Favorite lines by people who "just don't get it"

[suzifrommd]

Well, I just heard what my former in-laws think...

Being trans isn't real, it's just a symptom of a "serious mental illness". One is born either male, or female. There is no such thing as cross-gender nonsense.

Then I suppose your mother-in-law wouldn't mind walking, talking, dressing, and acting like a male for a few decades since she thinks having gender identity that doesn't match appearance is "nonsense".

[Penny Gurl]

"That's ok we're all sinners anyway I just hope you get into Heaven."

"So which equipment do you use for sex?"

"Oh I get it, I don't get it.. huh...NOW I get it... wait.. huh?"

[Jeatyn]

I have a few more to add

Uttered by a social worker when I was pregnant:

"So I don't understand, if you're a boy how did you get pregnant in the first place?"

My sister when I told her I was pregnant:

"I guess that means you're not carrying on with all that turning in to a boy stuff then?"

When I said no:

"Well we'll see, I bet you'll end up wanting to be a mummy"

[Mosaic dude]

From my lovely partner:

"You're all woman."

Oh dear.  Hard times up ahead, methinks.

[Felix]

Uttered by someone who thought society had oppressed me into wanting to be male - "You don't need to change yourself, you just need to change the world."

or one I've gotten from multiple people - "If you like boys why don't you just stay a girl?"

[Padma]

"So... then you're gay?" Yes, but not in the way you think...

[Jeatyn]

or one I've gotten from multiple people - "If you like boys why don't you just stay a girl?"

I've heard this sooooo many times

I've had people go as far to say that they would completely and utterly understand the whole thing if only I liked girls instead of boys

[Sly]

From my mom, who's pretty accepting but doesn't quite get it sometimes.  "Okay, so if you're a guy, why are you painting your nails/letting your hair grow/wearing skinny jeans/other gender stereotype?"

"So it's like you're living a lie?"

And I know MTFs get more media exposure, but it's kind of weird to me how a lot of people don't realize that FTMs exist at all.  Even if they're accepting.
"You're already so feminine, you'll make a great girl!" - But I guess that just means I'm passing so I can't get too upset about it.
"Wait, so you were a guy and then you changed into a girl, and now you're changing back?"
"Wait... you can do that?"

[lilacwoman]

"So shouldn't you first try and test one of the neo-vaginas first, before you will go and have one yourself... (that's me pre-op on HRT at that stage) <Him, talking about 'testing' on a TS friend of mine...>

Gross bloody bastard... we long since stopped taking - also because I think he is ACDC and of course homophobic, didn't like my transitioning AT ALL.
Could not handle it.

Axélle

What do you mean: ACDC and of course homophobic?

[Kevin Peña]

"Is this a prank?" --> I swear, some people can be so difficult.

[Padma]

I got told this weekend (by someone I don't expect to know better) that I'm clearly "unsure" about my gender, because I'm wearing a denim jacket that buttons left-over-right .

[Teela Renee]

I got asked by someone I considered a friend, "are those mommy pillows or daddy moobs", dunno why but I got so mad.

[Jeatyn]

And I know MTFs get more media exposure, but it's kind of weird to me how a lot of people don't realize that FTMs exist at all.  Even if they're accepting.
"You're already so feminine, you'll make a great girl!" - But I guess that just means I'm passing so I can't get too upset about it.
"Wait, so you were a guy and then you changed into a girl, and now you're changing back?"
"Wait... you can do that?"

Haha I know right? I've had those kinds of responses too. Even doctors have assumed I'm MTF.

The very first person I came out to immediately blurted "omg I never would have guessed your boobs look so real" ...no..no...not what I meant xD

[Ayden]

Haha I know right? I've had those kinds of responses too. Even doctors have assumed I'm MTF.

The very first person I came out to immediately blurted "omg I never would have guessed your boobs look so real" ...no..no...not what I meant xD

The first person I told was like "Wow, I always thought your jaw was kinda strong and your nose was a little too big for a girl, but I just assumed you got unlucky. I bet you were a handsome boy!"  I thought I was gonna pee myself I was laughing so hard. But hey, at least apparently my jaw and nose are nice and manly!

[Padma]

Someone told me they thought I was transitioning the other way - even though I'm 6'3" - I really didn't know what to make of that, so I took it as a compliment that they thought I started out female .

[Eve87]

"You're ruining your life"
"So if you like women why are you getting the "snip-snip"? I mean think about it!"

I kid you not

[Jeatyn]

The first person I told was like "Wow, I always thought your jaw was kinda strong and your nose was a little too big for a girl, but I just assumed you got unlucky. I bet you were a handsome boy!"  I thought I was gonna pee myself I was laughing so hard. But hey, at least apparently my jaw and nose are nice and manly!

Jeez imagine if you were actually MTF that would have been such an insult xD people really don't think about what comes out of their mouths sometimes

[Padma]

My favourite bit in Not Your Mom's Trans 101 is about people thinking we want them to keep telling us how well we're "passing", yawn... I got loads of that this last weekend, but all from men. They're so weird .

[Beth Andrea]

My favourite bit in Not Your Mom's Trans 101 is about people thinking we want them to keep telling us how well we're "passing", yawn... I got loads of that this last weekend, but all from men. They're so weird .

I noticed that recently, too...I know I'm not passing, but still there's people who apparently love to tell me how "feminine" I look.

At first I believed them...but then I was like...WTF? Are they blind or something?

I would MUCH rather have them say something like, "You're looking good! Definitely going in the right direction!" That's supportive and encouraging, without lying about the appearance.

[suzifrommd]

At first I believed them...but then I was like...WTF? Are they blind or something?

Yeah, coming up to a trans woman and telling her how much she passes, kinda defeats the purpose, no?

Luckily we don't need the words of these onlookers. We know we are as beautiful and feminine as we need to be.