a little too old to be discovering myself??

[mm]

Age should not be a big consideration, there are transguys transitioning at young and old age.  Getting a good therapist is one of the first things you should do.  You will not start hrt's - T - immediately but the effects are big once you do start.  I hope to start soon and am looking forward to my last monthly bleeding.

[Emma Morgaine]

Wow. i really neded to read all of this to help me understand more and be supportive of my friend who is 38 and beginning transition. Thank you! and yes it is never too late to be YOU!

[Jason.Bailey]

thank you Catherine the closest therapist seems to be in Toronto so far...I'll keep looking though because this is very important 

[Jason.Bailey]

you all are so helpful and supportive!! 

[Catherine Sarah]

Dear Jason,

Thank you very much. You are most welcome. Support and assistance is just like breathing. It comes as part and parcel of being in Susan's family. A family of choice.

I hope you find a good therapist. The YOU, a good therapist can help you find, is absolutely priceless.

Huggs

Catherine

[Jason.Bailey]

ok...therapist..first step...I'm making an appointment tomorrow...wish me luck! 

[Emma Morgaine]

Congratulations! <3

[Beverly]

ok...therapist..first step...I'm making an appointment tomorrow...wish me luck! 

Good luck!

[Taka]

good luck with the therapist

i want to be sure that it's the right path for me, but things are really starting to add up and make sense in my mind. At any rate, all your inputs are very helpful 

there is no age that is "too old" to get to know your real self. if things are starting to add up in your mind, then chances are you've made a significant discovery. it will take a lot of pondering and self exploration to get sure of where you really want to go with this, but when you figure out something that really clicks with you, there's no reason to dismiss it just because you didn't realize earlier. some truths are discovered as you grow older and become more of yourself and less of other people's expectations.

[Jason.Bailey]

good luck with the therapist
there is no age that is "too old" to get to know your real self. if things are starting to add up in your mind, then chances are you've made a significant discovery. it will take a lot of pondering and self exploration to get sure of where you really want to go with this, but when you figure out something that really clicks with you, there's no reason to dismiss it just because you didn't realize earlier. some truths are discovered as you grow older and become more of yourself and less of other people's expectations.

Thanks Taka...yes, things are beginning to add up and make sense in my mind...I don't remember much of my childhood because of some pretty bad stuff that happened, but the things I do remember, all seem to have something to do with gender and the typical "roles" specifically for the child of that gender...plus, a few years ago, I did present as male for a few months, and all my friends say I'm "one of the guys" mostly because of my personality and how I naturally interact with the male population...and when I dress the part, i feel a sense of freedom and peacefulness that I don't feel when I'm dressed as a girl..if that makes sense? But parts of me are still hanging on to feminine aspects...could it be that I'm male, but gay? I don't really know...

[Taka]

it does make sense, jason. actually when it comes to making sense it's more important that it makes sense to you than to anyone else. i can't make sense of most girls, but they still exist. just like you are who you are, even though it might be hard to find other people who get you. it's perfectly possible that you are a gay guy. but you might also be a straight or bisexual guy who just likes feminine things. and some of the feminine aspects you cling to might be things you learned to cling to in order to appear more convincingly feminine, or attributes you love to see in other women and also want to apply to yourself because you've learned that you should be like them. there are many possible answers, and as you keep exploring, i'm sure you'll figure them out. i haven't figured out half of myself yet, and i'm hoping a gender therapist can help me with this soon, so i can find the best way to become more like myself.

[Jason.Bailey]

ya...im going to see a gender therapist next week, and i'm really hoping he can help me be more me...my new boyfriend is also trans and is very supportive and understanding, and so is my ex girlfriend, also trans...so i have a lot of supports which i'm very thankful for....and what you are saying makes a lot of sense as well.

[JoanneB]

At 26 I was ending my second 6 month max transition experiment. My third time at resolving my demons started 3 years ago at 53 and still ongoing.

Before I had a need to find a gender therapist it would have been easy for my. I lived right outside NYC. Unfortunately I was in rural West Virginia when the excrement hit the air handler. I spent about 4 months of fruitless Google searches in ever expanding radiuses from home. The absolute best thing to come from that was finding the only "local" TG support group. Local being 90 miles away.

Physchology Today has a Doc Finder with a search term for Gender. It did turn up some "locals", some 90 miles away.

[aleon515]

Most of the guys on youtube are super young, but there are exceptions. There is a collab channel called (hate the name!)"It's a Man's World" (yikes). OTOH, it's pretty good and all the guys are over 30. I am way way over that.

There is a ftm forum here. You might try posting who here started transition over 25. You might be very surprised.

BTW, there are no rules on how you present. Presentation is gender presentation not gender. Plenty of guys in my support group are gay or appear gay and are not. It's actually pretty common as we were all socialized as female. I am guessing I am going to appear gay, and who know.

--Jay J

[gennee]

Jason, I discovered that I'm trans wwhen I wwas fifty-six (I'm 64 now). I know of folks who transitioned in their sixties and seventies. You're not too young to explore who you are. I'm stilll exploring.

[andy_pap]

I am 26 and just started to look for answers to my issues with gender
My doctor said there is no full proof way to find out no test Can give you a solid answer
Good look on finding out

[spacial]

I am 26 and just started to look for answers to my issues with gender
My doctor said there is no full proof way to find out no test Can give you a solid answer
Good look on finding out

Try this: http://gendertest.weebly.com/index.html

The point is, if you think you are then you probably are.

I recall someone asking, Is it not a pretty major step to take, only to find you've made a mistake?

The answer is, that major step, is a long journey. You won't get there over night. It takes years.

The proof, is the numbers who claim to change their minds after is astonishly small. And, as significant, the numbers who either change their minds early on, or who decide they don't need to go the full route, are the vast majority.

Me for example.

[andy_pap]

Hay that link just brings you back here

[spacial]

Hay that link just brings you back here

If you click yes. Of course it does. Where else would anyone with a gender identity problem go? 

[Patty_M]

DrBecky.com/therapists.html is a site listing GID experienced therapists.  There are people in every state and most good sized cities.

Check the site to see if anyone is near you.  You could also visit any support groups in your area.  People there will know about anyone near you.

Hope this is helpful.

Patty_M

that's a good idea. Where do I find one? I must say that this is getting a lot easier since I have moved to a new city and have met a few trans people who are now wonderful friends....it's not so scary anymore you know?