Isn't it hilarious when people "fish" for private information?

[Stewie]

This seems to be happening to me lately. Probably because I'm not stuck at home lol
At work, a co-worker came into the break room halfway through my break and started to talk to me. She sits down and starts talking about random things. Then she asks, "Are you married?" Mind you I don't wear a ring of any sort. I told her I'm not. But I don't offer anything else up. Then she asks, "Do you have a boyfriend?" I told her I don't. I'm not being mean or anything. I'm smiling when I'm saying no. She then asks, "Come on, you don't have a boyfriend?" I think she might have wanted me to say, "Nope! I don't! Because I love women and men aren't my thing! Can't you tell I'm a lesbian?!" I told her no again. That was that. I didn't offer up more info. I figure I'm gonna rock the boat anyway in a bit with Transitioning so why do it now? Besides, it's none of her business lol
Another time this happend was at the hair salon. The lady is like, "Do you have a boyfriend?" I told her the same thing. Then she asked, "Don't you want one?" Mind you, if it weren't for my breasts, I would not be gendered a woman. And I was in the middle of getting a buzz cut...Does it reeeeally look like I want a boyfriend?

It's hilarious in my opinion how people think they are acting so stealthy and you don't know the info they are after.

[AdamMLP]

That kinda happened to me once, someone who's friends with me, my family and sort of knows my girlfriend asked her when they were outside smoking at the pub if she had a girlfriend or a boyfriend and just kept generally hinting at whether she was with anyone.  He wasn't trying to be harmful or nosy really, just trying to work out whether or not she was going out with me as we'd not told anyone and he just wants me to be happy because he knows how much of a rough time I've had in life (and in his own words, "it's good you're finally getting laid.")

Normally I find the best way to avoid people being annoying and dropping hints is to just come out with the information straight away, that tends to shut them up.

[Stewie]

That kinda happened to me once, someone who's friends with me, my family and sort of knows my girlfriend asked her when they were outside smoking at the pub if she had a girlfriend or a boyfriend and just kept generally hinting at whether she was with anyone.  He wasn't trying to be harmful or nosy really, just trying to work out whether or not she was going out with me as we'd not told anyone and he just wants me to be happy because he knows how much of a rough time I've had in life (and in his own words, "it's good you're finally getting laid.")

Normally I find the best way to avoid people being annoying and dropping hints is to just come out with the information straight away, that tends to shut them up.

I'm not so sure it would shut my co-workers up. They love their gossip. The manager we had just left and he was a really cool guy. Now the one we have is apparently an a-hole. He just started and I haven't had a chance to really see him in action. I've already applied to a couple more places just to see if I can start off somewhere else with the transition. Doubtful though. I'm just glad I have a job.

[Mercury]

I remember my first semester of college some girl asked me if I wanted to be a gym teacher.
When I asked her why she thought that she said "Just the way you move and walk, you carry yourself athletically."

I felt she was trying to insinuate something.

[Natkat]

this is my brother,

his always like "so you got a lover now?"
next visit: "what about now?"
mind that I in general is okay about being single..
now I got a gf so I wonder how he will think of that.. XD

personally I dont care about there attraction or there relationship unless I want to get in there pants.

[Traivs]

When I first switched locations sine in my records it said female despite the note about name change and everything all the managers knew i was biologically female. So they of course had to spend the first 3 weeks asking if i had a boyfriend or was married. Twice I came in with one of my guy friends and they ask me is that your boyfriend. At that point I had enough of it and was like yuck gross hell no he's a friend thats all. I think they finally took the hint cause now half my work knows I date women and even had a girlfriend for a bit since I have been there. Even though only a handful knew first hand. It's kinda funny how people do that though.

[wheat thins are delicious]

And I was in the middle of getting a buzz cut...Does it reeeeally look like I want a boyfriend?

Because only uber femme women can have or even want boyfriends.

[Ayden]

This seems to be happening to me lately. Probably because I'm not stuck at home lol
At work, a co-worker came into the break room halfway through my break and started to talk to me. She sits down and starts talking about random things. Then she asks, "Are you married?" Mind you I don't wear a ring of any sort. I told her I'm not. But I don't offer anything else up. Then she asks, "Do you have a boyfriend?" I told her I don't. I'm not being mean or anything. I'm smiling when I'm saying no. She then asks, "Come on, you don't have a boyfriend?" I think she might have wanted me to say, "Nope! I don't! Because I love women and men aren't my thing! Can't you tell I'm a lesbian?!" I told her no again. That was that. I didn't offer up more info. I figure I'm gonna rock the boat anyway in a bit with Transitioning so why do it now? Besides, it's none of her business lol
Another time this happend was at the hair salon. The lady is like, "Do you have a boyfriend?" I told her the same thing. Then she asked, "Don't you want one?" Mind you, if it weren't for my breasts, I would not be gendered a woman. And I was in the middle of getting a buzz cut...Does it reeeeally look like I want a boyfriend?

It's hilarious in my opinion how people think they are acting so stealthy and you don't know the info they are after.

Maybe this is just my take on it, but it sounds pretty standard. People ask questions to others to get to know them. I don't think they were trying to be nosy so much as trying to make conversation. I've asked people the same questions, but not out of trying to find out private information so much as trying to make conversation or find common ground. As for asking about boyfriends, they both probably just made a judgement call on how they perceived you and didn't mean anything bad by it.

Of course, I don't know the tone of the conversation, but questions like that come up a lot in work environments, in college, and when meeting new people all the time.

[Natkat]

well worse are with people (specially teens) who start asking future questions about your private life like. "you had sex with him?, tell me more tell me more!!"
its so annoying..

first week at my last work I was sitting with 2 coworkers, it slipped out I was bisexual and he where like.. "so have you had sex with both?, what is it like? how many do you have sex with?"
I mean.. seriously... we havent even known each other that long?

[Jayne]

In my last job several people would ask questions in an obvious attempt to embarrass me, epic fail!
When I was young my parents used to take me to nudist beaches, when I left school I spent 8yrs in engineering, both of these experiences robbed me of any ability to get embarrassed.

One person kept asking about my sexul encounters, one day the questions got more personal & I could see others around me becoming uncomfortable, not with my answers but  with his increasingly personal questions.
I ended his questioning by telling him that being in the same room as a fit naked man is the biggest turn on in the world, my rear is strictly exit only & performing oral on a man is more satisfying than an hour long sex session with a supermodel (not that i've ever been with a model, plain or super).
My response was more graphic than what i've put here but this is the gist of what I said, he went bright red & walked away, the people around me thought it was great the way I put him on the spot with my answer.

I try to be discreet with my answers but will give full disclosure if it will twist things around & put someone on the spot for trying to embarrass me.

[insideontheoutside]

Beyond being a trans/gender, sexual orientation issue, I always felt questions like this were downright rude. Some of it has just been accepted into "small talk" – like hairdressers asking if you're married, that sort of thing. When I first got married all we both got was, "when are you having kids??" I really just wanted to say, "Is that any of your f**king business?" Or say something like, "I can't have kids. Happy now? Does that satisfy your little question?". It's like when people used to ask women, "When is the baby due?" and they didn't happen to be pregnant! People just don't even think how these types of questions can be perceived and that they're making a lot of assumptions about someone just by asking them.