Thank you Alyssa.
Some context of the current issues we are dealing with. We both want the relationship to work and my wife is grieving the loss of husband and cursing my female identity. Yet she is accommodating some things and she just recently helped me pick out two outfits for the PTHC. She has agreed for me to have my hair transplanted, a trachea shave (Dr. McGinn said I did not need it as well as my PA) and an orchi. I need my forehead corrected and forehead lowered and correct positioning of my eye brows and I want to see Dr. Spiegel for a second opinion. I mentioned this to her recently.
My wife and I are dealing with her father in long term care and going into hospice for cancer pain management. I promised her I would wear a suit for the funeral. She has a lot on her plate and she needs me.
I went to the Therapist, gym, group and a PTHC workshop meeting this week.
Therapist
I did a phone session with my therapist. I discussed my wife helping me pick out two outfits for the PTHC
. She said I am on my own to find woman's size 15 flats. Long tall sally has some. I had in my mind a limit on how feminine I would ever present and flats and pink very feminine tops were on the I will not cross line. Well I am crossing the self imposed limit. It feels good, not to wear the cloths but for some reason it is a feeling of freedom.
I discussed I get invited to a lot of things such as going out for shots (I can not even think this or be around alcohol), going to another group, a pool party and one girls house and coffee with a bunch of girls after group. I keep saying no. I would not mind going to the other group though. I just can not get coffee afterwards and I probably could only stay for 1 hour of the second group (I get up 3:15 for work).
Gym
My trainer moved me up another step and introduced all new core exercises. I was stressed to the limit
She had sent me Lauren Grace's interview and music to listen to. My trainer is very empowering.
I reviewed with my trainer that some guy was hitting on me in the locker room. He started talking to me as I was getting changed. I was nice to him until the voice in my head said oh poop he is hitting on me. Then I was cool to cold to him and just got changed and left to work out. She said always listen to the little voice in my head.
Group
Group was packed with no seats left. We had a fantastic group and we really helped each other. We discussed patriarchal issues, diversity issues, the trans rift in the Philly trans community and being treated differently by males at work and in the community when we disclose or express.
Workshop
We will have a fantastic workshop for the PTHC. We are about done with all the preparation