What part of the masculinity in you do you enjoy?

[Kendall]

What masculine traits do you admire, enjoy, relish,  or feel is a necessity? What I'm looking for is the good in masculinity.

I myself love the masculine side of me that seeks to have fun, be care free, and be looked upon to be responsible for completing tough challenges.

I love the simplicity of communications.

Sometimes I love the ease and function of appearance.

A handful of times I will even go male formal: suit and tie. These are normally the times when something important is happening. I dont go formal female ever.

*Please no posts from others that hate or blame masculinity for anything or I will [delete] them quickly. But anyone from any gender or sex can answer what masculine traits they enjoy in themselves (or others).

[Emerald]

Positive masculine traits that I admire include:

    * assertiveness
    * autonomy
    * confidence
    * courage
    * critical thinking
    * determination
    * diligence
    * discipline
    * endurance
    * fortitude
    * honour
    * independence
    * integrity
    * perseverance
    * purposefulness
    * self-discipline
    * self-esteem
    * self-reliance

-Emerald 

[Wendy]

KK,

Strength is a handy feature of being a male.  It is very handy when doing heavy chores such as remodeling and repairing around the house.

W/E

[Casey]

I love guy teasing. It doesn't cut off the emotional connections, it masks it, kind of like code words and secret handshakes. If a guy does something embarrassing and another guy makes the right kind of joke, they both know that everything's cool between them.

I like being able to give one word answers or be vague when I really don't feel like talking about something just then.

I love being able to "puff up" when somebody gets out of line and have them take me seriously.

[Attis]

Being independent is what I like best. :3 The rest I find annoying.

-- Brede

[Nik]

I love the simplicity in a masculine appearance. A short haircut you don't have to spend an hour fixing, and dressing is much easier when it's just an issue of which t-shirt for today.
I also love the simplicity in communications, I can get my point across in one short sentence. Sometimes I don't want to force a long drawn out conversation.
Also my feminine side is very timid, so I'd never get anything done without my masculine side's assertive nature.

[Wendy]

I love being able to "puff up" when somebody gets out of line and have them take me seriously.

Too funny.  ...How about the look right through your head stare.   

[shawnael]

My male side is very charismatic, very charming. He's a cheeky devil.  >

I also like not having to say anything during a lull in conversation. I'm very comfortable with letting the silence be it's own form of communication.

[katia]

Positive masculine traits that I admire include:

    * assertiveness
    * autonomy
    * confidence
    * courage
    * critical thinking
    * determination
    * diligence
    * discipline
    * endurance
    * fortitude
    * honour
    * independence
    * integrity
    * perseverance
    * purposefulness
    * self-discipline
    * self-esteem
    * self-reliance

-Emerald 

being a feminist, i see these qualities in many women i know (including myself).  so they are [not] necessarily [masculine].

[Wendy]

My wife (GG) has the traits listed by Emerald and she is a very beautiful, intelligent and athletic.

[Laurry]

Great list Emerald!

Strength is a handy feature of being a male.  It is very handy when doing heavy chores such as remodeling and repairing around the house.

Even when living as a male, strength was never one of my assets...and, like a typical male, I never could get the dang pickle jar open.   


Some additional comments:

- Several people have mentioned communications...I agree...
  -  the short answers to difficult questions
  -  the ability to have long periods of silence without feeling awkward
  -  when a friend makes you angry, calling them a name and having the whole thing blow over quickly
  -  And, the teasing...giving someone a hard time, or them you, is a form of bonding and respect

- Flirting just for flirting's sake.

- And, while it is not a masculine trait, it is a male characteristic...the ability to pee standing up.  There is just something about whizzing on a tree (marking your territory?) that brings a sense of peace.  I know, I'm strange.

- The fact that it is OK to get dirty.  Mud, grease, gunk on your hands and clothes.  Society allows men to get away with going somewhere in dirty, greasy clothes that they would never let a woman get away with.

