Quote from: Jayr on March 09, 2013, 11:54:35 PM
Are you SUUREE it was because you're trans?
Most guys I know, myself included tend too take a LONG time before introducing our girlfriend to our family and friends.
I hope you talked too him about it first to make sure of the situation.
Why is it always cheating? I swear, it's always the worst case scenario when it's about a man.
How about maybe his roommate is an ->-bleeped-<- and might treat her badly and he didn't want to risk her being hurt?
Or how about maybe he was just not ready for her too meet everyone? Especially if his kids are involved(grown or not.)
I hope the OP talked to him about it first and took the time to understand his reasoning.
I didn't think about him being with another woman, and I trust him that he hasn't been. We spoke yesterday morning and he couldn't stop crying and he's not a cryer. He was an Army medic in Vietnam. He told me he loves me a lot and realizes just how much in the last few weeks. I still want our relationship to work, but I simply can't let it continue without more commitment, and I think he will...Jayr, he admitted to me that he's afraid of what his ex wife and kids will think of him not only dating, but being in love with a transwoman. His son just started working for him a few weeks ago, and was raised in a white bread, picket fence world. I agree with you about his roommate, because he told me the guy is an ->-bleeped-<-. My guy's surrogate father passed away in late December and he paid for the funeral and everything else. He had to take care of everything else too, and spent the last week of the guy's life to help his wife. Before he paid several thousand in funeral costs and missed almost three weeks work he was looking for a house or condo to buy so I could stay there with him sometimes, and his financial situation really suffered. He hasn't spoken much of it in the last month. About being around his family, I pass easily, but I'm positive that I'd slip up with them and say or do something pretty male. I was a really good athlete and probably know too much about sports for a woman and I know for me, it's one thing spending a few minutes or hours with someone and passing, but under scrutiny for hours by his family I'm going to blow it. I know it sounds like I'm making excuses for him, but it took me 56 years to accept myself completely and he's new to this. Like me he's a baby boomer and we were taught before anything, "what will the neighbors think?!?!" I'm into the second day of this and I've decided I'm not going to let this relationship die without fighting for him, even though I won't let it continue as it has. There's nowhere he's afraid to be seen in public with me. We've gone out to dinner lots of times, to the movies, he's even gone shopping with me for clothes and lots of guys are really uncomfortable doing that. He holds my hand or has his arm around me all the time. He kisses me in public, though we don't make out like we're fifteen. When I think of my world being without him now, I'm lonely already. When we didn't see each other we talk on the phone, e-mail, texts, voicemails...I love how he's tender and loving, but powerful making love, and kisses great. Before he came into my life I thought I was going to be alone for the rest of my life. He made me realize I deserve a good man and I still hope he's the one I'm with for the long run. I love him. We've been together for five months and haven't had one fight! I just hope that he's so lonely and misses me so badly that he reexamines what's making him keep me out of such an important part of his life and he realizes that they will just be happy so see him happy and satisfied with me, or at least take the chance to give them that opportunity. Thank you all sooo much for your kindness, honesty and Support Every single post has made me think about what direction I should take. Love and hugs, Mira
