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Favorite lines by people who "just don't get it"

Started by Beth Andrea, July 28, 2012, 02:50:01 AM

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Roxanne_Burste

Quote from: Tadpole on August 14, 2013, 06:30:22 PM
You can be a lesbian, Rox.

"If you are a lesbian then you go to change your gender then what are you called?"

"There's a woman she used to be a woman now she's a man I guess she's a man anyway, she comes up to me and gets all up in my business and says she wants to put her manhood all over me and I'm like what manhood? Where is the penis? She I mean he thinks he's a gay guy? How is it done? Should I have sex with him?"

To which I pretend to be understanding...

Haha I know, I am one(:

But people who say that usually aren't trying to be rude, they just have trouble understanding it, so I fill them in.
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big kim

Nobody cares what you do in your private life
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Beth Andrea

Quote from: big kim on August 15, 2013, 02:12:10 AM
Nobody cares what you do in your private life

Some people do. One's partner, for example...and the nosy self-righteous busybodies who are all too eager to judge somebody with their morals.

I agree it's nobody's business but your own ...but people are odd that way.
...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

--read in a Tessa James post 1/16/2017
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Lesley_Roberta

Quote from: big kim on August 15, 2013, 02:12:10 AM
Nobody cares what you do in your private life

Eeeeeeeevrybody cares what people do in their private lives, and that is the problem.

And they get right in your face if you do it in public too that's for sure, because then it is supposedly you injuring them in some way by subjecting them to it.

I mean, a couple of male looking persons kissing can seriously traumatize a kid I suppose. Well you would think by the way they act.

Two women getting married, and suddenly ordinary heteros fear their marriages are in dire peril of falling apart. Well based on the news items I have seen.

Clearly my walking down the street wearing a purse makes me an agent of wanton destruction.
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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Roxanne_Burste

New one from my mom the other dayy: "I gave birth to a son!"

After I politely asked her to respect my pronouns.
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LordKAT

Did you tell her "or so you thought" or did you use  the "April Fool's!" defense?
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Cindy

Quote from: Roxanne_Burste on August 17, 2013, 04:48:13 AM
New one from my mom the other dayy: "I gave birth to a son!"

After I politely asked her to respect my pronouns.

You gave birth to a child, why can't you love her?
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Lesley_Roberta

Either that, or, 'you gave birth to a person'.

The proper response to a child, is you will love them regardless.

Love doesn't come with conditions, the moment there are conditions, it isn't love, it's only really like a lot.

I am permitted to get irked by my son, angered by my son, annoyed by my son, but, I will always love my son without conditions.

And if some day he tells me he is a she, or is gay or is anything at all, I will not love that person any less.

I only hope some day life grants him what it granted me, the joy of having someone like him (or her or whatever :)).
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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big kim

In the chemist today,"Have we got Ms Brown's HRT, he said he'll wait for them"
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Padma

Quote from: big kim on August 20, 2013, 07:11:15 PM
In the chemist today,"Have we got Ms Brown's HRT, he said he'll wait for them"
Ay yay, I've had variations on that over the phone...
Womandrogyne™
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Carrie Liz

In the elevator with a co-worker the other night, trying to go with the "subtle hints" method for telling people about being on HRT:

We were both complaining about our arms hurting after a full day of dealing.

Co-worker: "I don't know why they hurt so much."
Me: "Yeah... in my case it's probably the hormones. I'm starting to get girly arms."
Co-worker: "You know how you can fix that? Do pushups. I'm serious. Just ten pushups a day, they'll bulk those right up."

Sigh... this is what I get for trying to get cute with it. Why do I torture myself like this? I should really just come out and get it over with.
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Rozelyn

Wow, after reading all of these I'm starting to realize how lucky I am, then again I did move half way across the country where I would be in a safe place to come out and transition. That being said, you never know who will take things the wrong way and who will react opposite of how you think they well.

When I came out to my Manager I was passing bricks, I was pretty sure he would be okay with it but there is always that fear of the unknown. When I told him he shrugged his shoulders, gave me a pat on the shoulder and said: "You do what you gotta do."
Man, that was a huge relief, he even offered to break the ice with the store Managers for me which I accepted gladly because I wasn't sure about them.

He told them and then reported back to me that they were both fine with it. Apparently the one Manager said. "Wow... didn't see that coming... wait... is it 'he to she' or 'she to he'?'  :laugh:
I came in a few days later to touch base with him and he told me not to worry about it and that he had a few friends who transitioned as well, noting that he had my back.

My direct manager has told a few other people too, mostly people who are in a position similar to him and so far there are no complaints or anything... then again when my manager says 'I don't want any snide remarks out of you, but this is what's going on...' you tend to keep your mouth shut and just accept what comes after.

