Dilemma With a Guy / Family.

[Zumbagirl]

What would you do in that situation??

If it was me, and were in your situation, I wouldn't say anything. It's no like your both going to run off and get married or something. Besides once you say it, it can never be taken back and you should expect them to tell thier friends "Hey guess what? There is a chick living next door who used to be a dude?" Is that the way you want to be remembered, because that wouldn't work for me Who knows who they know either.

Besides, any guy who wants to get all buddy buddy after meeting a woman after just 5 minutes is by definition a creep.

[Alainaluvsu]

I'm with AusBelle, just let it pass.

His Mum obviously likes you but you don't have to take a blind date further than being friendly.

If she asks tell her that he is really sweet but not your type.

Normally this wouldn't be an issue, but he's black. Here in the south (USA), that kind of rejection usually means "I don't date black guys." Which can sound bad...

I agree with this any man who just feels up random women is a creep. But hey I dont know him but the whole feeling you up thing makes him sound like one.

Seriously? It's not like he was feeling my boobs or anything... He put an arm around me and lightly brushed his fingers up and down my arm. I think that's more flirty than creepy.

[Tristan]

with guys like that I would tell them in a public place over coffee or lunch. they tend to either be like,"i gadda go" and run for the hills or think its ok or they just need to think about it first. in case of any event I did learn self defense and a little close handed combat moves. if anyone ever gets fresh a girl needs to get physical with bullies.

[Annah]

Personally, I agree wait till you can be safe before telling him.  Otherwise just say you are not interested.

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[Annah]

Seriously? It's not like he was feeling my boobs or anything... He put an arm around me and lightly brushed his fingers up and down my arm. I think that's more flirty than creepy.

that's not creepy at all

He's totally into you

[Beverly]

My next door neighbor had her son and family over the other night and they decided to invite me over for some drinking and hanging out. Well, long story short, the guy was obviously interested in me,

...

What would you do in that situation??

I would never date my neighbour. Ever.

Most of us form many relationships before we settle on the one relationship we wish to stay in. That means that most of our relationships are going to end/fail/stop/break-up. The odds are you will be living next to your ex. Not good.

[Isabelle]

Another option could be, if you have a water sprinkler on your front lawn, you could just have some "pants off" time on the next sunny day and play in the water. That might solve the issue plus, pants off time is fun

[Alainaluvsu]

Another option could be, if you have a water sprinkler on your front lawn, you could just have some "pants off" time on the next sunny day and play in the water. That might solve the issue plus, pants off time is fun

Post of the month! You get a thumbs up lol!!

And yall, my worries aren't how to tell him or how to tell him no anymore. I'm simply not into long distance relationships (He goes back to Virginia on the 12th). It's more of a "what have I got myself into?" question. Kinda like what if his mom finds out I'm trans and she saw him all over me... what should I expect and prepare for?

that's not creepy at all

He's totally into you

[generous4]

You've just met the guy and he feels free to 'handle' you in this way?

That is the first thing I thought, too!

[Alainaluvsu]

lord...

What would you do? Pull away from him and seem like a complete prude in front of everyone? Like I said, it's not like his hand went under my top or he started rubbing my crotch, geez. I've gotten subtle brushes on my back at a supermarket from strangers ... I better defend myself!!!

[Isabelle]

Lol. Sometimes people touch each other as a sign of attraction. I don't get all the "omgz wtf he toucheded yu!!!1!1 grossss"

[crazy at the coast]

Yeah, I get touchy guys in the store, mostly they don't bother me, but a few have gotten creepy with it. I just pull back a little and so far, they haven't gotten offended.



The whole guy thing being interested in me has been weird. I'm fairly shy and I really don't want to risk dating anyone when so many people know I'm trans. I know what they would say about the guy.

In your situation, I would just not worry too much about it unless he tries to pursue anything further.

[Tristan]

Post of the month! You get a thumbs up lol!!

And yall, my worries aren't how to tell him or how to tell him no anymore. I'm simply not into long distance relationships (He goes back to Virginia on the 12th). It's more of a "what have I got myself into?" question. Kinda like what if his mom finds out I'm trans and she saw him all over me... what should I expect and prepare for?

I don't get it? how would sprinkler on your front lawn with no pants tell him your trans? im lost?

[NotThereYet]

I don't get it? how would sprinkler on your front lawn with no pants tell him your trans? im lost?

She is indeed pre-op...

[Alainaluvsu]

She is indeed pre-op...

lol is it THAT obvious?!

[Shantel]

I can understand the way the men are treating you, after all you are an attractive woman and that's normal male behavior. My gut feeling is that your neighbors are ignorant concerning your former situation so it would be smart to discourage any further hugs and touching sending messages via your own body language. Neighbors can be friends and still avoid taking it any further when they understand that their advances are not being well received. I know it's extremely flattering and all women dearly enjoy being cuddled and loved, but you'd be really smart and quite safe in the long run to pass on this seemingly sweet situation and see how things play out when the other woman moves in with you. Their attitude about her, if she's not as passable as you are, will reflect on how they will either accept or reject both of you and the level of any further possibilities with that young fellow. Be smart, play it safe!

Huh, I don't know where I got that last part about a female roommate, must be a case thread blenditis coming on. 

[Beverly]

lol is it THAT obvious?!

It depends on the 'sprinkler'.... you still have yours.....   

(so do I....)

[Alainaluvsu]

I can understand the way the men are treating you, after all you are an attractive woman and that's normal male behavior. My gut feeling is that your neighbors are ignorant concerning your former situation so it would be smart to discourage any further hugs and touching sending messages via your own body language. Neighbors can be friends and still avoid taking it any further when they understand that their advances are not being well received. I know it's extremely flattering and all women dearly enjoy being cuddled and loved, but you'd be really smart and quite safe in the long run to pass on this seemingly sweet situation and see how things play out when the other woman moves in with you. Their attitude about her, if she's not as passable as you are, will reflect on how they will either accept or reject both of you and the level of any further possibilities with that young fellow. Be smart, play it safe!

Huh, I don't know where I got that last part about a female roommate, must be a case thread blenditis coming on. 

Well put and helpful. Thank you

[Isabelle]

lol is it THAT obvious?!

Wait wut........ You're transsexual?

[crazy at the coast]

Wait wut........ You're transsexual?

It could just be a rumor.