Renae I completely understand where you are coming from.
It is true many GG are very critical of themselves, and there are many that are not. There are many that are more apt to understand and pick up on these images and myth of beauty portrayed in the media and get to the point where they either ignore them or speak out against them. It is a large part of third wave feminism.
"I'm not knocking all those that cannot ever afford surgery, not every TS can, just like not every GG can." Keira this statement is a little loaded because it comes from the perspective that it is a matter of affordibility, and that every TS or GG wants cosmetic surgery or needs it. The reality is there are quite a few that do not want or need cosmetic surgery because we accept themselves for who we are in that respect. This comes from the same dialog that existed in the TS community that every TS woman needs FFS, and those that were critics of the proceedure were just jealous and could not afford it. The truth is, some of us have higher self acceptance and FFS is not always needed, and I think it is rarely if ever needed with younger TS, even though it is becoming increasingly common proceedure even for them. There is a point in changing things to pass and sometimes FFS is needed to pass, but I do have my share of criticisms about the community and how the concept of FFS has gotten to this point where many in the community view it as a necessity for every TS woman. It comes from the idea that being a woman means having a beautiful face. Sorry, its not for me, my issue is not with my face, but with my body. While HRT will improve my face, I personally have no issue with it now that most of the facial hair is removed. (My hair may be a different story, but gettin that fixed, if it can be fixed is not a matter of beauty).
For the most part I agree with you Renae. I personally come from a very similiar perspective on the issue. While many use gender dysphoria as an explanation the truth is many are buying into the media and societal myth of beauty. There needs to be an understanding that feminine beauty is something that can be very flexible and that greater self acceptance does not have to come from a knife.
Also to be honest, not everybody is really after beauty, for some self acceptance is much more important, and that self acceptance does not have to come from being beautiful.
Also I did not mean to really attack late transitioners on a previous post, but it was to make a point. While a late transitioner may be spotted by everybody while wearing a wig, it is not the wig that is giving them away. When transitioning so late in life it is often impossible to pass without FFS and the wig may just be part of the reason they can be spotted. This is where I will flat out say FFS has been a miricle, those who are transitioning later in life it actually does give them an opportunity to pass. For those of us who are fortunate enough to be transitioning at a fairly young age, that one little thing does not keep us from passing. I did not mean to be insulting, but it is a reality many of us transitioning in our late twenties and early thirties have to face. Passing in every other respect, but our hair, and wigs do make a huge difference.
