Worried

[GypsySoul]

A few months ago Claire had her prolactin lvls checked and they were too high so the doc cut her E in half......
Claires 3 month test results came back fine but for some reason the doc wont put her back on her regular dosage of E. I kind of expected that but Claire not so much. She is really down b/c of this. And she is hurting b/c she cant see any changes in her appearance over the last 3 months. We knew it was going to take some time for it to make a difference but she still feels bad about herself. I just want to make the pain go away for her. I wanna wrap her in my arms and make her know it will all be ok. I wanna be able to make her see the person I see when I look at her. But she doesnt believe me, all she sees is the 'man in the mirror'. How do I make her feel beautiful when she cant see it? How can I make her happy when everything else is bringing her down? I feel like I am failing as a wife to her just like I did before we started her transition... (He was hurting and hiding the whole time we were together and I couldnt see it! How is that even possible??) I just wanna make it better for her....

[Bexi]

I think the doctor is just making sure that whatever caused her levels to spike doesn't reel its ugly head again before he puts her back on her previous dose. Her own health must come before anything.

Personally, I only saw noticeable changes after 5/6 months hrt. My boobs had grown before then but nothing seemed to be going on with my ugly male face, but suddenly one day I caught myself in the mirror and was quietly surprised and - if im honest - ecstatic! She just needs a little patience and I'm sure she'll start noticing the changes 

As to making her feel better, whenever you are out, I would walk tall and proud, arm in arm, to relay to her that a) you are not ashamed b) she is beautiful and c) you love her.

For what its worth, I think you are amazing to remain with your loved one, through thick and thin and everything in between. You are not failing as a wife. Get that silly notion out of your head  ! She depends on your support and so far you are doing an outstanding job

x

[Bexi]

I am nowhere near ashamed of her,
I am so proud of her and who she is becoming, all that she has accomplished, shes so brave, and smart, and determined and I would love to be more like her.
She IS beautiful, I just wish I could take away her insecurities and show her what I see.
I do love her, so much.

Tell her this, or show it to her. Your love for her shines through 

If she can't see these changes then mention it to her too. One morning, mention how soft her hair is, then the following morning accentuate another one of her improving features. As you know, ladies love flattery 

Oh and at the end of this, when things are great between you two, I'd expect breakfast in bed if I were you in exchange for all this support! 

Keep strong and keep being you, you wonderful person
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