another trip to the doctor

[jainie marlena]

I thought I got bit by a spider but the doctor said it was a sist. That is not why I am posting. I was called back and the woman checking me in was looking up my medical history saw that I was on estrodial and spiro. She asked me what for and I took out my keys and showed her a key chain that I made. It says, Transgender on it. She had so many question but the question are starting to hurt me. Some of them are getting painful and privet. She had no care for how I felt at all. I am really getting sick of this. Depression has come back on me. I am really having trouble getting through the summer.

[Alainaluvsu]

You don't have to answer any questions honey. Just say "I would rather not answer that" if they're uncomfortable to you.

[jainie marlena]

I feel like I have to. I'm not sure why I feel this way. I guess I could tell them the answers are on the internet look it up if you want to know.

[lilacwoman]

You should have just said I'm going through sex change - and left it at that.

its reasonable to assume that most people who can read will know the basics of sex change.

[vivienne]

I had a similair experience two years ago in a std clinic. It was anonymous and on the form that I had to fill out I checked the F.  I then had a conversation (not optional..) about my sex life with the doctor. When it turned out that I only had anal sex she asked me if I was transsexual. When I said yes she started asking al sorts of questions and told me that she talked to a (m2f) transsexual before and that HE was taking hormones and that HE cried a lot because of the hormones etc etc.. I was sooo annoyed by her. I asked her why she called her HE and then ended the conversation. I then decided that I would make my transition NON-DISCUSSABLE! Most people think I'm not open about my transition because it all has to be a big secret but the truth is I'm just sick of having to listend to people's bull->-bleeped-<-. I also noticed that being open about it somehow gives people the impression that it's okay to call me HE. Yeah, if they have a death wish, lolll.. Anyway, my whole attitude has changed now. It's okay if people notice things. Not much I can do is there? It's not okay for them to start talking about it. They can talk about my back (they will anyway) but there is no way that I am going to discuss my transition with them. There are some exceptions of course.

Transition is a very private thing (to me anyway) and not being able to hide it can be very frustrating. The more I passed the less frustrating it became. My advise to you (but some may disagree) is to keep things to yourself to avoid ignorant questions that hurt your feelings. Only discuss with people you trust and feel comfortable with and with those absolutey necessary (therapist, etc.). Never ever forget your goal. Things WILL get better.

[Cindy]

It can be difficult and I have overcome it because I have had too.


I have no problems in telling people that I'm having a sex change in order to match my gender and sex. They are usually more startled than I am.  I know who I am and accept myself. Their problem has nothing to do with me.


Be confident. You are not doing anything 'wrong', you are changing your sex to match your gender. It isn't a big deal when you think about it. Once you accept it isn't a big deal, then it isn't. I really don't give Fairy Floss about what people think about me. Since I don't care, they don't either, because otherwise they look really stupid.


Just be you.


Hugs


Cindy

[justmeinoz]

I have trouble handling rejection from people I expect to be friends, but stupid questions get stamped on real quick. Thirty years in the Police Force tends to give you "more front than Myers (like Macy's)". 
I have no problem telling people where to get off as I feel it is my reply to blatant transphobia.  So I will say," That is private so I won't answer it."

Karen.

[jainie marlena]

She said,"why would you want to do that you're a hottie? I hope you change your mind. I was thinking about jumping you until that."  Woman in the next room kept looking at me through the door. I did not tell this nerse last week when I was there. I waited and told the doctor thinking I could tell at least one less person but he put it in my chart. she was trying to be funny last week she said," My son and I were hippies."
I used to be able to let things go but now they get carved into my mind. I have not passed all summer. Well once as a ugly woman that likes to body build.  I laughed a little when I wrote that. I even felt better thinging about it. OMG, I just want to get through this!!!

[UCBerkeleyPostop]

Hon, is there anyway possible you can get the hell out of Missouri?

[Jamie D]

I have trouble handling rejection from people I expect to be friends, but stupid questions get stamped on real quick. Thirty years in the Police Force tends to give you "more front than Myers (like Macy's)". 
I have no problem telling people where to get off as I feel it is my reply to blatant transphobia.  So I will say," That is private so I won't answer it."

Karen.

But you are such a wallflower 

[jainie marlena]

Hon, is there anyway possible you can get the hell out of Missouri?

I have been thinking about getting the he** out of here but I have no idea where to go. I don't know anything else but this. I sure don't want to get stranded anywhere. I wrote a new topic and was going to post it but actadintly exited my browser. About wanting to leave here. I really have no reason to stay anymore everything has been taken from me. I used to be able to just get over things but the hormones burn it into my mind now and getting over it is hard for me. Everything hurt more than it used to.

[UCBerkeleyPostop]

In 2004, I was facing similar circumstances in Florida, I had some money and GOOD credit so moved to San Francisco after my wife and I split and the rest of my family "disowned" me.  I got hired for a job on the internet which got me started but once in town, I found a sales job that paid me 80K salary and commission and the rest, they say, is history. But I was incredibly lucky but sometimes I think the Higher Power stuff (I got sober in 2007) is what it is! But mainly ya gotta believe!

[Asfsd4214]

In 2004, I was facing similar circumstances in Florida, I had some money and GOOD credit so moved to San Francisco after my wife and I split and the rest of my family "disowned" me.  I got hired for a job on the internet which got me started but once in town, I found a sales job that paid me 80K salary and commission and the rest, they say, is history. But I was incredibly lucky but sometimes I think the Higher Power stuff (I got sober in 2007) is what it is! But mainly ya gotta believe!

Absolutely. I'm a big time scientist, science is my religion, but even I don't feel science precludes belief in a higher power.


I moved interstate when life just got too hard for me to cope, I was desperate enough that I didn't care what happened. Did little planning on it either.


Best thing I ever did.


Accept the things you can't change, change the things you can. And congratulations on your 5 years of sobriety.