worker"

What reality is that from I wasn't aware that they were such lucrative jobs

[Soren]

'high paying job as a receptionist or a clerical worker"

What reality is that from I wasn't aware that they were such lucrative jobs

The magical land-of-not-real in my dad's head, I would presume.

[Liminal Stranger]

Let's play The Transphobic Parent Game!

Being harassed by a spy sent out by my grandmother last night because she wants to know why her "granddaughter" won't speak to her:

"And this....noooo, this isn't your daughter, is it? No, this can't be."
My dad: "This is my child, yes." (-0.5)
The guy walked away after laughing a bit over conversation with my dad, after which I turned to him.
Dad: "Well, what was I supposed to say?) (+0.5)

Later, while getting pizza:

"You can't call me Dad anymore. Now you have to call me Mom." (+99999999999999999)

Congratulations! New Hi-Score!

[Alaia]

About 5 years back after I first came out to my wife that I had desires to be a woman, I ended up going to a church associated therapist. During one of the sessions with her:

Me: I just want to be happy. I'm just afraid, what if I do transition and I'm not truly happy with myself? (I was concerned about the guilt I'd feel from the perceived consequences of that choice)
Therapist: Well when you look at any of those people that make that choice, I don't think any of them can ever truly be happy.

What the hell kind of thing is that to say? Needless to say I never went back.

[zombieinc]

About 5 years back after I first came out to my wife that I had desires to be a woman, I ended up going to a church associated therapist. During one of the sessions with her:

Me: I just want to be happy. I'm just afraid, what if I do transition and I'm not truly happy with myself? (I was concerned about the guilt I'd feel from the perceived consequences of that choice)
Therapist: Well when you look at any of those people that make that choice, I don't think any of them can ever truly be happy.

What the hell kind of thing is that to say? Needless to say I never went back.

Yep. I've heard that before too. At first my church-sponsored therapist seemed like she was cool with it....then she started saying things like what your therapist said. Then I stopped going to see her.

It's like just because your trans or thinking about trans issues or having some dysphoria...Christian therapists think that they can just tell you to get over it or that you need God or that you can't be happy if you change and that's the end of the story. Yet if you told them that you had a condition that was going to cause you to lose a limb or lose your sex organs, they'd be lining people up to pray for you. 

[Makalii]

What they said to me...


"I hate dresses, you're so lucky you don't have to wear them."

"Be glad you're not a girl."

"You could never understand this pain!"

"You should just be grateful for what you have."

"You're a boy, and there's nothing you can do about it!"


What I wanted to say back...


"For your information, I love dresses!! And guess what, I love high heels too!! *gasp*"

"I am a girl! Be glad you're not a transexual."

"I would gladly chop off six of my fingers if it meant I could have a period! If you hate it so much then grow a pair and get rid of it. But just like you and every other girl, I have pains that you could never understand and they are at least as bad if not ten times worse than yours mentally, physically, and emotionally."

"And you should be grateful I decided to share my feelings with you, because next time I won't tell you anything."

"Watch me... I am not a boy..."


What I actually said...


Nothing.... I walked away... God I need to come out to all of them...


whew... I think I'm done venting... oh wait...

"You're a man, get over it!"

That one hurt a lot...

[Lesley_Roberta]

Good post Makalii

Yes I often think of pain a lot.

I suffer from fybromyalgia. It is not a significant pain, it is not a severe pain, but consider this, I have been IN pain for hmm just under 20 years.

Most bad pain, is usually not 20 years long.

Then again, I have experienced thanks to fybromyalgia, what it is like to feel pain over 100% of my body for a non stop period of 72 hours. I was nearly irrational to the point of being able to do just about anything to end it.

I have a migraine condition too oh yippee for that I don't mind saying. Nothing quite like a migraine, your mind essentially short circuits, your nervous system malfunctions, all your senses misreport sensory data.

But I have never experienced menstruation, never given birth and guess what, oh yippee skippee so what. It doesn't make a person able to say that a male shaped person doesn't know pain.

And being disabled, and watching all your dreams just die. Some pain is not entirely physical and not easy to quantify in degrees of pain.

I do dislike, that I will never experience the significant discomfort of child birth. That screaming and hollering while you push a new life out into the world. But I also don't get to see for the first time a life I made as well.

Menstruation is part of life, but, a cis female can always get it turned off too. It's not like it is a curse that can't be removed.

Grateful for what I have? Yes I am grateful I am breathing, grateful I am alive, grateful I live in Canada and grateful for a wide range of things. But, I am not a man, and I'd rather take a pass on all the perks our misogynist society directs my way because I am considered male.

I understand, some females don't like dresses and skirts. Hey some do some don't
I hate fast food, but if you want to eat it that's your business I say.

[MariaMx]

"So.........blah blah blah blah cut off your penis?"

[FTMDiaries]

One of my brothers read my Facebook post in which I came out as trans and announced my name change.

He contacted me (using my birth name) and said he thought his FB had been hacked.

[Beth Andrea]

"So.........blah blah blah blah cut off your penis?"

I had that too, and the result was rather funny...so I made a thread especially for it!

[StellaB]

A call to the customer service department of a telephone company.

