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[NotThereYet]

Hi Sarah,
Thanks for your kind words. Things go up and down for me and my wife, ad well: she goes from thinking that this is just a joke to "oh my Gosh, this is so real!" Having children, boys, obviously does not help. On top of that, changes are becoming so evident (I personally see myself looking exactly like I used to, and I do present as male,  but others tell me it is not so) that I am getting grief at work, they are looking for ways to get rid of me, it feels. In fact, I am pretty sure I have at most a couple of weeks left.

One thing is for sure: they *always* think I am a woman on the phone...

Love,
Andrea

[soulfairer]

@Soulfairer - Thanx for reading my thread! I have to admit that I'm still in shock in what HRT has done. After the first month, it didn't seem like much. But then it kinda just took off. My days of getting "sired" ended about a month ago. Last week I went into the men's room at a KFC and I was standing at the sink washing my hands. A little boy came in, looked at me, turned around, opened the door and left. He then came back in and looked at the door to make sure it said MEN! LOL! He was maybe 8 to 10. I looked at him and smiled, he went back out and got his dad who then came in with him. They both looked at me and I just smiled and left. Awkward yes....I don't like that. The living between two worlds is brutal as I mentioned in my other posts.
I don't know about re-marrying my spouse as Sarah. My area is not very LGBT friendly and my state certainly hasn't legalized same sex marriage. When the day comes that we can, that might make me consider it more. But first I have to come out to my family and the public...that day is drawing ever closer. Good luck in your tipping point. I was a remote site IT person when I started all this and that helped make up my mind to transition...BUT as you read, plans have a way of changing on ya!!

I am also baffled everyday with HRT. It has done wonders, both to mind and body. As I live full time as a man, I just sometimes confuse people (my way of acting is very male-ish when needed, so I haven't really changed my modes – but when all people around are unknown to me, I feel free). Many children have been puzzled, also! They kind of see behind the masks, so sometimes they stare full seconds at me.

Hope you can remarry her, even between you both (I didn't really mean in the papers, but as you told, okay, later on who knows? ). You are worried about being just 'the best girl friends' and I hope you both can sort it out and be really who you *need* to be!

I am shifting my entire career to work remotely, so I don't actually depend on others. And as I have a company -  for now we are just two partners - and my friend (more than a simple stakeholder!) has declared that he'll support me in that journey, he can be the front door and I code and create

Hope to have some more news, my parents stated that they wish to come to my country. They will need to know before!

[NotThereYet]

Would you like a third partner? :-)

About 15 years of data modelling,  data warehousing, data analysis. PL/SQL,T-SQL, extremely solid. DB creation,  maintenance and fine tuning. For the Back-End I am definitely your person. For the Front-End I am solid on VB and C#. Also solid on Access/Excel Vba. A bit rusty with Java, XML,  HTML, etc.

I am indeed serious. I can help remotely, as well, unless you are in the pacific NW,  in which case, we can definitely meet in person.

For the rest: I love Hormones and what they do to me although I am only 3 months in, people can already see changes.

Love,
Andrea

[soulfairer]

Would you like a third partner? :-)

About 15 years of data modelling,  data warehousing, data analysis. PL/SQL,T-SQL, extremely solid. DB creation,  maintenance and fine tuning. For the Back-End I am definitely your person. For the Front-End I am solid on VB and C#. Also solid on Access/Excel Vba. A bit rusty with Java, XML,  HTML, etc.

I am indeed serious. I can help remotely, as well, unless you are in the pacific NW,  in which case, we can definitely meet in person.

For the rest: I love Hormones and what they do to me although I am only 3 months in, people can already see changes.

Love,
Andrea

I am from the other front: PostgreSQL/MySQL-oriented, a few Oracle installations and management. Ruby, PHP, ObjC and Apex. A fan of Amazon's EC2, S3 and SES products. HTML/CSS since HTML3.2 (eh, old, teached some people and one became a frontend coder before she switched to project management). Linux with Slackware, but today using OSX.

(but I am in the South America). Let's keep in touch! Some people sometimes need VB/C# skills and I managed to get jobs for some friends. I have a friend running a business and she sometimes needs frontend people (mainly HTML/CSS and some PHP, we run that a lot here). .NET is *very* welcome here and many people use it.

[Violet Bloom]

Uh-oh, Sarah Anne's web thread has ironically been hijacked by coders!

  While on the topic though, I have great respect for anyone who can learn all this stuff and do it well.  Unfortunately my programming skills end at basic HTML - my great smarts work in other ways, generally in physical creations rather than virtual.  My father owns a mainframe database-related software company but I won't be following in his footsteps.

[soulfairer]

Uh-oh, Sarah Anne's web thread has ironically been hijacked by coders!

