Darrin:
it happents usunally on the net when stranger cant read whatever your suportive or not, I somehow feel the same, my friend posted some pansexual post on fb yesterday and I had SUCH a big desire to point out how annoyed I was, because it was this "when your pansexual you can fall in love with a transexual" which I dont feel is a good way to think of the label, But I didnt because it would make me look like a ignorant f*.
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I had 1 lesbian or bisexual girl who was fine with being mispronouced or misgendered, but I guess everyone is diffrent but most lesbians I know dont like to be misgender either..
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for the point of the passing rules how to pass it really imposible.
its not just about being "maculine", being read as male, and being read as maculine is not really the same.
I think im one of those people who pass better as more femenine I am, compared to being maculine, kinda wierd, but if I dress femenine people will think "oh your femenine look sligly femenine makes sense"
if im maculine people go like "your maculine but your face look so girly comepare to the macho type"
also I always point out to people on this forum thas passing also depends on people around you, like you mention you pass pretty well just when your not in the queer comunety.
or putting it up in another way its alittle like the race thing. Many white people who grow up in areas with mostly white folks cant see the diffrence between asians and general think they all look the same, also many asians cant see the diffrence between white people if they have grown up in a area where most of the population is asian.
the reason is because you sort of learn to reconize each other and look after things in each other and these are alittle diffrent from place to place. a japanese girl once said I looked like a certain guy which I didnt understand cause he was a ginger and I dont have red hair (unless if I colour it) but its because shes looking at the face, for eropeans haircolour is pretty much a thing to notice, but not for asians because most of them have dark hair.
I think its alittle the same for the passing thing about genders,
if people are used to see a guy who dress up in dresses, then they probably find it more easy to tell whatever its a guy or girl, and if people are used to see girls in male clothes then they find it more easy to see. thats pretty much whats make it hard for transfolk to pass, Because sociaty have been kinda used to the thing that woman can look very maculine and still be women, so to pass really is pretty hard, even if you look masculine.
dose all this make sense?