Staff: Can I have your account number please?
Me: Certainly, it's XXXXX XXXX
Staff: And your name?
Me: I'm Stella XXXXXXXX, the account holder.
Staff: And am I speaking with the account holder?
Me: Yes I am the account holder, I am Ms. Stella XXXXXXXX
Staff: I need to speak with the account holder.
Me: I am the account holder. I am Ms. Stella XXXXXXXXX.
Staff: No, I need to speak with the account holder.
Me: I am the account holder, I am Ms. Stella XXXXXXXXX, I'm transgendered.
Staff: I understand. But Mr Transgender, I need to speak with the account holder.
Me: Excuse me, who is Mr Transgender?
Staff: You are Mr Transgender sir. Can I speak with the account holder Miss Stella XXXXXXXX
Me: You are speaking with the account holder Ms Stella Baker. I'm transgendered.
Staff: I understand Mr Transgender, but can I please speak with Miss Stella XXXXXXXX the account holder?
Me: It's okay. Please don't worry about it. I'll go online instead. Thank you.
Staff: Very well. Is there anything else I can do for you?
Me: Unfortunately not.
Staff: Have a nice day.

[ZoeM]

A call to the customer service department of a telephone company.

Staff: Can I have your account number please?
Me: Certainly, it's XXXXX XXXX
Staff: And your name?
Me: I'm Stella XXXXXXXX, the account holder.
Staff: And am I speaking with the account holder?
Me: Yes I am the account holder, I am Ms. Stella XXXXXXXX
Staff: I need to speak with the account holder.
Me: I am the account holder. I am Ms. Stella XXXXXXXXX.
Staff: No, I need to speak with the account holder.
Me: I am the account holder, I am Ms. Stella XXXXXXXXX, I'm transgendered.
Staff: I understand. But Mr Transgender, I need to speak with the account holder.
Me: Excuse me, who is Mr Transgender?
Staff: You are Mr Transgender sir. Can I speak with the account holder Miss Stella XXXXXXXX
Me: You are speaking with the account holder Ms Stella Baker. I'm transgendered.
Staff: I understand Mr Transgender, but can I please speak with Miss Stella XXXXXXXX the account holder?
Me: It's okay. Please don't worry about it. I'll go online instead. Thank you.
Staff: Very well. Is there anything else I can do for you?
Me: Unfortunately not.
Staff: Have a nice day.

That is hilarious and horrible at the same time.

[Siege]

Admittedly, I'm easily squicked when it comes to bugs (I have a bit of a phobia, I guess) and watching people prep animals for human consumption. This includes fish. I don't like fish at all - I hate the smell, the taste, the texture, the animal itself...everything, despite liking other sorts of seafood. One day, my dad was watching an outdoorsman-type show, and the main feature was how to best prep fish after catching them. Of course, this included showing step-by-step how to do it. I made a face and said something along the lines of, "Ew, gross" before turning away from the TV so I wouldn't have to watch.

My dad immediately pipes up with, "How can you think that's gross? I thought you wanted to be a man."

Of course, thats not the only thing he does. There's the constant misgendering me and calling me by my birth name at every opportunity, scoffing when I tell him I'd get thrown out of the military (or not allowed to serve at all), basically making fun of me every time I find something gross that I apparently shouldn't, getting angry at me every time I get a piece of mail addressed to "Christopher", openly criticizing and bashing LGBT+ people when a spot about equality shows on the news...the list goes on.

And when he gets really angry at me for whatever, he always breaks out, "You're never going to be a man! You're a woman and you always will be!" without fail. Sometimes he throws religion in there, too.

[Lesley_Roberta]

He sounds like a real winner

[Amelia Pond]

A call to the customer service department of a telephone company.

Staff: Can I have your account number please?
Me: Certainly, it's XXXXX XXXX
Staff: And your name?
Me: I'm Stella XXXXXXXX, the account holder.
Staff: And am I speaking with the account holder?
Me: Yes I am the account holder, I am Ms. Stella XXXXXXXX
Staff: I need to speak with the account holder.
Me: I am the account holder. I am Ms. Stella XXXXXXXXX.
Staff: No, I need to speak with the account holder.
Me: I am the account holder, I am Ms. Stella XXXXXXXXX, I'm transgendered.
Staff: I understand. But Mr Transgender, I need to speak with the account holder.
Me: Excuse me, who is Mr Transgender?
Staff: You are Mr Transgender sir. Can I speak with the account holder Miss Stella XXXXXXXX
Me: You are speaking with the account holder Ms Stella Baker. I'm transgendered.
Staff: I understand Mr Transgender, but can I please speak with Miss Stella XXXXXXXX the account holder?
Me: It's okay. Please don't worry about it. I'll go online instead. Thank you.
Staff: Very well. Is there anything else I can do for you?
Me: Unfortunately not.
Staff: Have a nice day.

It's frightening how stupid some people really are. 

Amy

[MaidofOrleans]

"That's not very girly!"

"So? Why does everything I do have to be girly?"

"Uh...I thought that was your thing?"

It's frightening how stupid some people really are. 

Amy

That's not stupid, that's a outsourced worker following a script.

[Apples Mk.II]

"Weren't you a convinced heterosexual?"

Not exactly, more like I was trying to convince me.

"But you have a rather masculine face"

That's what surgery is for, hon.



I had forgotten that he was a good guy in everything but women, where he is one of those that believe thay can always hypnotize a girl and fork at the end of the night.