......Laurie

 

[Wendy]

...Even when living as a male, strength was never one of my assets...and, like a typical male, I never could get the dang pickle jar open.   
...The fact that it is OK to get dirty.  Mud, grease, gunk on your hands and clothes.  Society allows men to get away with going somewhere in dirty, greasy clothes that they would never let a woman get away with.

Unfortunately I no longer had the strength to open the pickle jar last week.

But I still get real dirty and greasy when I work on the cars.

Oh the men's restroom lines are  so much shorter at a professional sporting event!

[shawnael]

Oh the men's restroom lines are  so much shorter at a professional sporting event!

There! That's the best part!

[Emerald]

Correct Katia! Yes Wendy! Good for both of you for instantly catching on. And thank you LaurieO!
My list consisted of the virtues most commonly thought of as being masculine traits. They are 'the good in masculinity' and anyone can possess them! All wonderful attributes, ones that I admire, enjoy, relish, and feel are necessary.

-Emerald

[LynnER]

I used to enjoy the fear and respect people had for me...  I was taken seriously at any job I had and people weather face to face or over the phone believed I knew exactly what I was doing and generaly would take what ever I had to offer rather than argueing with me...  I miss that sence of.... Comand I had then....
If I had to instruct someone on how to do something they would go "Oh, thats how you do it"  now they give me blank stares and call someone else over...

Then: If I blew up at you you knew you diserved it...
Now: If I blow up at you, Im apparently haveing a hissy fit... afterall Im just a dumb blonde... right?  >

[trip]

Well, I do seem to enjoy carrying everything myself. Not caring about being "pretty." Not feeling a need to look through 100 shops, but instead just sitting somewhere. Talking about real things instead of social chit-chat. Not caring if I get dirty as long as I'm enjoying myself. Ribbing friends. Turning serious conversations into pure silliness.

I guess i even liked when I used to go out in the yard at night to see what the dog was barking out - making sure it was safe. As opposed to hiding and calling someone.

[Pica Pica]

I like striding quietly. Not clipping little rattatts but gaining ground with each step.

I like all the melancholic alone parts of being male. There's a picture called 'Wanderer Above the Sea of Fog' by Caspar David Friedrich which shows this at its best. The urge to walk alone, to sit in a quiet spot and unobtrusively watch the world. However too much of this and I crack, so I need the fun loving and social female in me too.

[Dryad]

I also like the way I can walk or run full speed, in heavy leather boots, and not make any noise..

I like the way males can communicate without saying a word. A look, a hand on a shoulder, a shudder, or not even that. When I cycle next to a woman, I often forget this doesn't actually work.. So cycling next to women, and then changing course often ends up in a near-collision.

I also like my masculine drive to protect. (Though I admit is has been close to suicidal, to me...)

I like male teamwork. And trust me; I've worked on places where I was the only physical male.. Those women were at war with one another!

I like male fights. If you lose, you lose. If you win, you win. But when the fight is over: It's over. End of story.

As for male body: I like my very broad shoulders, especially in combination with me very female waist and hips. And I like my beard. I also like the fact that I can conjure up quite a lot of strength in split second, while not actually being overly muscular. I very much like my male speed of reaction. (Without it, I'd be very much dead.) And I love the male walk. Not the shoulder-swagging walk of those boys who are constantly trying to be fierce, but the silent, fluid pace of a man at ease in every place and situation.

Though I admit I also love the female walk... Especially to tease guys walking behind me, drooling... Just to turn around and grin. >

[Pica Pica]

I'd love a female tummy, waist and hips, especially with the wide shoulders and hands, that would give all the signals I would wish to give.

Alas I have no spatial awareness or reaction times, which has probably encouraged me to immerse myself in my more traditionally femimine ways of solving problems than would otherwise be the case.

But I can walk like I own the path, not agressively but definitely, and that is nice.

[togetherwecan]

I am not sure how masculine the following are, but both my ex husbands thought they were masculine traits...


I am agressive and mostly fearless
I am a martial artist (kickboxing and grappling)


these are traits I love about my self.