What made you unhappy today? v2.0

[Adam (birkin)]

New Years Dinner...basically the same thing as Christmas, just with different people who didn't make it to Christmas dinner.

I sent my whole family an email telling them about how it makes me feel when they ignore my transition/use the wrong name and pronouns. And not a single person has acknowledged the message in either a good or a bad way. It's been over a week.

[Shantel]

New Years Dinner...basically the same thing as Christmas, just with different people who didn't make it to Christmas dinner.

I sent my whole family an email telling them about how it makes me feel when they ignore my transition/use the wrong name and pronouns. And not a single person has acknowledged the message in either a good or a bad way. It's been over a week.

Typical! They're going Ewwwww what Casey said makes me uncomfortable! I know it hurts hon, we can't choose our family but thankfully we can choose our friends and if the family thing becomes toxic we can always kick them to the curb and make the friends our new family. Painful, but it happens all the time. Meanwhile, you can't allow family members to hold you in emotional bondage for an extended period just because they can't deal with your stuff. I had to put my relationship with my mom and sister on the back burner for a period of ten years because of the same treatment, eventually they changed their thinking.

[Medusa]

Ok, I expect lot but this?
"I look for a wife, the minimum requirement for that is being female."
That say me man, who met me once (at gallery) and I want to go to friendly lunch with him
WTF 

[DeeperThanSwords]

I found out tonight that my fiancé is considering splitting up. He's gone off to bed, and although I'm exhausted, I'm feeling really anxious about going in there. We've both been stressed, but this is a horrible, unexpected sudden escalation. Might just get another blanket and sleep on the couch. Can't suppress the crying for long. This is awful. I want to talk to someone, but I have nobody else. I'd consider calling Samaritans, but I don't know how much good they could do. 

[Shantel]

I found out tonight that my fiancé is considering splitting up. He's gone off to bed, and although I'm exhausted, I'm feeling really anxious about going in there. We've both been stressed, but this is a horrible, unexpected sudden escalation. Might just get another blanket and sleep on the couch. Can't suppress the crying for long. This is awful. I want to talk to someone, but I have nobody else. I'd consider calling Samaritans, but I don't know how much good they could do. 

Hang in there my friend, tomorrow will be another day and time for an extended breakfast and long heartfelt conversation where you both get to talk calmly with as little drama as possible and both listen to each other with an open mind and heart. It will pass and things will be better if you're both willing to give 100% with no expectations of anything in return. Best wishes to you both!

[K Style Addiction]

My house is filled with anger, hate and bitterness. *HUGS* Biscuit_Stix, i've got a good line i heard from a movie but i don't think the mods would accept what i would type heh.

[DeeperThanSwords]

Hang in there my friend, tomorrow will be another day and time for an extended breakfast and long heartfelt conversation where you both get to talk calmly with as little drama as possible and both listen to each other with an open mind and heart. It will pass and things will be better if you're both willing to give 100% with no expectations of anything in return. Best wishes to you both!

Thank you, I appreciate it. We didn't manage to get much time this morning, Himself had to get ready for work, but we did have a short reconciliatory talk. He's been bottling up stresses for a long time, and I've been leaning on him too much, with no idea how much it's taking out of him, so we've been spiralling into depression for some time without realising how bad things were. However, he reaffirmed that he loves me and wants to work things out. Neither of us want to split up, but we've agreed that we need to get more help, more coping resources.

I've gotten in touch with our local couples counselling service, hopefully they'll get back to me soon.

[Shantel]

Thank you, I appreciate it. We didn't manage to get much time this morning, Himself had to get ready for work, but we did have a short reconciliatory talk. He's been bottling up stresses for a long time, and I've been leaning on him too much, with no idea how much it's taking out of him, so we've been spiralling into depression for some time without realising how bad things were. However, he reaffirmed that he loves me and wants to work things out. Neither of us want to split up, but we've agreed that we need to get more help, more coping resources.

I've gotten in touch with our local couples counselling service, hopefully they'll get back to me soon.

