My eldest daughter verbally abused me this morning.
She suffered a minor injury at school a couple of days ago and she asked me to write her a 'sick note' for P.E. this morning so that she won't have to run around. But the problem is: I haven't come out to their school yet because my kids are mortified at the idea of people at school finding out that one of their parents is transitioning. So I'm in a bit of a Catch-22 here, because I ain't using my old name and the kids don't want me to out myself by using my correct name.
I said as much to her, asking her how am I supposed to interact with her school if she's dead-set against me interacting with her school? She flew into a rage, threatened to walk out the door, and told me our relationship would be 'over' if I ever breathed a word of this to her school. All sorts of nasty epithets & false accusations were flung my way.
Hmmm. It seems that just the simplest trigger causes her to threaten to walk out on me, because she knows it's my most sensitive area. It's very difficult for me to cope with. I get threatened with losing my children at least once a week and it's doing my head in.
Anyway, I sorted out the immediate problem by phoning her dad and getting him to call the school, excusing her from P.E. But that's not a long-term solution.