  While on the topic though, I have great respect for anyone who can learn all this stuff and do it well.  Unfortunately my programming skills end at basic HTML - my great smarts work in other ways, generally in physical creations rather than virtual.  My father owns a mainframe database-related software company but I won't be following in his footsteps.

Coders, unite!

[NotThereYet]

Your father owns a company?  Is he looking to hire?  ;-)

Sorry about the high jacking!!! LOL

@Carolina
Your English is spectacular!!! May I ask where you are from? Also, do you know anything about JBoss?

[soulfairer]

Your father owns a company?  Is he looking to hire?  ;-)

Sorry about the high jacking!!! LOL

@Carolina
Your English is spectacular!!! May I ask where you are from? Also, do you know anything about JBoss?

Carolina? Thank you! *grin* Nobody has referred to me as Carolina in the forums before )

[Emily Aster]

Carolina? Thank you! *grin* Nobody has referred to me as Carolina in the forums before )

I am from Brazil. I just installed WebLogic a few months ago, but I don't really know about servlets/beans. I just programmed Apex and the last contact with Java was in 2000, using JDK 1.1.6 (old! heh), using JFC/Swing and some JNI. But I never got interested in Java...

Sorry for this. I really tried not to post, but I couldn't. I'm a computer geek too. I got really excited when I saw Java in the thread. I just picked up Java a few years ago and it was pretty easy to pick up, not to mention everything you need to learn it is free. Still lots of folks using JDK 1.6 because of security concerns in JDK 1.7, but language wise JDK 1.7 is a vast improvement. Swing is still commonly used. Servlets and beans are just regular code implementing an interface and Eclipse or NetBeans should frame out functions for you so you don't even have to look them up!

[NotThereYet]

All this sounds a bit like Greek to me. Having always worked for large private companies I am not really up to speed on open source.

Brazil? How cool is that? Where are your parents, though?  It seems like they are not in Brazil and maybe you were born in Europe somewhere... if I am "prying", my apologies and I'll plant it. LOL

A

[Sarah Anne]

 I suppose let any thread grow too big and it's bound to get hijacked...at least it made it to seven pages

[NotThereYet]

Well...You were gone for so long, sister, that we started talking about something else!!! LOL

How are you? Want to pm me?

[Violet Bloom]

I suppose let any thread grow too big and it's bound to get hijacked...at least it made it to seven pages

If the girls want to commune around programming I'm happy for them.  I suppose you could tell them to "get a room"

[Sarah Anne]

Yeah! Get a room! LOL! 

I can't program...never could. But I can break a machine and motherboard down to component level and fix a shorted out capacitor. Too much math with that other stuff! 

[soulfairer]

All this sounds a bit like Greek to me. Having always worked for large private companies I am not really up to speed on open source.

Brazil? How cool is that? Where are your parents, though?  It seems like they are not in Brazil and maybe you were born in Europe somewhere... if I am "prying", my apologies and I'll plant it. LOL

A

Hey! I'm answering you in a PM And I was born here, been living here all the time.

Open source has its advantages, too! It gives us avant-gardish jobs that do not require you to be at the office Not only those, but all web-based jobs, I think (at least here in Brazil). I know a *lot* of people working with .NET and such stuff, but not a single one of them successfully as a remote worker.

[Violet Bloom]

Yeah! Get a room! LOL! 

I can't program...never could. But I can break a machine and motherboard down to component level and fix a shorted out capacitor. Too much math with that other stuff! 

  Same here!  (Although either way I'm still a geek )  BTW, just before Christmas I had to dismantle my computer and replace all 34 large capacitors on the motherboard.  It's a miracle the thing was still running before that.  It was only after completing this nightmare that I received a shiny new Weller digital soldering station for Chrismas!  At least I'll never need a new iron again...

[Emily Aster]

Yeah! Get a room! LOL! 

I can't program...never could. But I can break a machine and motherboard down to component level and fix a shorted out capacitor. Too much math with that other stuff! 

I've never used math in programming, not professionally anyway. I would have expected computer engineering to use it a lot though.

[RedFox]

There's a lot of engineering in IT that doesn't require lots of advanced math.  I'm a network engineer and I never use anything more complicated than algebra - and that rarely.  I'm jealous of those of you that can work remotely.  Nearly everything I do requires me to be in an office interacting with people on a daily basis.  I'm certainly not anti-social.. but remote work would make transition so much easier!

Are we done hi-jacking this thread yet?   

[soulfairer]

Are we done hi-jacking this thread yet?   

Hoping for Sarah Anne to say her job is all right!

[Emily Aster]

but remote work would make transition so much easier!

My job is a mix of .NET and Java, but I'm not 100% remote. I still have a go into the office in my monkey suit every couple months for a full week. I don't know how I'm going to handle that with transition since it's govt contract work. I've seen people do it at other contractors, but it seems kinda scary. Hopefully I get a major confidence boost between now and then.

Are we done hi-jacking this thread yet?   

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