Second Life anyone?

[Attis]

I'm not sure if this is the right topic area to put this inquiry, but what the heck. I'm a long time Second Life user and I'm just looking to see who else is a fellow SLer geek and etc. My primary interest is helping out the Transgender Resource Center get more members that could be helpful, and possibly help women and men who would like information and help, but not be exposed via their stealth sub-group as well. So, if you're an SLer just give me a pm or just send me an IM at Bridget Pinkerton on Second Life. :3

-- Brede

[Joyce]

Yes, I'm in SL all the time (Joyce Bohemia is my name) and I would agree that hanging out in the transgender resource center in SL is very helpful (that, plus trying out different body types and clothes). 

Joyce

[debbiej]

Me too. It was keeping me up here in my office for hours on end until I had to cut way back. It felt like I was cheating on my wife. I had a pretty intense relationship with two avatars (one male and one female) that turned out to be the same person. It threw me for a loop that's for sure. I also shared too much of my personal life. Lesson learned. The relationships have cooled off considerably. If there is a need I would be willing to go back and share my experiences. I'm Debbie Jewell in sl and I've got quite a few lindens to spend. I love the dresses at Frangipani Designs!!!

[Melissa]

I intended to try this before, but I've been too busy enjoying first life , so I never got around to installing it.

[Lucy]

I still go in SL occasionly last time to to say hello to my good friend Debbie above me, Lucy Elswitt if you want to find me an say Hi. You will normally find me around Please Mountain. LOL see you on the inside.

[TreeFlower]

I joined SL a couple of weeks ago and joined a GLBT group.  I said hi in the group chat and got shot down for spamming.  I dropped the group & left SL. 

Turns out many of the SL groups are like that.  They don't use group chat.  How do you build a sense of community without group chat?

I play WoW (World of Warcraft).   In WoW my life revolves around the guild (group).  We do quests and instances together. There is always something to do.  Tonight we're doing KZ.  People are counting on me to be online because I'm one of a handful of priests in the guild who can go. We have more than one group running KZ at a time so if I don't show up then there's a good chance 20 people will be disappointed.

I only spent three or four days in SL but I don't see a point to it.  Why play?  What goals are there?  Groups are useless.  People don't get together.  Like, what do you do while playing SL?  Visit places?  It just seems pointless.  Also, there were ads all over the place and the objects were very buggy. I have nothing against SL & would try it again if I could think of something to do there.

[Kendall]

I got on a bit, looked around, tried designing the char, but not much else. My time now spent with Vanguard and occasional SWG or Anarchy Online.

So I didnt get much int SL. If many get into it, I might try it further.

KK

[Dweia]

Well maybe I need to try out also....
Just registered and let see how soon I'll be lost 

[debbiej]

Why play?  What goals are there?  Groups are useless.  People don't get together.  Like, what do you do while playing SL?  Visit places?  It just seems pointless.

The relationships I developed in sl were more place oriented than group oriented. I spent time at two jazz clubs and the Unitarian Universalist Church.

What did I do? I danced mostly. An talked to the person I was dancing with. It felt so good to be held by a man who really believed I was a woman.

Also, for me, I enjoyed shopping for clothes and wearing different outfits. That is not something I am able to do in real life. I have a fairly large inventory of very pretty clothes that cost me all of about $40 US dollars.

And there was a tremendous satisfaction in passing mentally as a woman to both men and women.

One relationship was getting way too serious so I told him that I was really a male, thinking that he would leave me alone. He didn't and actually supported me. I found out later that he was also TG  M2F and was playing both roles with two separate avatars. Unbeknownst to me he used his female avatar to seduce me and later came clean and told me they were both the same person. It was the first and only time I have ever been unfaithful to my wife. I keep telling my self and my wife that we were just "cartoons" but I still feel guilty. And it is a huge embarrassment now.

Thanks for listening. Confession is good for the soul.

Sorry I didn't mean to share so much but you should know that it can suck you in and you can rationalize behavior that you wouldn't normally do in real life. Sure it wasn't a physical relationship but I was, mentally, very much in lust with her.

Debbie

[Gabrielle]

I log into SL everyso often under Gabrielle Chaplin, It doesn't hold my attention for too long since I'd rather like Melissa, live my FL.

[TreeFlower]

While we're on the subject of MMOs, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/MMO ...  I understand how you can get caught up in an online role.  MMOs offer the player the ability to "live" in their selected gender.  You can experience some psychological relief while online.  I know I did.  Its not as big of a deal now that I had GRS. Now I'm female & play a female character, big deal

I too had some online romances.  I actually married a man in a "church" by a real life minister.  I still wonder if I'm really married    It was a long romance with all the twists of a real life romance. Eventually he got sent to Iraq and we drifted apart.  That was almost two years ago and I still worry about him every day. 

Another online romance ended when a guildie went to live with my online bf in real life. Jerk was playing the field & that bitch knew he was mine.  Then he has the nerve to come crying to me when she dumps him. Still pisses me off. 

In my opinion, MMOs are great when you are transgendered.  Just watch the romances.  I keep my distance now.

[debbiej]

Treeflower,

I don't know if you post was intended to make me feel better about my experience - but it has. Thank you for sharing.  It can be a real soap opera that is for sure. I know I've lear4ned to keep my sl and rl separate.

Debbie

[Attis]

I primarily use SL as a purpose driven medium to help folks out, especially of the TG, Objectivist, or atheist kinds. It's hard to connect on a 2d medium when often the methods to communicate vary greatly. In essence, Secondlife, for better or worse, provides a single platform to derive a multitude of socializations, which is why it's also the most efficient as it as well despite some of its flaws [such as the lack of server clustering as seen in MMOs when a zone gets too many players, and etc, or the lack of an open standard use like OpenGL or YAML, and so on]. Since we're animals of 3d space, Secondlife tends to attract the younger kids that do need help and friends. :3

-- Brede

[Lucy]

A hard lesson when you get so involved, we all did it and learnt from it, glad your being sencible Debbie  .

See you soon, Ive been hanging around looking for you.. 

[LostInTime]

Tried it out for a bit and got bored with it pretty quickly. I'd rather spend time in the real.

[gween]

yes im gween tracy look me up

                                                  gween