My dad. He wants to go on a trip with me, and then he says "...we may have to take some extra time between connections. I know what will happen at the airport - what? You say you're male?"
Stupid a-hole. I didn't respond, but he's obviously not aware that I pass in most situations. Besides that, all they care about is that all the documentation matches - in my case, it does, it all has my legal name as well as "male" for sex.
But no, apparently I still look like a lesbian. I hate people. I really, really hate people. They don't get it. And I am getting an increasing amount of hatred for the gays and lesbians in this city. They think they can just casually go "oh hey, we know you're transgender and that's totally fine!" NO. It's not totally fine. You only "spotted" me because some trans people still want to have their alliances with the gay community they came from, if they were "gay" before transition (as in, born female and likes women, or born male and likes men). I didn't spend all this time and money on appointments just to get on T and on a surgeon's waiting list. I did not spend a year on hormones to just look like some super butch lesbian who MUST be trans. I'm not transitioning to look trans, I am transitioning to look male because that's how I was supposed to be born. And I am not transitioning for "trans pride" and to just omg totally have fun at the gay clubs.
The anger's been building over time, and especially over today. The next time some gay or lesbian person comes up to me and feels the need to point out that I'm trans immediately, I am going to call them out on their ignorance. They want to be left alone to love the people they love, and hey, I respect that. but they need to learn to respect that we, as trans people, want to be left the eff alone TO BE OURSELVES.
