Do you hate being transsexual?

[Elsa.G]

Ive met people before who don't really mind it, but honestly i hate it. I hate every aspect of it and would definitely prefer to be genetically female more than anything else. -_-

[Carolina1983]

I cant say that I love it because who does? =/. Mostly I hate it because I have to make the best out of a body that was destroyed by T. Which will be both expensive and painful .


It would have been alot better and easier if I was born female from the start.

[Sephirah]

There was a time when I used to.

But then I realised that hating something doesn't change it, or make it go away. It just makes you feel bad. And there are enough things in this life to do that already without adding to the list. So now my philosophy is "it is what it is. Deal with it."

[eli77]

Yes.

Edit: It is interesting the shift in perspective that a year of transition gives. Basically I would agree with Seph now. I just deal with it.

[Apples Mk.II]

If life gives you lemons... Shape them until they look like oranges.


Not really. It's going to be a pain with all the meds and surgeries, but knowing I won't have to live the rest of my life as a shell of a man? Totally worth it. In fact, seeing as it is forcing me to restart my life, it is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I can embrace it, and I don't have regrets or things to lose. I will keep hating the parts of my body that are already destroyed, but at least I can save something.


Oh yes. TG, not TS, for now.

[Constance]

Absolutely yes, I hate it. I wished I'd had a masculine gender identity to go with my male body. Being trans cost me my marriage.

[MariaMx]

Sometimes I hate, sometimes it's interesting, sometimes I don't think so much about it.

[Jamie D]

Ive met people before who don't really mind it, but honestly i hate it. I hate every aspect of it and would definitely prefer to be genetically female more than anything else. -_-

I am less transsexual than transgendered, but it has taken me a long time to come to grips with it.
Accepting myself, for what I am, and for all my complexities, has helped bring me peace of mind.

I try to change what I can, and cope with what I can't.

[A]

I used to. But then I moved forward in my mind, realising that hating it does nothing but depress me, since I can't do anything about it, and that in the end, it's not -so- bad.

Now I just dislike it. Perhaps later, when I truly find happiness, I'll get to the point of not minding it.

[Apples Mk.II]

since I can't do anything about it, and that in the end, it's not -so- bad.

Ditto. Although since I see myself in the middle, it is not as bad as if was truly transexual to the limit. I can accept being a mixture of chaaracteristics. If I were a genetic woman, I'd probably have dysphoria too.

[Alainaluvsu]

I am what I am. I hate that I made the decision to wait so long to do something about it. I don't really hate that I'm trans. I was meant to be, I've accepted that. The only thing I'm mad at is myself for being so chicken to wait til I'm 30 to be who I am.

I want to go back to being 6 again and start the process. I could have my whole life back that *I* threw away. That's what sucks. It's knowing what the biggest mistake of your life is and kicking yourself.

But all things considered, I lucked out. I count my blessings a million times over. I had no choice to be trans, but life has granted me a second hope and I'm lucky to have such a relatively calm transition. It's definitely not so easy for most of us. I can totally understand how some absolutely hate it. I feel the most for them, it must be extremely difficult.

[Alainaluvsu]

Yeah, I agree with this. It would have been nice to have transitioned at a young age. But I DID try to drop as many friggin hints as I could between ages 4 and 12 in the hopes that someone would figure it out (short of running in the damn living room and screaming "I'M A GIRL!!" but everyone thought it "was a phase".

Yeah..real perceptive. 

I didn't even have the guts to do that... that's what I hate about my choices. I thought "OMG my family is gonna hate me, people at school are gonna beat me up (even though they made fun of me for being a tiny lil girly boy anyways), my uncles are gonna kick my ass!"

[Padma]

I don't hate being trans. But I do hate that other people hate me being trans, without even knowing me. That's what I hate.

[A]

Hah, Alaina, if it can make you feel better about yourself, I did worse.

At 11 years old, a paedopsychiatrist asked me outright whether I would prefer to be a girl, and I said no, that I was just a guy who preferred girls' activities, because I thought transsexuals were disgusting (thanks dad for bending the malleable me to wrong beliefs!) and I preferred to wait until some magic or spirit turned me into a girl.

And when I stopped believing in that, around 18 years old, my psychologist and doctors made me wait until 4 days before my 21st birthday to give me HRT.

So you might have ended up starting older than me, but I sure made myself run a lot later than you from sheer will alone! :p

[eli77]

I didn't even have the guts to do that... that's what I hate about my choices. I thought "OMG my family is gonna hate me, people at school are gonna beat me up (even though they made fun of me for being a tiny lil girly boy anyways), my uncles are gonna kick my ass!"

This. I stuck it out in my useless glass closet for way too long, terrified of saying anything. Really that's what I hate more than the discrepancy I was born with. If I'd had the courage to deal with this stuff earlier, I wouldn't be nearly so screwed up, wouldn't have managed to screw myself up so much.

I guess at some point I will get over it and move on, but right now it is still too close. I mean, mostly things are good, things are great really. But thinking about those years where everything was so wrong still makes me want to break things. I'm still angry and bitter and scarred.

And really, I think that's fair. I think I need some time to hurt, to be hurt. When it was happening I was too busy trying to keep breathing to do anything else. I don't think it's even sane to just walk away from those years like they were nothing. Like I'm all fine now. I'm not fine. But I'm working on it.

[RosieD]

No, not in the slightest. If I'd not been born transexual then I'd not have had the experiences I have which means I wouldn't have learned enough to have the strength to acknowledge that I'm transexual. Now I've done that everything else is easy.

Love,

Rosie.

[Devlyn]

Another vote from someone who identifies as TG, I love it!

[JoanneB]

For me it is a love/hate relationship. No way around it, being trans suck. But there isn't anything you can do to change being trans, or to totally ignore it. Believe me I tried for decades!

Now, as I have come to a much greater acceptance of myself, I see in many ways how being trans actually makes me a better person. Empowering even.

What I hate about it now is sitting on this barbed wire fence. Both sides have their lush green pasteurs as well as their mires. In a perfect world I would finally climb over the top and down the otherside. In my 2 previous attempts I stopped as soon as I saw the wire. Now I am well entangled in it. While I am leaning heavily towards one side, it may mean a lot more hurt. Not knowing which way to go I hate. But not as much as I hate being entangled and the bloody mess I am making of myself while stuck here

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

If I had a choice in the matter, I would not want to be transsexual.  But I am what I am and I am changing to what I am.  A woman.

[Kelly J. P.]

 I value the experiences and memories I've formed. I enjoy my own little world, and I've grown to like all the emotions I've felt.

... but, if I were born female, then I would have a shot at being normal. I would hope that my philosophy still ends up at, roughly, the same spot it is now. I would be happy, and I would enjoy being happy. I might still not have friends, but it's likely that I would.

And because of that, I hate being transsexual with everything I am. If I could leave a note to myself, if I could be reborn, then I wouldn't have any reservations. I mean, the trans thing is great and all, but it's a miserable, self-destructive ride a lot of the time. It damages my psyche like nothing else, and a big part of that is my age and the fact that... I simply can't compete with my peers in terms of appearance. Should that matter? Well, no. But it's demoralizing, mostly when other trans people come into my life. And, well... it sucks not quite fitting in, I guess.

Anyway, rambleramble, I'm done.

The answer is yes.