Opinion Poll about Romantic Interests and Importance of Sex in One's Life

[NotThereYet]

Hello everyone,

I am sorry if this type of thread has been started before but I feel it would be beneficiary to us all if ran a survey among us about orientation in relation to identify and/or hormonal changes.

So, here it is:

What are your romantic interests?

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?


Thanks you very much to all participants, and please, feel free to add on as you deem fit!

Andrea :-)

[Catherine Sarah]

Interesting post.

What are your romantic interests?

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
HRT
Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
Pre-op
Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
Solely to men
Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Pre HRT, absolutely no interest whatsoever. And from my previous background a highly disrespectful trust for them.
Since HRT. A deep, honest and sincere desire to find the right man for me.
Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
N/A - TBA, sometime round 2014.
How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
Right now? Not at all. Major construction sight. Closed for that type of business for the moment.
Post GCS. Bring it ON. Reconstruction complete, all systems GO.
Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Yes it has changed. Lost interest in it completely due to the psychological changes that I've experienced since commencing HRT. I'm not persuing the matter of sex, itself, as there are other major issues that need to be put into their correct perspective. I've a far greater need to understand and work through the change in gender aspect of relationships. Once I've an understanding of the new rituals and procedures involved in that aspect, sex, will follow as a natural course of action. If you understand what I mean.
Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
N/A - TBA sometime round 2014

Hope this helps

Huggs
Catherine

[Kevin Peña]

I am attracted to nice people, regardless of gender.
I'm pre-HRT.
I'm non-op.
If I had to pick, I would like to be with a man, but I could be with a woman.
I would say sex is of no importance to me.

[MariaMx]

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
HRT

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
Post-op

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
Men only

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
I was into men before hrt but the attraction became more "electric" after.

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
No change.

How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
Somewhat important.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Sex has become less important, romance more important.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
No change.

[Constance]

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
14 months HRT

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
pre-op

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
mostly to women, but somewhat attracted to men, too

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Not really. I used to be a bi man who was primarily attracted to women, and now I'm a bi woman who's mostly attracted to women.

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
I'm pre-op.

How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
I'd say very important, especially in a committed exclusively monogamous relationship.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
I don't think the importance has changed, really.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
I'm pre-op.

[Keroppi]

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
HRT

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
pre-op

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
As of this moment, I have to say bi, but mostly to a particular man

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
From 0%M/100%F to 95/5 to 50/50, back to 5/95, to simply being confused...

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
N/A

How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
Very, but since I have never actually done it...

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Before HRT, part of me wanted to try it once as a guy to get the experience. If I have to suffer from being trans, let's get an experience cis people can't have. But that never happened, and I'm okay with it. Losing my virginity the right way is also special.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
N/A

[Alexis]

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
I'm on HRT, for a bit more than 8 months

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
Pre-op

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
I'd say that I'm solely attracted to men

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Kind of a tough question to answer. I don't think that I have changed though. What has changed about me is that I'm no longer trying to force myself to be someone I'm not and fit in. I can appreciate the attractiveness of a woman, but I'm not romantically or otherwise interested

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
Unfortunately that question is N/A at the moment

How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
I land somewhere between very and somewhat. I kinda crave sex but I don't act on those cravings at all. I'm not necessarily craving for the physical act, but the closeness that came with it. That's my hang up right now b/c I'm not comfortable enough with my own body and what I have to 'bare' myself to another; something that I hope I can get over since it may be a while until GRS

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Since starting, I've been a nun, although I wasn't on the prowl much before hormones either. Comparing to life pre-HRT, I'd say it's par for the course. I do find myself wanting sex much more than I ever did before though

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
Still N/A for now

[Eleanor]

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
Pre-HRT. Only a week left to wait, though!

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
Pre-op. Will 100% definitely get the surgery some day.

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
I'm not attracted to either to any great degree, as I find it very hard to feel attracted to people when I'm so uncomfortable in my own skin. If I had to choose, though, probably men and women equally. I've never fallen for anyone, but if I were to, I don't think my partner's gender would matter too much to me.

That being said, the few slight inklings I've had toward people over the years have been exclusively toward boys. So maybe that's a sign of where my sexuality will go once I'm more comfortable with myself.

How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
Not important at all. I've never really had much of a sex drive when pumped with guy hormones, and I imagine it'll only diminish further when I start on HRT. Sex doesn't repulse me, though. I'd have sex with someone I cared about if I knew it would make them happy. It's just not something I think I'll ever really pursue on my own.

[Violet Bloom]

This topic is quite interesting.  Since I'm near the start of my journey I don't have too much to contribute here yet but I certainly think the exercise is worthwhile.  It will be useful to me to revisit these questions as I go through the process in case anything changes.

What are your romantic interests?

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
Pre-HRT, but intending to pursue it.

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
Pre-op.

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
Solely to women although with the twist of preferring very boyish figures and behaviours.  I've never had any romantic or sexual interest in men.  I believe what I seek is a woman who will play a more typically male role in a relationship.  Interestingly I've even viewed some FTMs as attractive both romantically and physically but I'm not sure they would appreciate that I'm drawn to their 'residual' femininity.

