Favorite lines by people who "just don't get it"

[Beth Andrea]

Yeah, coming up to a trans woman and telling her how much she passes, kinda defeats the purpose, no?

Luckily we don't need the words of these onlookers. We know we are as beautiful and feminine as we need to be.

As much as we can be, all things considered. We are who we are.



*hugs*

[Ugla]

My all-time favourite line was definitely when someone said about me: "Why can't HE just be GAY like NORMAL people?"

My friend was having an arguement with this person about transpeople, and this was his great conclusion of the situation.

I was also once at a meeting with a small political group in Iceland where I and one other transwoman were discussing the legistration of transgender rights in Iceland, and after we had been discussing the matter for a while, one of the guys stands up and says:

"Well, you are a very convincing woman."

Which I of course explained to him that I wasn't trying to be a woman, I had always been one, and this was not just some role I was trying to play. And then a while later he asked: "Is this your female voice?" to which I promptly replied: "Well, yes, I got it in the woman's section at the store. " even though I knew what he meant by that.

He pretty much looked pretty stupid infront of everyone. Which I found a bit amusing.

[Felix]

Lol thank you all of you for your stories.

I too have experienced the FTM/MTF mixup. A lot. So so many people think I'm on my way to female, and they try to make me feel better by complimenting my soft skin or telling me how sweet I am or whatever. I have no idea how to feel about it.

[Cindy]

I got  a weird one last week.

From a guy, who works for me BTW. "I completely support you and I'm in no way prejudiced, but how will you take control of meetings?'

I'm still lost

[Padma]

Yeah, one look at your photo answers that question .

[swatch]

"Are you gay? Do you want to hit on men ?"
"Most likely no"
"Well I really don't see the point"

Makes me think that for most people, life revolves around having sex.

[swatch]

I got  a weird one last week.

From a guy, who works for me BTW. "I completely support you and I'm in no way prejudiced, but how will you take control of meetings?'

I'm still lost

Sometimes people mean no harm but ask awkward questions like 4 year olds.

[Edge]

My mother asked me about my genitals and if I wanted to get surgery. When I told her that, no, the current surgery options aren't realistic enough for me, she continued to ask about my junk and how it would function and stuff. (Apparently, she thought T would make my junk disappear or something.)
I really don't want to talk to my mom about genitals.

[V M]

"Gay, trans, whatever, why can't you just admit that your gay?

"Oh that's okay, I have lots of gay friends"

"A lot of gay guys like to pretend they're girls"

"This is male name, he's gay"

"Intersexed? Oh, you mean your bi-sexual?"

"Oh, I understand completely"

[Kevin Peña]

"Oh, I understand completely"

Honestly, this is the worst one anyone can say. Other people don't understand what we're going through unless they themselves went through it. Otherwise, they wouldn't ask questions.

[V M]

A lot of things said by people who don't get it are often rather disparaging   

But after you've gone through the time and trouble of answering their questions and explaining things and they pull out with the "Oh I understand completely" bit with a sarcastic and snickering tone... The urge to launch a boot to their booty hole is oh so tempting   

Not that I've ever done anything like that   

[GendrKweer]

"Are you gay? Do you want to hit on men ?"
"Most likely no"
"Well I really don't see the point"

Makes me think that for most people, life revolves around having sex.

Nah. That would be fun and productive. 
Most people's lives seem to revolve around the sex they imagine OTHER PEOPLE are having.

[Ayden]

I had someone tell me that I would never make a convincing woman since my nose was too big and my chin was too pointed. It was amusing to say "Actually, I'm going the other way. I was born female and I'm heading over to your side." His face was priceless.

I got  a weird one last week.

From a guy, who works for me BTW. "I completely support you and I'm in no way prejudiced, but how will you take control of meetings?'

I'm still lost

Oh jeez! One look at your picture and I think you'd be the queen of the castle.  Just give him that pose and you'll be set!

[Beth Andrea]

I had someone tell me that I would never make a convincing woman since my nose was too big and my chin was too pointed. It was amusing to say "Actually, I'm going the other way. I was born female and I'm heading over to your side." His face was priceless.

Oh jeez! One look at your picture and I think you'd be the queen of the castle.  Just give him that pose and you'll be set!

OMG that would have been dear to see! 

[Padma]

I'm amazed by how often I get "...but have you thought about Xyz?" or even "...but have you really thought this through?" like we just shake a magic 8-ball to make our decision to completely change .

Then there's "but don't you think...<fill in naive assumption about why you might think you're transgender here>" to which I always reply "Well no, obviously I don't think that - otherwise I'd have said what you just said, instead of saying what I just said."

[Felix]

I'm amazed by how often I get "...but have you thought about Xyz?" or even "...but have you really thought this through?" like we just shake a magic 8-ball to make our decision to completely change .

OMG this so much. People so often assume that I put no more thought into transition than I put into choosing my breakfast cereal or something. It really begs for stupid answers, honestly.

[Beth Andrea]

I heard, "Who put THAT thought in your head?" the other day...as if I can't think of things myself.

[Padma]

Yeah, I've had that - someone said about me to a friend "oh, he [sic] just got the idea off the Internet..."

[swatch]

Yeah, I've had that - someone said about me to a friend "oh, he [sic] just got the idea off the Internet..."

Too strong 

[swatch]

Nah. That would be fun and productive. 
Most people's lives seem to revolve around the sex they imagine OTHER PEOPLE are having.

Actually you say is very interesting