What to do when you see someone using your partner.

[Button]

OK, I hate Andi's friend Sam, I always have but I tolerated him since Andi had known him from College and although he was always me, me, me, I could put up with it because it seemed like he was OK to Andi and so it goes....

However Sam has really annoyed me he is so so so gross and Andi is out at work doing what she does best and this jerk tries it on with me, really after everything Andi has done for him and this is the reward for that loyalty. Honestly I slapped him right across that dumb head of his. Then the threats began. Who do you think Andi will believe he chimed, I will just say you came onto me.

Then I lost it, It is one thing to try but to blackmail me so I kicked him out of the house rang Andi and let her know what had happened and I am really putting my foot down now on this one.

Andi was so shocked and upset but said she trusted me 100% and confided in me that while that Jerk was drunk the other night, he told Andi that she was a freak who needed help and "be a man" Which explains the standoffish attitude since Andi confronted him the next day and the answer was "Oh I was just drunk and can't even remember what was said".

Anywho I have had enough as far as I am concerned anyone who comes close to hurting my Andi will have my full wrath so Sam officially you are never, ever coming back into my line of sight again.

Ohhh how mad this person makes me.

OK rant over, I will update when I see Andi later.

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[DeeperThanSwords]

Wow, what a jerk!

Both of you are better off without him!

[spacial]

As someone who was a doormat for many years, I can say that there is nothing you can do.

Doormats just need to learn to stand up and walk away.

I think, (I hope), this bully has finally crossed the line. I hope Andi knows that. I think, once Andi accepts that point, she will start to figure everything else.

But I'm sorry to say, again, speaking as one of those who didn't get it, only she can do it.

[yellowsub11]

Oh sweetie - that would totally piss me off to no end! Holy cow! What kind of crap did he think he was going to get away with!  I am so glad that you had the gumption to put that ass in his place.  That kind of crap does not belong in either one of your lives.

You & Andi seem to have a really great thing hun. I know it's hard to let old friends go sometimes but people like him are NOT her friend. Hopefully she sees that with the comment he made that he claims he was too drunk to remember coupled with him coming on to you like that... Friends don't do that... That is NOT a friend.. I don't care how drunk he was.. those words came from somewhere and to me, show his real feelings...   

This guy sounds like a real piece of work.....

[Button]

Well it's 4:17am here in good old NZ and I promised an update so here it is.

Andi has in no uncertain terms dumped the jack ass. It wasn't anything about what was said or done but although an admirable quality sometimes Andi is overtly generous with her time, money and emotions but never cross a cancer.

So Sam had the nerve to come back over to the house or so I thought. Andi had asked him to come over and then i witnessed Andi dismiss her "friend" in no uncertain terms. There was no mercy shown, things Andi said about this douche and how she knew that he had used my Sister and my Sister is a goodness to gracious PhD student. So a smart girl as Andi put it who did stupid things. Just on that point my sister used to be in a really dark place and Andi took her under her wing starting with rides to uni, then work, then it took some time but she just brightened up.

So the cat was out of the bag this person as Andi said was trash and not welcome in our lives anymore. "But I don't have any place to go" Sam yelled and Andi bless her just said softly that is not my problem now, it can't be my burden, if you don't leave
I will call the cops to have you removed.
Sam left, Andi burst into tears "I'm so sorry Lee, she said Sam's parents had begged Andi to try and help him after he was kicked out of home, Andi being who she is took the burden on and then my sister confided in her about what had happened and it got harder for Andi to just look at him and then This and the drunken incident.

I could see Andi had been told by many to keep big secrets for
Them which she had tried to do but this was just to much.

Anyway Andi went to the freezer and pulled out a tub of cookie dough ice cream and two spoons and we lay on the couch together, watched the block and fell asleep in each others arms but I've promised not to let my sister know that I know about her mistake as she would be devastated and I'm OK with keeping that to myself now.

Thanks for your guys comments, as I write this I'm watching Andi sleeping right next to me she looks at peace which is probably a good thing since she will be up and getting ready in less than an hour for her business.

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[DeeperThanSwords]

Take care of eachother. *big hug*

[spacial]

I'll sleep well now as well. That was a wonderful read Button. I'm so pleased for you.