So, I needed new work pants because apparently I dropped a size from what I bought last Spring to this January. But before I get into that..
--MEANWHILE FROM GREEN BAY--
My dad has been going off on me. Here's some choice comments I've been getting:
- You'll never be a woman
- You should be committed
- You are dead to me
- Accusing me of doing transitioning to get some kind of jolly.
For the most part I've been pretty darn successful in blowing him off. My dad has always been a pool of negativity so his reaction wasn't totally unexpected. The dead to me one cut a wee bit though while at the same time striking me as oh so melodramatic, given that it was coming from him.
(As an aside, I've reported in other posts about how well my coming outs have been going. My dad has proven himself to be the exception but I remain undaunted and very pleased that they went well overall)
Now, with the sage set, I'm at the mall getting my pants. Clerk is great! Tells me about the pants, brings me to a dressing room, checks up on me several times and brings new items to replace the ones that didn't fit right. So I choose what I'm going to get and head for the checkout. Reaching in to my purse I have to pull out my debit card that still has my male name on it given that I only just got the ball rolling on my name change. Anyway, the clerk says something about the store credit card and I blurt out, "I'll just admit it. I'll think about it after I change my name." _| ̄|○
Maybe if I'd have only said, "I'll think about it after I change my name." I'd feel better. Women change their names rather frequently! It's the "just admit it" that's eating at me. Everything was going so well! Swell even!
It was my father and it was that dang debit card that got to me. You know, I don't doubt that in the clerk's mind I'm still a girl. Interact with me a little bit and I just make so much more sense as a woman people seem to stop trying to guess and just accept.
I just feel bad that I outed myself. Dad weakened me and the card just kicked a leg out from under me.
On the other hand while walking up to the checkout at another shop about a year ago I did say, "I take it you read me". So given how little I've shopped in person, and how long my interaction was with this clerk, I did improve. Hopefully soon I'll just make it through. Still won't take the credit card offers though (Why didn't I just say that?). (;一_一)