Hi Sangre ,
A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. It's good of you to drop in and say "Hi". Hope you like it here, and you stay for a while.
There is a mountain of information, resources and friendship waiting for you here, you just need to jump in and start talking.
I see nothing to indicate, from what you've said, that there is any confusion. Labels can often misguide people into incorrect thinking. Your progression is very normal, from what you describe. I hope you are able to fully embrace and enjoy cross dressing. As Karen said, anything that mitigates depression has to be good.
Looking forward to hearing more of your story in time to come, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine