How do YOU feel?

[togetherwecan]

This is a question for SO's...

Brooke has begun therapy, had her 2nd session. Those of you with SO's in therapy...how did/do you feel about it?

[Bob]

Well to be completely honnest I think it is a bunch of Bull feathers !  I know My Kid far better than the theropest does and we talk alot, the theropest isn't going to say anything
that is going to Change My kids mind,  her mind is made up...  so what is the theropest for ? to MAKE darn sure this is what they want... well DUH obviously !  in my mind its a total waste of money...  if my kid can't figure out whats going on in her head no theropest has a prayre in heck of ever doing so...  My kid thinks about this stuff... like myself She knows herself better than any human alive...  I tought her that when she was young...
"KNOW thyself!"   it is the most important thing you can do....  and now that he has become a she , others question weather she is working on all thrusters   she didn't come by this desigion lightly.... and I resent her having to go to a theropest because the laws make it so... if she wants the operations she has to do it their way.... so thats all it is... is playing the game that they want to play....
...it stinks that we have to do that but our socioty makes us.... i'ed rather say  isn't it enough that she has made the desigion ALREADY ... but its not.
so there we stand !
...
so the thropest bleeds us dry for 9 times the amount of money I ever made wnen I was working, with absoultly no hope of CUREING my Kid... becouse My Kid doesn't need cureing!
when they come to that conclusion too then it will be ok for her to get the operation...
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its all a bunch of bull !
...
Bob.......

 

[Alison]

Wow... Bob.. have you looked into another therapist? =/

I love our therapist.. I recommend her to anyone in need of one in the DFW area.. She is wonderful.. we go to the sessions together, it really has helped both of us along the journey..

Though I agree sometimes seperate therapy can be better, I still think that if possible, you should go to some therapy -with- your spouse/parent whoever... it can make the transition for everyone a lot easier..  (Remember even though this is 'their' transition... it's your transition too... you're viewing them in a whole new light..)

[Bob]

Hi Alison !
Oh, don't get me wrong here , the theropest seams to know whats going on and all that
but the Kid Doesn't need theorpy  I know that sounds like a contradiction for anyone wanting SRS but in this case its not... and  unfortionately there are no EXCEPTIONS to the rules
and I think there should be.... I look at it as another way to seperate you from your money and thats all... I have asked many times if the theropy has helped and I alwayse get a "OH YES" imediate reply... so it must be worth something no doubt there !
but the question was to me ...how I felt and I think its a bunch of bunk ! ...
its a bunch of bunk to make it MANDANTORY for ALL SRS paintents to have to have theorpy
of  x amount of hours inorder to recieve "Aproval".
... just as its a bunch of Bunk to have all motorcycle Riders have to ware a helmit...
...it may well be the RIGHT thing to do... but makeing it Mandantory infringes upon our personal rights .
  Believe me , if I thought for a second that My kid had any other choice I'ed go along with somebody elses ideas on how to go about this... the whole idea of someone trying to
glean information into someones feelings to come up with a reason as to why they feel they way they do is hap-hazard at the very best, and its very possable for them to make it much much worse,....extreamily easy !....
  No I don't trust theropests... or doctors, or lawyers, or used car salesmans ... in fact its easiest to say I don't "TRUST ANYONE"     but yet we are FORCED to endure theorpy because it is what our socioty expects.... if My Kid doesn't "play by the ruels" then
there is no SRS on the horrizon... and thuss no hope...  is that fair ?
...
No doubt there are many good helpfull theropests out there ! and I think any TS would benifit from talking to them...  but there are exceptions to every rule...
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its plane and simple a birth defect one that is overlooked for many years in most cases
... if this birth defect was one that crippled my Kid say being born with only one foot and the other leg just stop at the knee... you can bet your bottom dollar that any doctor would feel right at home offering his services to help my Kid... but this is diferent !
it ...deals with SEX... the other four letter word of our Puritian socioty  and Doctors are scared to touch it ! therefore the prices go up for those with enough guts to take it on... even long distance over the PHONE... at $100 bucks for 15 minutes or so I think its a steep price to pay for theorpy but it IS the best on offer, and one we can scarsely afford, that is why its on hold for a while...  and ALL that for his signiture saying he gives his "aproval"....  yah I think I'ed talk on the phone for $100.00 for 15 minutes to a half hour too  I might even give my aproval too if they had enough time clocked in...
...( do you get the meaning?)   
   theropest are great if you NEED them... realy not wanted if you don't !
and makeing it mandantory for SRS is just a way to seperate you from your money ... if you don't have the money then what ? Oh sorry your not sick ? we can't do SRS without a theropests aproval... and if you can't aford the theropest well your just SOL. 
Sorry , but I hate it when this "Well meaning Socioty" can't keep its nose out of my business....
I see Well meaning BS all the time in our socioty... it permeates every level
and ITS TOTALLY WRONG... if a person asks for help then give it to them, if they do not then don't force it upon them.   we are supposed to be a Free country.
live and let live is a great moto ....
I realy do detest being Protected from myself.   and thats all this is !
......

but truly in the case of MOST TS people a theropest IS definately Needed, to try and go it without one has deadly consiquences, make no mistake about that...
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sorry for runnin' off at the mouth ! <grin>

I have no problem with my Kid being male or female what ever makes her happy and I know being female will do that... but why does socioty make it dang near impossable for a poor person to do this ? ...its called GREED,....  just one more way to get money out of ya!
thats fine if you have some money to give... but if you don't what then ?
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its a screwed up Mess !
...
Bob.......


OK having said all that let me get back to the point...
is theorpy a good thing ?
IN MOST CASES YES !
is theropy NEEDED ? 
in most cases YES ! half the time the TS person doesn't realy understand what the heck is going on with themselves ! so yes its definately needed.
...
I havn't talked to My Kids Theropest...
though, I think I'ed like to and drag him over the coals for a while, <grin>
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do I need his saged wisdome  ?
Definately NOT !
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If I have any questions I ask My Kid... who better to tell me than someone I do trust ?

Do I need theropy ?
it has been said a few times that I do but that is debateable !
am I having truble adjusting to my Kids new way of life ?
... eh... to be honnest sometimes it bothers me..I admit that...  enough to loose sleep over , no , enough to need theropy , NO.
in fact its not enough to even mention to her...   I think its just the mood I am in at the time, that some times, it bothers me .... thats all...
its kind'a like "Ah... why can't you be like a normal Kid ."  but I've said that every sense he was born ! HAHHAHAHA ! there is no diference now ! She is still my Kid
still the extroidonary mind, still the thinker, and logical person I raised
changeing sexes won't change that, the hormones might ! (hehehehehehe) but I doubt it !
...

so in all Honnesty , I have no problem with my kids transision, as long as that is what my Kid wants then that is what she Should have ! ...
if it goes against socioty  Phooie on them !  I have no love for socioty anyway as they do nothing but mess us up anyway ! ... all I want from socioty is to be left alone and they won't even do that !...but so what else is new !<grin>

so How do I feel ? I feel loved by my Child... and I don't ask for anything more !
anything more I get is just iceing on the cake.
after all, that is what is important
....
I admit its hard for Dad to ask for Daughters help Knowing she'll probly brake another nail again.... hehehe but I get over it real fast ! HAHAHAHAHHAHA !
I wouldn't trade her for anything !
...
Bob.......

[togetherwecan]

I personally have very mixed feelings.
It's hard when you live as far a part as we do and have the addition of a wife in the mix.
I am thrilled Brooke began therapy. I hope this therapist is the right one for her.
I know how passive Brooke can be so I worry that she wont steer the sessions to her advantage to reach her goal of validation of TS and eventual HRT.
As paranoid as this sounds as well, I want Brooke to talk about our relationship in the sessions when appropriate although I fear what the therapist says in response to it. Also...call me a kook, but I want to know at the same time I don't want to know what was said.