Kia Ora, [Because this topic involves the 'closet' I've put it in the 'closet' section-Excuse the pun
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Denial, is for the most part a trans-person's middle name...
Like many M2Fs here, I lived a life of self-denial. At first my closet door was rarely opened, I didn't like what was inside and naively thought I could bolt the door shut for good by marrying the woman I fell in love with...
My story no doubt is a familiar one- However marrying 'once' was enough for me to realise it wasn't going to work...Falling in love it would seem, was not enough to bury my true-self, even having children whom I love dearly, couldn't secure the bolt on the closet door...
I had been prescribed tranquilisers in my early twenties to help me cope with 'anxiety' [deep denial and the wish/desire to 'conform' brought on this anxiety]...
To cut a long story short, for many of us who suffer or have suffered from GD-GID, sadly "Love does 'NOT' always conquer all !"
Nowadays in most western societies, our 'condition' is becoming more and more understood/accepted/tolerated, which for some younger members this greatly shortens the length of time they have/have had to spent in the somewhat claustrophobic closet of denial.
Two questions :
For those who are or have been ...Why did you get married ?
And if you are not married, have you thought about it as a means of escaping your true-self ?
Metta Zenda
