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Started by Edge, August 09, 2012, 08:38:10 AM

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Arch

Take up space. Be more casual with your body. Don't be too tentative in speech or body language. Walk straight ahead, no hip sway. Swing your shoulders just a little when you walk. Don't walk as if you're wearing a binder--act as if you've got nothing on your chest. Perfect your deadpan. Go to a barber. Wear glasses made specifically for men.

I'm sure you've posted about this and I just forgot, but why is transition so far off for you? Are you still just sorting yourself out? I think a lot of androgynes/bigender folks have a much harder path when it comes to deciding about T.


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Arch

I really don't know how useful it is to adopt mannerisms and all of that. But you asked for tips...
"The hammer is my penis." --Captain Hammer

"When all you have is a hammer . . ." --Anonymous carpenter
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Edge

Quote from: Arch on August 12, 2012, 05:56:14 PM
I'm sure you've posted about this and I just forgot, but why is transition so far off for you? Are you still just sorting yourself out? I think a lot of androgynes/bigender folks have a much harder path when it comes to deciding about T.
I'm bigender. I(female) am afraid of being as dysphoric as I(male) am now.
It does help. Thanks.
I don't do anything to my eyebrows. They just grow as is. Unfortunately, they are naturally arched.
Finding pants is a pain in the butt. A lot of the pants I've tried on make my waist look more obvious than in women's pants. I keep looking for pants with baggier legs, but there aren't any in any of the stores I've looked (and I've looked in a lot).
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henrytwob

Ok, I looked at your photos. Here are my suggestions;
1) get more masculine  glasses.
2) Your face has the gentle curves of the female face, so folks must think you are either still in puberty if you are male, or you are female.
In high school, I wasn't even trying to pass - but as I wore "boy" clothes to my school, it was "young man" all the time.( Little did I know that would one day be important to me). Today at 40 + I couldn't pass without cross hormones. So you either are young enough over all to pass for a male of 16, or people think you are a girl. Have you though of hormones???
3) last bit, you look kind of questioning in your photo. The one thing most men have, that I believe ALL women should learn - not just ones who don't think/feel like women, is assertiveness of attitude. I can probably count on one hand the number of times I've seen the look you have in your  photo on a cis male. Even if man say "what do you think...? " they have a different expression. Which suggests to me, it might be your mannerisms/expressions.

I think you are close, just a tiny bit of tweaking.
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