Hello Everyone!
I have been dealing with some family issues that I want to talk about here! Over the summer I told my family about my partner transitioning (MtF). Both of my parents (who are divorced) were shocked at first but they seem to be in a better place about all this. For example, my mom and dad call my wife by her female name and use the female pronouns. My mom even bought my wife some female clothing over the summer. But both of my parents did some things recently that really hurt my feelings.
1. My mom did not include writing about me (or my partner) in the holiday card that she sends out to people. She called me before she did this and said that "she told everyone who she wants to know about this now and does not want the rest of the family to know about it yet .... or ever". I feel like I am in a difficult situation because I want to support my wife during her transition and I want to give my mom the space she needs to take all of these changes in. But feeling like I am being erased from the family in this public way hurts a lot! I am not ashamed of my life and I don't like being treated that way. Any ideas on how I could handle this situation?
2. My dad still has not told my stepmom or their kids about this!! So I am in these embarrassing situations where my bother asks to speak to "Charles" (not her real name), even though "Charles" is not going by that name or "he" anymore for that matter. I told my dad that he needs to tell the family soon and he said that he is "waiting for the right time." I told him that if he is waiting for the "right" time that this time may never come. There are days that I want to call and just tell them but I don't because my dad said he wanted to do it and my stepmom is a horrible person and has made it very clear to me that she hates me. Any ideas?
Good news on both situations is that I live far away from both families so it is not like I have to worry about seeing these people in person for a really, really long time.
Hugs and thanks!
