It is a process, Jen. You will get there.
In your video, I did not get a sense of dissonance from your appearance and voice. It did sound a little strained, though.
EDIT - let me expand on my comments.
In your video, I saw a clearly female face, and heard a female voice. Have you ever seen someone on TV, or heard them on radio, and said to yourself, that voice does not go with that face/body?
Well, I did NOT get that with you. No man voice at all. I have three daughters, ages 26 to 19. I know what girls sound like. I know what guys sound like.
Your voice is getting there. I know you are not satisfied. In time, Jen, you will be.