I do love my management team <3

Surprisingly enough, its my mom that doesn't accept me as well as she thinks. She usually writes emails starting with
'Dear Son/Daughter'
*facepalm* Mom... I've explained my situation to you and let you know how offensive that is to people such as myself, so why do you keep doing it? I understand you're trying, I really do but...
Oh well... Hey! Five out of six ain't too bad~!
I saw a glimpse of the awakening spirit that is you, caged perhaps, by the bars of circumstances. In pleasure I witness your release.
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big kim

It's not normal.What 's normal?If you got kicked in the ass every day at 09 00 would that be normal?
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FTMDiaries

I needed to deposit some money in my current account at my bank. So I go into the bank with the cash and my bank card, and have this conversation with the teller:

Me: "Hi! I'd like to deposit £100 into my current account please" (Hands over cash & card)
Teller: "Certainly!" (Takes cash & card, processes the transaction - obviously sees my name on screen).
Teller: "Ok, that's all done for you! The money will be in this person's account immediately."

I left the bank with the feeling that they were humouring me by doing business with me; that if I had been attempting to withdraw cash instead of depositing it, I'd have had a very different outcome.





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Violet Bloom

The last thing I heard is not so much of a 'not getting it' line as it is people not realizing what they are saying and that it could be offensive.  A customer in my store called out to me from about 15 feet away and then got a bit confused when I got closer.  It went like this:

"Sir? (pause until I'm beside customer) .......I think....sir???"  Customer = this smiley face - ???

The second part was more spoken like an inside-the-head thought and very 'tentatively'.  If you're not sure about someone's gender, saying that out loud isn't appropriate and some people would be upset by it.  As for me, it was nice to be sorta mis-gendered without even trying.  It was my darned voice that settled it for them.  I just looked into speech therapy and I won't be able to start until March. :(

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Beth Andrea

So there I was, sitting in my heavily decorated car with flowers, butterflies, and "Beth" on the side...I'm having lunch (Chinese...yum!), wearing a purple flowered blouse, boobs stickin' out just as proud as can be, makeup (very nicely done, I might add), nails are purple, dangly earrings (standard issue for me)...

And a panhandler walks up.

"Excuse me sir, do you have any change? I need to catch the bus..."

::)

Oh. My. Gawd. Even if I had any change, you just blew your chance of getting ANYTHING from me... , is what I thought.

What I said though, was "No, sorry, I just have plastic."

I don't think I "passed" to that guy...
...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

--read in a Tessa James post 1/16/2017
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Danielle Emmalee

Quote from: Beth Andrea on August 28, 2013, 01:52:31 PM
So there I was, sitting in my heavily decorated car with flowers, butterflies, and "Beth" on the side...I'm having lunch (Chinese...yum!), wearing a purple flowered blouse, boobs stickin' out just as proud as can be, makeup (very nicely done, I might add), nails are purple, dangly earrings (standard issue for me)...

And a panhandler walks up.

"Excuse me sir, do you have any change? I need to catch the bus..."

::)

Oh. My. Gawd. Even if I had any change, you just blew your chance of getting ANYTHING from me... , is what I thought.

What I said though, was "No, sorry, I just have plastic."

I don't think I "passed" to that guy...

He must not know that you catch more flies with honey.  If he learned that he might even be able to get on the bus for free, I know a good 50% of the bus drivers in my city generally let you on for free if you seem down on your luck and you're nice about it.
Discord, I'm howlin' at the moon
And sleepin' in the middle of a summer afternoon
Discord, whatever did we do
To make you take our world away?

Discord, are we your prey alone,
Or are we just a stepping stone for taking back the throne?
Discord, we won't take it anymore
So take your tyranny away!
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Renee

Quote from: Alice Danielle on August 28, 2013, 02:41:11 PM
He must not know that you catch more flies with honey.  If he learned that he might even be able to get on the bus for free, I know a good 50% of the bus drivers in my city generally let you on for free if you seem down on your luck and you're nice about it.
I really doubt he was actually after bus fare.
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Danielle Emmalee

Quote from: some old bag lady on August 28, 2013, 02:44:19 PM
I really doubt he was actually after bus fare.

good point.  maybe he should learn how to shoplift.
Discord, I'm howlin' at the moon
And sleepin' in the middle of a summer afternoon
Discord, whatever did we do
To make you take our world away?

Discord, are we your prey alone,
Or are we just a stepping stone for taking back the throne?
Discord, we won't take it anymore
So take your tyranny away!
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Beth Andrea

Quote from: Alice Danielle on August 28, 2013, 02:41:11 PM
He must not know that you catch more flies with honey.  If he learned that he might even be able to get on the bus for free, I know a good 50% of the bus drivers in my city generally let you on for free if you seem down on your luck and you're nice about it.

True. We have a policy if someone wants a ride, but can't pay (no matter the reason), we let them ride. But, if they make a habit of it, we're to allow them to ride, but call a sup to have a talk with them...which is part of the process to be barred from riding.

It's not our job to determine if someone is needy, or scamming...although I do if I'm on my own time and using my money. I've been known to give large cash to people, if my senses say they are legit.

Point is, if you need money and you see someone who doesn't quite line up with what you see...play along with them. It don't hurt nobody.
...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

--read in a Tessa James post 1/16/2017
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