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On Detransition

Started by Shana A, November 12, 2012, 07:28:15 PM

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On Detransition
November 6, 2012 at 7:05 pm Natalie Reed

http://freethoughtblogs.com/nataliereed/2012/11/06/on-detransition/

Note: This post owes a great deal to the contributions and input of a friend who had lived through relevant experiences. While they wish to remain anonymous, I want to express gratitude for their help and lend credit where credit is due.

Last week a story broke in the British press concerning a young trans woman, Ria Cooper, who at 17 had been the youngest patient to ever receive hormone treatment for gender transition under the NHS. Ria was now considering "detransition", that is, the choice to eschew her scheduled lower surgery, discontinue the use of exogenous hormones and anti-androgens,  and return to living and presenting as male, within general cultural concepts of male-ness.

Obviously the often notoriously vicious and transphobic mainstream British press seized on the story, providing as it did an apparent "confirmation" of the initial fears and doubts that the cis public had expressed when Cooper first sought treatment: their outrage at the idea of "kids being given sex changes!", the idea that at 17 she was "too young" to make such a decision, the distrust of the NHS funding gender transition at all, let alone for "unconventional" patients like trans youth, the idea that it was a frivolous and risky expense of the NHS' public funding, and the general "gatekeeping" mentality: cissexist or cis-centric biases that lead to the idea that medical gender transition is something that demands an especially extraordinary amount of caution, evidence that the patient is "sure" and capable of being "sure", and evidence that the patient is "really" trans. Cooper's (immediately publicized) choice to detransition offered an almost irresistible narrative for everybody in Britain who had expressed outrage, disgust, unease or even mild suspicion that it was a "bad idea" to "allow" her to be treated. It offered them all a chance to feel smug, collectively shrug their shoulders and sigh "I told you so".

Naturally, this was how the story was spun.
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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Ms. OBrien CVT

The problem with Ria is not that she changed her mind, it was a total lack of support form her parental units.  If they had supported her and backed her up, then stupid cis-people would have been told "tough"

  
It does not take courage or bravery to change your gender.  It takes fear of living one more day in the wrong one.~me
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spacial

Added to that, changing her mind at that stage is one of the more essential parts of the process. It shows the process works.

It isn't for everyone.

Only the most determined do everything.

It takes years of work, sacrifice and commitment.

But most people can't sell every decision they make, to the press.



Addition.
If I may add, with respect to the author, I did manage to follow this article rather better.
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Joelene9

  That author's diatribe was a bit long, but the message is still there.  There will be those who will change their mind.  Ria did so before having SRS which will help her detransition smoother.  I just hope she doesn't do it to try to impress her parents.  Her parents will never be satisfied what he/she will do with an attitude they exhibited in the first place.  I've seen this in the past with my cis friends and acquaintances trying to impress their parents in a similar manner. 

  I impressed my mom without trying.  You try, she'll see right through you.
  I impressed her when I graduated from high school.
  I impressed her when I joined the Navy.
  I impressed her when I came out as transgender and sought help.
  My siblings impressed her after portions the top 3 above plus giving her all of those grandchildren to spoil. 

  My dad was absentee and so was his brother to his two daughters.  This came out when we discovered that we had two cousins from my dad's brother this past spring.  We all were just a gun notch tally to the both of them.  No way to impress these two men. 

  Joelene
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Isabelle

If you havnt already, and you're interested in finding out a little more about bradly/ria, watch the short BBC doco about him. Obviously a documentary only shows a sliver of a persons overall personality but, they painted a picture of a person who seemed to struggle with education and relish drama, essentially making him look a lot like a "typical chav" girl. If the documentary was anything to go by, he struck me as having issues that, while unrelated to his gender identity, certainly didn't help. The hrt thing is interesting as, in the doco, as soon as he gets hrt, he stops taking it so he can maintain male sexual function. Not all 17 year olds are like him. Far from it. I don't think any health professional would have any difficulty identifying the deference between him, and a girl that needs help. 
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