That sounds like good news! We had gone to counseling and the so-called expert couldn't seem to get his head around the fact that the husband (me) had been surgically and hormonally altered as if somehow a real relationship would be impossible without a big stiff woody. My little S.O. felt like taking his head off, interestingly though it was his college aged female intern that was sitting in that got us and it all made perfect sense to her. So we discovered that we really made the greatest progress in settling our issues between us by having long heartfelt talks at home and making the effort to un-stuff those things that we had been stuffing  until we had hit the bursting point. Good luck you two!

[spring0721]

Thank you, I appreciate it. We didn't manage to get much time this morning, Himself had to get ready for work, but we did have a short reconciliatory talk. He's been bottling up stresses for a long time, and I've been leaning on him too much, with no idea how much it's taking out of him, so we've been spiralling into depression for some time without realising how bad things were. However, he reaffirmed that he loves me and wants to work things out. Neither of us want to split up, but we've agreed that we need to get more help, more coping resources.

I've gotten in touch with our local couples counselling service, hopefully they'll get back to me soon.

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Aethan, I'm so sorry:( I know that you both have a lot going on right now.  Maybe he's one of those guys that internalizes everything (hence you say he's bottling everything up).  I hope the couseling services get you in soon, maybe they can help you two keep the communication open between you. I'm hoping all goes well.

[AlexxToDream]

I wonder if I should post in this thread...hmm. I suppose it won't hurt.

I dreamt of being a child last night and it made me miss my Papa and Deustchland.

[Shantel]

I wonder if I should post in this thread...hmm. I suppose it won't hurt.

I dreamt of being a child last night and it made me miss my Papa and Deustchland.

You're homesick poor baby! ((((hugs))))

[DeeperThanSwords]

I wonder if I should post in this thread...hmm. I suppose it won't hurt.

I dreamt of being a child last night and it made me miss my Papa and Deustchland.

I'm sorry, that must be difficult. *big hug*
Perhaps your unconscious is trying to work through those feelings with you.

On a lighter note, I can understand missing Germany, it's great. 

[King Malachite]

I think I got another virus on my laptop....and I just did a destructive recovery not too long ago -_-

[Adam (birkin)]

I'm worrying! Argh! The grades are due tomorrow, and I've submitted all of mine, but for some reason I can't see what he has entered and he can't see what I've entered.

Besides that, there were a few students whose papers I delivered to his mailbox, and none of their grades are up. What if he didn't get them. What if...argh ugh damn it all. Not that the problem/grade could not be amended, but it's a ton of paperwork and BS and what if I get blamed somehow.

[DeeperThanSwords]

Had to unfriend and block someone on FB because they were being an a-hole.

[Kevin Peña]

I'm worrying! Argh! The grades are due tomorrow, and I've submitted all of mine, but for some reason I can't see what he has entered and he can't see what I've entered.

Besides that, there were a few students whose papers I delivered to his mailbox, and none of their grades are up. What if he didn't get them. What if...argh ugh damn it all. Not that the problem/grade could not be amended, but it's a ton of paperwork and BS and what if I get blamed somehow.

I'm sure they'll understand. It sounds like you did your work on time. Someone else might be to blame.

Had to unfriend and block someone on FB because they were being an a-hole.

Ah, Facebook, I never liked it. Hearing people go on about it today made me unhappy. 

[DeeperThanSwords]

Most of the time, it's fine, but sometimes, like pretty much everywhere on the internet, you get people who won't see reason.

[Adam (birkin)]

I'm sure they'll understand. It sounds like you did your work on time. Someone else might be to blame.

I'm sure. These particular students who gave me papers are all good students too, so if I tell them that it can be fixed, they won't freak. It's those who are insecure in themselves that panic even when we tell them it can be fixed.

[Nathan.]

Me and my mum were given eviction papers at the end of November saying we have to be out by the end of Jan because the council changed how much money we had to give towards rent, we used to pay £50 towards it a month, now we have to pay £250 a month which we have no way of paying.

We thought we'd be put in a B&B till the council found us a place, but mum had a meeting with Housing Options today and they said we'd be put up in a B&B for a few days but then we'll have to live in our car until they find a place.   

[Shantel]

Sorry Nathan, that truly sucks! Seems like a lot of folks everywhere are slipping through the cracks. I wonder if the local church people would offer any help?