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
N/A

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
N/A

How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
Sex has never been important to me at all - I never sought it and never got it.  I wouldn't want to go without the experience but it will only happen as the result of a relationship where someone else has a strong interest.  I can say however that ever since I reached a better understanding of the true nature of my sexuality, that I need to be a woman with a woman for things to 'click' in my system, the possibility has been on my mind more often.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
N/A

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
N/A

[eli77]

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
Eighteen-ish months on HRT.

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
Five and a half months post-op.

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
Attracted solely to females as far as I know. I'm mildly curious what sex with a guy would be like, but not out of attraction. I haven't really met enough people with non-traditional bodies or non-binary identities to know how bendy my sexuality is. But "not very" seems to be the current answer.

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
No.

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
No.

How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
"It's complicated." I guess I'd say somewhere between extremely and very, but I'm still not comfortable enough with my body to really do anything about it. Which is somewhere between extremely and very frustrating.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
My sex drive died down a lot for 3 months after I started HRT, which I was happy about at the time, as it was kind of a relief. It has recovered pretty much entirely though.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
I'm a lot more okay with having a high sex drive now than I used to be. But it hasn't really changed. Not being able to orgasm for the first 5 months after the op was scary.

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

What are your romantic interests?

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
4 years HRT

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
pre-op (SRS), post-op (orchidectomy)

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
mostly men.  Consider myself Bi.

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Yes.  I would dearly love a boyfriend.

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
N/A

How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
Most of my life it has been a non-issue.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Still an non-issue.  I would not want to be involved with someone as I am.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
N/A.  But afterwards,  I may have a very bad reputation. hehe

[kelly_aus]

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
I've been on HRT a bit over 15 months.

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
I'm pre-op.

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
Right now, I'd have to say I'm solely attracted to women, but just recently I've found myself tempted by younger men - don't ask me why, I don't know and would feel better about it if I did.

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
I'm now a lot more interested in romance and intimacy rather than sex.

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
Being pre-op, I have no idea, but I don't honestly think it'll change very much.

How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
Sex has very limited importance to me, as in the earlier question, romance and intimacy are far more important to me.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
It hasn't really changed, I'm just more honest with myself about things.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since completion of GRS?
Being pre-op, I have no idea, but I don't honestly think it'll change very much.

[DanicaCarin]

Well, mine is a pretty simple answer.....

I'm on HRT

I'm pre-op

I am into only women.  Before I started transitioning my female friends(Strait, Bi & Gay)  were unanimous that I was the "original Lesbian groupie"
How important is sex? The whole "male"/testosterone influence has disipeared, but now I have this new found level of emotion. Being able to actually ENJOY sex, verses the constant effort to get to the "finish line"! When kissing can have the same sexual "fun" as intercourse, the possibilities are ......

[Snowpaw]

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?

On hrt since new years eve 2010. Had to stop for 5 months, been back on them for 2 months.

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?

Pre-op

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?

Mostly women. I can be with a guy but I am fearful of them somewhat.

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?

Not really.

How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?

Somewhat important.

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?

Yes, it used to be very important.

[~RoadToTrista~]

I'm pre-everything, unfortunately. Due to closet issues and dependence on certain people.

I'm mostly, MOSTLY, attracted to men. I like women a little bit, but not enough to ever consider an exclusive relationship with one.

My romantic interests and sexual interests have changed or appeared to have changed, but not from HRT.

I'm gonna go with "Very Important" as of now.

Anything else doesn't apply to me.

[Apples]

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT? Pre-HRT, still starting therapy
Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op? Do not want-op
Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?Women, trans women, trans men... About biological men... Only gay or very effeminate / soft. It's OK but not that much interested. Affection regardless of gender, in the end.
How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?Extremely important, so I hope I can have it on a workable state after HRT.

[Lady_Oracle]

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
HRT
Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
pre-op
Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
soley to Women
Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Nope not one bit
How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
Very important, only when I'm in a relationship. It's not that important when I'm not in a relationship tho
Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Sex has improved by a ton for me since starting hrt! I feel more in tune with my mind and body.

[Tammy M]

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
HRT

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
pre-op

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
much more attracted to men than women

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
I have even less interest in intimacy with females now

How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
very important

Has how important sex is in your life changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
I seem to enjoy orgasms more but i have less of them

[Rena-san]

What are your romantic interests?
I am asexual, but romantically interested in women.

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
Just started

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
Pry no-op. I don't think surgery is going to relieve my dysphoria.

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
Solely women. I hate men. The repulsion to them is very deep and likely connected to my own gender issues.

Have your romantic interests changed, and if so, in what way, to what degree, since starting HRT?
Not yet.

How important is sex in your life? Extremely important, Very important, somewhat important, limitedly important, not important, at all?
Not important at all. Never had sex. Never even mastrubated. I have 0 sexual desire. This is also pry connected to my gender issues. Kinda hard to want sex when your sex organs don't feel like they belong to you. I could get my penis caught in a circular saw or something and besides the intense pain, I wouldn't feel anything, emotionaly, except maybe relief.   

[mintra]

Are you pre-HRT or on HRT?
20yrs on HRT.

Are you pre-op, post-op, no-op?
3 months post-op.

Are you attracted solely to women, mostly to women, to both men and women equally, mostly to men, solely to men?
Solely to men.

Have your romantic interests changed?
No.

How important is sex in your life?
Not at all important.

Has how important sex is in your life changed since GRS?
Sex is still not important at all. I still have a fear of getting dumped so I'm staying single. Maybe I should become a nun LOL.